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Jalila07 Wed 27-Mar-19 14:35:14

Hi, in a desperate attempt to find relief from Brexit, we’re here having lunch and discussing my friend’s date last weekend.

Ladies of MN, please may we put it to you for the casting vote as we’re in some disagreement. To cut a longish story short, the date had gone well until they were on Charing Cross Rd and his Uber came first so he got in it and just left my friend standing on the street!

Now he’s texting her to meet again. She’s inclined to not bother, I feel as if I agree with her, but two others here think she should give him another chance (citing excuses such as traffic, it’s hard for cabs to stop, etc).

WIBU? Shouldn’t he have called her a cab and seen her off before just sailing off into the night? By the way, we are all early 40s so she can’t be bothered messing about.

Thankyou in advance.

milienhaus Wed 27-Mar-19 14:37:05

If she’d also already called an uber and it was moments away then NU, otherwise quite strange behaviour.

Superfragile Wed 27-Mar-19 14:37:09

So it would be OK for her to get in the cab and leave him standing on the street?? Was it particularly late/dark/rough area?

AlaskanSnow Wed 27-Mar-19 14:37:27

For me it would depend on the time of night/business of area.

In darkness, in a quiet area - she should have gone first, or he could have let the meter run on his to make sure she got off ok.

In Daylight, in an area with a lot of foot traffic - I dont see why if it was specifically his car that arrived first.

cherrryontop Wed 27-Mar-19 14:37:27

His Uber would have been assigned to his bank and account and his address?

I don't think he was unreasonable to get in his Uber?

YogaWannabe Wed 27-Mar-19 14:37:39

I wouldn’t see him again.
Someone I was seeing did this when I was about 18 and I ended it.

Lots will disagree I’m sure but we all have our own expectations and this obviously didn’t meet hers.

adaline Wed 27-Mar-19 14:38:30

Why can't she wait on her own for a minute?

Myheartbelongsto Wed 27-Mar-19 14:38:34

She's a grown woman fgs

Sirzy Wed 27-Mar-19 14:39:23

So they had both ordered taxis to go their own separate ways, his came first so he went. Can’t see an issue with it personally!

blackteasplease Wed 27-Mar-19 14:39:51

I wouldn't see him again.

When I was younger I would have let this go in the name of "equality". But not now.

SilverySurfer Wed 27-Mar-19 14:39:54

Is your friend disabled or was it the middle of the night? If not, I assume she was capable of hailing/calling for a taxi so I don't really see the issue.

Gomyownway Wed 27-Mar-19 14:40:42

When you book an Uber it’s attached to your bank details, and you give them your destination address.

Wouldn’t really be fair on the uber driver to leave him waiting either.

Your friend is Unreasonable.

MiddleClassProblem Wed 27-Mar-19 14:41:16

If it’s an Uber he would be paying for the journey and the journey is accepted on his destination not hers...

Namechangeforthiscancershit Wed 27-Mar-19 14:41:18

I don't understand. You can't just swap Ubers can you unless he's going to pay for hers.

So what should he have done? Waited for hers to turn up? Is that the point?

WhoKnewBeefStew Wed 27-Mar-19 14:41:41

No I wouldn’t see him again.

There’s no way in hell my dh would have ever left me standing on my own. It’s just rude. I know others will disagree and yes, she’s a grown woman etc, but I’d just see it as bloody rude tbh

Jalila07 Wed 27-Mar-19 14:41:43

No he didn’t call her a cab before his own. He just called his, so she had to call her own and then his came first so he buggered off.

Now he wants her to traipse to Hampstead (where he lives) on the weekend, but I bet he won’t send a cab for her. We think this is a “red flag.”

SilverySurfer Wed 27-Mar-19 14:42:22

What's next? men having to wear capes to place on the ground so the woman can walk over puddles? hmm

MiddleClassProblem Wed 27-Mar-19 14:42:23

Why did he need to call her a taxi?

BusterTheBulldog Wed 27-Mar-19 14:42:43

The Uber is linked to bank account and he’d have put his details in, so his Uber would be expected to go to his house. To swap they’d both need to cancel and rebook which seems silly.

Gomyownway Wed 27-Mar-19 14:42:48

You can’t order two Uber’s at once

She’s a woman in her 40s. Why is she unable to get her own taxi?

Dungeondragon15 Wed 27-Mar-19 14:43:11

It depends on where he left her. If it was a busy area with loads of people around then fine. If not, then I wouldn't wanted to see him again if I was her.

LittleKitty1985 Wed 27-Mar-19 14:44:02

I'd have been annoyed if he had insisted on waiting for me to get my cab first, because it would imply that I'm some kind of weak vulnerable creature that needs a man to protect me at all times!

elizzza Wed 27-Mar-19 14:44:16

If it was a queue of cabs at a taxi rank and he jumped in the first one then yes, a bit rude. But as they were both waiting for Ubers they had separately ordered, on Charing Cross Road so not a dangerous or secluded area, then I think he was fine and your friend IBU. Was he supposed to leave his Uber driver waiting and possibly holding up traffic? This seems like a very strange reason not to see someone you like again.

BusterTheBulldog Wed 27-Mar-19 14:44:29

Do you use Uber op? It’s not like calling a cab, you have an app linked to your own details, I would request one for me and Tbh, id expect anyone in London would then order their own via their own app?

bingoitsadingo Wed 27-Mar-19 14:44:30

Why on earth should he have called her a cab? Unless there's a massive drip feed surely she can speak on the phone or order her own uber?

I wouldn't be bothered being left in that situation, if it was a quiet area in the middle of nowhere that would be different, but in touristy central London it wouldn't bother me at all.

SilverySurfer Wed 27-Mar-19 14:44:32

He won't send a cab for her

Why the fucik should he? Is she going to send a cab for him when he goes to her house.

Seriously, have we slipped back a couple of centuries overnight and I haven't noticed?

GrumpyInsomniac Wed 27-Mar-19 14:44:34

It's an Uber. Seriously. And on a very busy road. If he had flagged a black cab and then got in and left her on the side of the road, that would BU. But that's not how Ubers work.

If she feels unable to wait a minute or two on her own at the side of a busy street in the West End until her Uber arrives, she had only to ask him to wait with her until gets arrived so she felt more secure. Communication. Absolutely key.

If the rest of the date was good, far better to see him again, talk and let him know what the expectations are. And if she doesn't like the answer she can ditch him then, but until that point I'd give him the benefit of the doubt.

pootyisabadcat Wed 27-Mar-19 14:44:48

Why doesn't she call her own cab? I'd find someone who called me a cab a creep, like those men who try to order for you in a restaurant. Nope.

Waveysnail Wed 27-Mar-19 14:45:09

Depends how it happened. Who said call it a night? Did they ask each other how they are getting home? No I wouldn't expect him to call a taxi for me

bingoitsadingo Wed 27-Mar-19 14:45:32

And tbh at the age of 40 I'd be quite insulted if someone thought I couldn't be left alone in central London.

Gomyownway Wed 27-Mar-19 14:45:38

Why should he send a cab for her? Why is it his responsibility to organise her transport?

cherrryontop Wed 27-Mar-19 14:46:04

There’s no way in hell my dh would have ever left me standing on my own. It’s just rude. I know others will disagree and yes, she’s a grown woman etc, but I’d just see it as bloody rude tbh

So if the situation is reversed and a woman left a man waiting for their cab, is that rude?

Honestly this is ridiculous. Grown adults are capable of ordering and waiting for a cab.

RosaWaiting Wed 27-Mar-19 14:46:56

On Charing Cross Road? He didn't have time to wait.

perhaps the whole thing was badly thought out but two adults can organise their own cabs.

WhiteDust Wed 27-Mar-19 14:47:11

No he didn’t call her a cab before his own. He just called his, so she had to call her own and then his came first so he buggered off.

He can't just 'delay' an UBER.
Did she want him to stand next to it until her cab came?
Did she expect expect him to call a cab for her, wait for it to arrive and only then call and wait for his own cab?

Sounds ridiculous! YABU.

mummmy2017 Wed 27-Mar-19 14:47:37

No I don't think he did wrong, first date and all. As were you expecting him to pay her cab fare?.
Everyone goes on about paying their own way and bay wanting doors opened, then complains when treated as an equal.
If the taxi thing is enough to stop your friend going on a second date, and the traveling to his is another red flag, then tell her to decline the invite.

LeekMunchingSheepShagger Wed 27-Mar-19 14:48:08

Fuck me have I woken up in 1950?

BusterTheBulldog Wed 27-Mar-19 14:48:13

‘He won’t send a cab’ 😂😂 are his horse and carriage in for servicing?

Your friend is the red flag op! She doesn’t have to go, or y’know, could suggest another location if she can’t get to his suggestion. Jeez, poor guy!

pasturesgreen Wed 27-Mar-19 14:48:32

No, I wouldn't see him again either. I have standards, and it's just common courtesy not to leave your date standing like a lemon on the side of the road to swan off on your merry way.

TheYoungOffendersMum Wed 27-Mar-19 14:48:37

Send a cab for her? Is this the olden times? People have these things called cars, this invention called public transport, and something else called personal dignity. No way would I expect someone to send for a cab for me to bring me somewhere. How weird for modern times.

LittleKitty1985 Wed 27-Mar-19 14:48:51

Now he wants her to traipse to Hampstead (where he lives) on the weekend, but I bet he won’t send a cab for her. We think this is a “red flag.”

Is this for real?? Why on earth should he do this? London has an amazing transport network that will get her there easily, cheaply and safely. I've been on hundreds of dates in London and have never had a guy send a taxi for me because it would be ridiculously unnecessary!

cardibach Wed 27-Mar-19 14:48:56

I don’t understand why he should send a cab for her to go to Hampstead at the weekend. If I want to go somewhere, I organise my own transport. So should she! If she doesn’t want to go, she doesn’t need to.

ColeHawlins Wed 27-Mar-19 14:49:29

You think he should send a cab for her to retrieve her to his place in Hampstead?

Is she an eighteenth century Parisian courtesan? confused

Usernumbers1234 Wed 27-Mar-19 14:49:52

Uber’s a big part of this.

1) it’s account linked, so she kind of wants him in his own Uber, before he disappears off to Cornwall for a day trip on her.

2) being Uber, she knows where her vehicle is and that it’s on it’s way.

Taxi, different ball game, but unless her Uber had gone missing, was 20 mins away, I can’t see why he would have stayed nor why she would have wanted him to

Either way, it’s not the make or break of whether to see him again, if she’s looking for an excuse just don’t bother

Jalila07 Wed 27-Mar-19 14:50:05

Yes it’s a good point that you may not be able to order two Ubers at the same time. But still, do you not think he should have got her one rather than just sorting himself?

Also, he knows she has no car, so why expect her to travel to north London when he could organise something more centrally or go her way?

She hasn’t dated since her divorce and she’s very unsure. Apart from transport weirdness, she thinks he seems nice.

cherrryontop Wed 27-Mar-19 14:50:08

No, I wouldn't see him again either. I have standards, and it's just common courtesy not to leave your date standing like a lemon on the side of the road to swan off on your merry way.

But if a woman's cab arrived first and she left the man waiting that would be ok I assume? hmm

BlueMerchant Wed 27-Mar-19 14:50:25

He should have seen her call a cab and at least know it was on it's way before he took off. He should then have called her and asked to know when she had been picked up.

WhiteDust Wed 27-Mar-19 14:50:25

Also...
Now he wants her to traipse to Hampstead (where he lives) on the weekend, but I bet he won’t send a cab for her. We think this is a “red flag.”

Why the hell should he order her a cab to get to their next meeting point?!

I think you're winding us up OP!

TrixieFranklin Wed 27-Mar-19 14:51:26

What the fuck? Your friends off her rocker.

FenellaMaxwell Wed 27-Mar-19 14:51:47

It’s HAMSPTEAD, not darkest Peru! I’m going to hazard a guess that you don’t go to London much, OP?

pootyisabadcat Wed 27-Mar-19 14:52:02

Eh? Send a cab for her? She's the red flag. It would bother me that after just one date the other person wants me to go to their area rather than meeting somewhere that's equidistant for both, that type of laziness would put me off and I wouldn't go, but lay on transport for me? Creepy.

FrancisCrawford Wed 27-Mar-19 14:52:02

He called an Uber using his account. Can’t see the issue with that. Two adults meeting, each pays their own way home. Perfectly normal. It’s not like calling a cab, because the Uber is linked to your account. Presumably she has a phone and is capable of phoning for a cab or an Uber herself?

Now he wants her to traipse to Hampstead (where he lives) on the weekend, but I bet he won’t send a cab for her. We think this is a “red flag.”

Why do you think he should “send a cab” for her? Isn’t she capable of arranging her own transport? I don’t know Hampstead, but am going to hazard a guess it is serviced by some form of public transport that she could use?

If I was the bloke, I’d be seeing red flags about an adult who appears to expect men to pay for her.

ColeHawlins Wed 27-Mar-19 14:52:02

* Also, he knows she has no car, so why expect her to travel to north London when he could organise something more centrally or go her way?*

Nipping all over London by public transport to socialise is quite normal.

But if she would prefer to meet centrally, she should say so.

IvanaPee Wed 27-Mar-19 14:52:12

Yes it’s a good point that you may not be able to order two Ubers at the same time. But still, do you not think he should have got her one rather than just sorting himself

What’s wrong with her that she’s unable to get an Uber? It’s the easiest thing in the world to do.

Also, why the fuck would he send a cab for her? He invited her to his. She can say no.

This is absolutely ridiculous!

reallybadidea Wed 27-Mar-19 14:52:52

I think the date would be well advised not to see your friend again, she sounds like a princess and a bit bonkers.

IvanaPee Wed 27-Mar-19 14:53:11

If he was my friend I’d be telling him to run for the hills!

Entitled, high-maintenance, batshit!

HappyPunky Wed 27-Mar-19 14:53:15

I wouldn't see someone again who did that on a first date. Not that I cant wait for a taxi alone and if I was with a female friend we'd go if ours came first but you read so much about how relationships go downhill following the honeymoon period it would give me the impression that he put himself first without any consideration.

LaurieFairyCake Wed 27-Mar-19 14:53:31

I think this might seem reasonable to 'send a cab' if you don't live in London.

If she lives in London then it's normal to choose where to meet -Hampsteads great so they've chosen there and it's dead easy to get to.

If she doesn't want to travel to meet him then they could have chosen somewhere centrally confused

It seems fine to meet at his manor, then next date meet at hers - then they can both show each other their 'areas' (fnarr fnarr) before the next date centrally

I can't fathom why it's weird he got in his taxi and left her unless she's from outside London. Completely safe area confused

missmoz Wed 27-Mar-19 14:53:51

I really wouldn't have noticed this...would expect an adult of either gender to be able to make their way home unless very drunk

IvanaPee Wed 27-Mar-19 14:53:57

OMG! His Uber came first. To Charring Cross. He did nothing wrong.

ColeHawlins Wed 27-Mar-19 14:54:15

As for the Uber, I hate Uber and won't use it, but it's easy enough to hail a cab in that part of London. Or stroll to Leicester Sq.

Genderwitched Wed 27-Mar-19 14:54:27

Maybe he could have waited for hers to turn up before ordering his, but to be honest it was Charing Cross Road and not the back of beyond. I would have got the tube.

This is certainly not 'red flag' territory, not even close. She may well have to lower her expectations, nobody's perfect!!

As for Hampstead Heath, it's lovely there, perfectly good tube station. How on earth does she normally get around?

Jalila07 Wed 27-Mar-19 14:54:32

So far the votes seem to be 50/50?

SallyWD Wed 27-Mar-19 14:54:59

I don't see why your friend who's a fully grown woman in her 40s seems so dependent on this man arranging her transport home on the first date? It's up to her to book a taxi. Has she never stood for a few minutes on her own before? How strange.

FenellaMaxwell Wed 27-Mar-19 14:55:02

I don’t get why you expect him to ‘summon a carriage’ for her. Nobody has a car in London. That’s why there’s the tube. Is this your friend, OP?

Dollywilde Wed 27-Mar-19 14:55:08

Jfc you and get sound like hard work.

Hampstead is on the bloody northern line. Get a grip.

MiddleClassProblem Wed 27-Mar-19 14:55:10

Most of us don’t travel across London in a car... it’s not an odd assumption. And however we get anywhere most of us can organise our own transportation...

pootyisabadcat Wed 27-Mar-19 14:55:11

Yes it’s a good point that you may not be able to order two Ubers at the same time. But still, do you not think he should have got her one rather than just sorting himself?

No, because Uber is linked to your bank account! Why should he pay for her transport?

I do agree about meeting some place equidistant early on, and for this reason I wouldn't bother seeing him again, but the whole car thing it ridiculous! It's LONDON, you can use public transport.

IvanaPee Wed 27-Mar-19 14:55:13

Are you on a wind up?!

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 Wed 27-Mar-19 14:55:41

It really is up to the individual to get themselves safely to and from their dates, sorry.

And whats with the "I bet he won't send a cab for her"? What on earth is stopping her from arranging her own transport?

If she doesn't want to go to Hampstead just fucking say so and suggest somewhere else instead. Your friend sounds like hard work.

timeisnotaline Wed 27-Mar-19 14:55:50

Doesn’t everyone order their own uber? Isn’t that the point?
And why would he send a cab for her?! I’m 36 and married and I wouldn’t expect my own husband to ‘send a cab’ for me (in circumstances where that might be relevant) because I can book my own uber in 30 seconds.

radishingravish Wed 27-Mar-19 14:55:55

I am sure your friend is very capable of ordering her own taxi and traveling to Hampstead on her own. If Hampstead is too far for her to go then she can say that and judge by his response whether it is a 'red flag'.

IvanaPee Wed 27-Mar-19 14:56:25

I don’t think it’s 50/50 hmm

JellyBaby666 Wed 27-Mar-19 14:56:49

Send a cab for her? Where does she live? Is she an invalid? Can she not get a train?!

If she thinks its too far, then just say 'X is a lovely place for lunch, I'd love to go with you if you fancy meeting somewhere central?' honestly, he might know a local place he loves? Bloody hell.

BlueSkiesLies Wed 27-Mar-19 14:56:58

His Uber came first. He got in it. That’s how it works.

Jesus Christ some women are ducking useless at life.

Jalila07 Wed 27-Mar-19 14:56:59

She lives in Chelsea, so the point about the Uber was that he could easily hi her way this weekend. Or neutral territory. But no, he wants her to go to Hampstead, knowing she has no car. Ok she can get her own Uber or the tube, but this is not a great impression really is it? Or not?

MiddleClassProblem Wed 27-Mar-19 14:57:05

What if he ordered her a cab and she then has to pay cab prices when she was hoping to save money in public transport?

Why is she giving out her home address for him to arrange all these taxis for her?

Red flags all over but not for him!

lillymunster Wed 27-Mar-19 14:57:35

It would depend on the way he actually behaved. Ordering Ubers in London often ends up being a bit of a rush, you order one and sometimes it's there really quickly, trying to stop somewhere it's not supposed to so you can get in and they get very ratty if you keep them waiting. In this situation I'd expect the guy to be saying are you ok getting home, have you got transport sorted? Are you happy to wait here for your Uber as mine is here? I'd only not want to see the guy if he just ordered himself one and seemed completely disinterested in whether I'd be able to get home ok.

mimibunz Wed 27-Mar-19 14:58:04

The gentlemanly thing to do would be to wait for her to be safely in her taxi. Not because she was in danger, but because that’s what gentlemen do.

amusedbush Wed 27-Mar-19 14:58:36

But still, do you not think he should have got her one rather than just sorting himself?

What are you not getting about this, OP?? Uber is linked to your bank account directly, so if he had ordered one for her he would have been charged for it. Why should he pay for her entire fare home?

BlueSkiesLies Wed 27-Mar-19 14:58:48

OMG well now you’ve said she doesn’t have a car in London, and is being asked to go to Hampstead - that changes everything. Or not. Fucks sake people like you are pathetic.

multiplemum3 Wed 27-Mar-19 14:58:55

A grown woman can't manage to get her own taxi, she needs a man to organize her transportation for their next visit? How the fuck does she cope with day to day life?

Justawaterformeplease Wed 27-Mar-19 14:58:56

If he’d ordered her an Uber, he would have had to stand there waiting until she’d been dropped off before he was able to order one to take him home. He would also have had to ask for her address, which might seem intrusive on a first date. It’s 2019! People (both men and women) make their own way to and from dates!

FrancisCrawford Wed 27-Mar-19 14:59:08

So far the votes seem to be 50/50?

No, they don’t.

Majority think your friend is precious, unprepared to get herself home (something she should have thought about before meeting him as a basic security thing) and that she is a red flag for expecting him to “send a cab”. Adult women should be capable of making their own transport arrangements. Especially if they don’t drive and therefore use public transport/cabs/Ubers.

IvanaPee Wed 27-Mar-19 14:59:22

It’s not unreasonable of him to assume a grown woman can get herself home.

Was he holding a gun to her head when he suggested Hampstead? Because it’s easy to say “somewhere more central would suit better”.

Are you both usually total drama queens cause he deserves a medal for wanting round 2!

Sirzy Wed 27-Mar-19 14:59:26

Sounds like she needs to learn to look after herself.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 Wed 27-Mar-19 14:59:29

Has he demanded she go to see him in Hampstead?

or has he suggested?

Theres a huge difference.

cardibach Wed 27-Mar-19 14:59:37

Laurie I have never lived in London and I wouldn’t think it normal to ‘send a cab’.
OP the o oh ‘transport weirdness’ is coming from you and your friend. Use public transport, get a cab, sort yourself and if you don’t like the suggested date venue, suggest a different one.

Genderwitched Wed 27-Mar-19 15:00:04

I don’t think it’s 50/50

Not even close, most people think that your friend is very unreasonable OP smile

Jessgalinda Wed 27-Mar-19 15:00:38

Also, he knows she has no car, so why expect her to travel to north London when he could organise something more centrally or go her way?

Or she could have said....I want to meet at 'x place'

Why is it a red flag that he assumed a grown woman, could call her own cab?

Why didn't she ask to share a cab?

If she cabt be arsed getting the train at the weekend, she tells him no. Or that she would rather meet elsewhere.

It's not for him to provide transport to a grown ass woman.

Jalila07 Wed 27-Mar-19 15:01:27

Well normally you would pay a date’s fare home. It’s not essential, but I think most would. It’s only a few miles, not Scotland.

Now she’s saying it’s not about money. She just found him rude at the end.

multiplemum3 Wed 27-Mar-19 15:01:59

Are you the "friend" op? Would you like mumsnet to teach you how to use uber?

JellyBaby666 Wed 27-Mar-19 15:02:06

40ish minutes from Chelsea/Fulham to Hampstead on the tube - hardly hours on a train?! I am so baffled at what she expects. If she doesn't want to go to Hampstead then say so and suggest an alternative. He isn't obliged to ferry her about to their dates! And I hardly think a cab would be much quicker!

Sirzy Wed 27-Mar-19 15:02:10

Did she pay for his fare home?

PrivateCello Wed 27-Mar-19 15:02:49

You and your friend are either ignorant or high maintenance. In either case, leave the guy alone and let him find some more normal.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 Wed 27-Mar-19 15:02:53

OP it is most certainly not normal to pay a first or second date's fare home.

Can I ask when you last dated?

JellyBaby666 Wed 27-Mar-19 15:03:00

Normally you would pay a date's fare home? Are you kidding!? Years of dating in London, never had a guy pay for me to get home! I have an Oyster card, get my own Uber/we go home together!

NaToth Wed 27-Mar-19 15:03:02

Very bad manners. Strictly speaking, he should have hailed a cab for her and seen her safely home, but in this case I accept that was probably not an option.

Second best option would be to see her safely into her cab before ordering/finding his own.

Next!

radishingravish Wed 27-Mar-19 15:03:05

I am confused OP. Has he asked your friend if she would like to go to Hampstead and she is yet to respond? Or has he told her he wants her to come to Hampstead and meeting elsewhere isn't an option? Because if it is the latter then I understand where you are coming from. But if it is the former then he might just think Hampstead is a nice place for a date (which I agree with - I love Hampstead) and isn't that far from Chelsea.

FrancisCrawford Wed 27-Mar-19 15:03:11

so the point about the Uber was that he could easily hi her way this weekend

You do realise that this statement means she could easily get to his this weekend?

Or is it only easy to go from Hampstead to Chelsea, but impossible the other way around?

Aren’t either of these areas accessible by Tube? Why does it have to be an Uber? As a solo traveller in my 50s I’ve quite happily used both the London and NY undergrounds. It’s not exactly difficult.

WhatToDoAboutWailmerGoneRogue Wed 27-Mar-19 15:03:45

YABVU. He is not responsible for her transport, nor should he be.

You can’t order two Uber’s on the same account, and you can’t order an Uber on your own account for someone else solely to use; they need their own account.

You also can’t “leave the meter running” on an Uber. You’ve already paid for the journey, you get in and go. Oh, and you can’t swap either; she couldn’t have just got it his. It has to be him to the address he had already specified.

It sounds like none of you know how Uber works.

But that’s really by the by. There isn’t an issue here, and you and your friends shouldn’t be trying to push her into thinking there is one.

She is capable of ordering an Uber, and when she does she can see exactly how far away it is and when it will get to her (usually minutes, so she wouldn’t have just been left standing there for ages).

Honestly, you’re being ridiculous.

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