is it me or is this a bit insenstive ?
(48 Posts)looking for mothers day gift for MIL and came across this
www.amazon.co.uk/RED-OCEAN-Promoted-Mothers-Plaque/dp/B00XPVBY1U/ref=sr_1_28?keywords=mothers+day+gifts&tag=mumsnetforu03-21&ie=UTF8&qid=1553606543&sr=8-28
basically implying that if your dont have grandkids wou are a bad mother!!
My mother has grandkids and shes an awful mother!
plus the best mothers in the world may never get to be a grandma due for various reasons such as infertility, child chossing not to have kids, kids being in a same sex relationship and not being able to havekids/adopt, death etc et c
It’s just a gift for an existing Nana. Not a slur on those who don’t have grandkids. Yabu.
No, I think it’s just a way of saying that you think your mum is great.
YABVU. It's just a wooden plaque with a meaningless platitude carved into it. If you don't like it then you don't have to buy it.
I think you are reading a bit too much in to this.
Do you think that nothing ought to be manufactured that isn't 100% inclusive of everyone?
What about all of the "mum" slogan mugs etc? Should they not be made in case it offends those who can't have children?
Come to think about it, perhaps the whole concept of Mother's Day is offensive?
Get a grip.
I love it. I'd love to get that for my own mum but I don't think I'd get it in time now. I'd definitely buy it if I saw it in a shop.
Are you always this easily offended?
There’s always going to be somebody who is offended by the most innocuous thing.
Nice stealth advertising there OP. Are you the seller?
Jesus 🙄 YABridiculouslyU
I'd rather never have grandchildren than be given something that ugly anyway tbh
Yabu - you are usually only shopping for Nanna presents if you have a Nanna to shop for!
It must be a disease or syndrome , the rising levels of sensitivity
I think it's stupid and naff and potentially insensitive. Doesn't mean it shouldn't be sold, as sadly I don't make the rules the world would be an infinitely better place if I did
Really?
I really think you're over thinking this, it's a gift for someone who you feel is the best mum/nana, it's not a spite gift for someone who isn't.
I suppose if you were someone desperately waiting for grandkids I could see how that might strike a raw nerve. By the same town if there was a plaque that said "only the best women get promoted to mums" everyone would throw their arms in the air and declare that as cruel and untrue. Personally, I just see that plaque a dumb and brainless, you're over thinking it.
As the Mother of adult offspring who have not yet made me a Nanna, I can only think, phew at least I've dodged that piece of tat.
surely by your logic thats like saying if i buy my mum a "best mum in the world" or "number one mum" card, it means im saying your mum is shit by comparison? YABU.
I agree that it's 100% tat, but as someone struggling to conceive this does make me feel sad for my mum. She's an amazing mum and would be a fantastic gran. I don't think YBU.
It's tacky and gross though I wouldn't over think it. Wonder what people would say if it said "only the best women get promoted to mothers".
I think for those who are going through the upset and misery of IVF or a diagnosis of infertility, this is upsetting. Someone having kids or grandkids is no sign of their moral or social worth.
It's like a lot of those pieces of tat, though - idiot phrases for idiot people. Why anyone would want to bedeck their house with such tackiness is completely beyond me.
There are indeed lots of reasons why someone might not become a granny in which seeing this plaque for sale might be insensitive. I'm struggling to imagine why those people might be searching for such a thing in the first place, though?
surely by your logic thats like saying if i buy my mum a "best mum in the world" or "number one mum" card, it means im saying your mum is shit by comparison?
Hilarious! My brother (who does not always pay attention like he should) once bought our actual mum a "You're just like a mother to me" card. Now THAT'S insensitive
I think you are reading a bit too much in to this. <--- THIS
Sorry OP but YABU!
I'm upset that I will never be a grandmother, but I didn't want children so I didn't really think that one through to its logical conclusion
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