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To buy an "ethnic" doll for a 5 year olds birthday present?

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elf1985 · 29/03/2019 17:40

Now please don't flame me if I use the wrong words I am in a tizzy about this.

So my daughter is invited to a friend from receptions birthday party tomorrow. The girl has a very British sounding name, But i couldn't tell you which child it was from the class. Today I bought her a present for my LG to give her. I looked at dolls and decided on the one with a purple dress as my LG loves purple. This doll instead of being your typical barbie, is a darker skin tone (ethnically ambiguous would probably be the best way to describe it). My husband then tells me that the LG is actually Pakistani and he thinks its inappropriate and potentially insulting. Who is wrong here? I honestly don't think it makes a difference but how he has me worried.

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KindergartenKop · 29/03/2019 17:41

It's a doll, it's not insulting. The parents would probably appreciate it tbh.

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elf1985 · 29/03/2019 17:42

Thank you. I thought if anything it would be the other way around. Insulted by the blonde haired doll.

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MrsFionaCharming · 29/03/2019 17:43

I lead a course for a group of preteen girls a while ago, where they each got one of those crying dolls to look after for a week.

We put all the dolls out, and let the girls pick their own. Without any discussion or input, they all ended up with the doll who’s skin tone most closely matched their own.

I think the little girl will really appreciate a doll that looks more like her.

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DrIrisFenby · 29/03/2019 17:44

No I don't think that's insulting. I have been known to write 'DD chose this herself' inside cards before when she was adamant that she wanted something I thought wasn't ideal!!

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mumwon · 29/03/2019 18:02

its fine - & dc your giving it too will love it -

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formerbabe · 29/03/2019 18:08

My dd is mixed race. I wouldn't be at all insulted by your gift.

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elf1985 · 29/03/2019 18:11

Thank you thank you! My husband is being an arse, trying to wind me up.

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Bobbycat121 · 29/03/2019 21:07

wow why does he think this would be insulting exactly? Hmm

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Brainfogmcfogface · 29/03/2019 21:15

My daughter is mixed face and was brought brown skinned barbies for her birthday, I thought it was nice that they had put extra thought into getting my daughter dolls that looked like my her personally.

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Brainfogmcfogface · 29/03/2019 21:15

*race

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DailyMailFail101 · 29/03/2019 21:17

As somebody who isn’t white with blonde hair, I used to prefer dolls that looked like me, my mum would hunt around for dolly’s with my skin tone which was hard in the 80s and 90s. I think it’s a brilliant gift!

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RoboticSealpup · 29/03/2019 21:18

I think it's great.

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littlemoon86 · 29/03/2019 21:19

I don’t think that’s offensive at all! I’m sure the little girl would love a doll that looked like her.

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