I've nc because I expect I may be flamed.
So my dm very kindly a couple of years ago stated to all my 3 dc that on their 21st birthday she'd buy them a car. My dc said that there was no need but she insisted and said that this is what she wants to spend her money on.
My eldest dc turned 21 a couple of years ago and received a car for her birthday from my dm. My dm reiterated to my second dc that she would be getting a car for her 21st in a couple of years as well.
My second dc is now turning 21 next month. She hasn't yet passed her driving test because she suffers from nerves and has made silly mistakes on her test but is a very good driver during her lessons and when I've taken her out in my car. She finishes university in a couple of months and is planning on doing one of those intense courses and then dedicating her summer to passing. Rather than wait a couple of months to give her a chance to pass, dm has said that she won't be getting a car because she should have passed already so she no longer deserves it. Instead, she said she's going to buy dd some expensive jewellery. Dd isn't interested in jewellery and never wears it which I told dm because I didn't want her to waste her money but she insists that she will buy her this and won't budge.
Dd has said that she's very grateful for the offer of a car and would rather have no birthday present until she passes her test and could then receive a car from dm.
She has a job starting after summer where it will make her life much easier if she can drive to it and won't be able to afford a car on her own until at least a year into work.
My youngest dc passed their test recently and my DM said to them that they'd be receiving a car on their 21st.
Aibu to think that DM is treating dd unequally and should buy her a car when she passes rather than give her a present that she has no interest in.
I know none of them have the right to a car and DM is being very generous and it is kind of her. I just think that she is treating her dc's unequally
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To think dd is being treated unfairly by her grandma
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Frogsring · 30/03/2019 06:21
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