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Do you hate where you live?

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moumoute Tue 26-Mar-19 09:28:16


whitesoxx Tue 26-Mar-19 09:31:58


babysharkah Tue 26-Mar-19 09:34:01

No do you?

Justmuddlingalong Tue 26-Mar-19 09:34:39


Mari50 Tue 26-Mar-19 09:38:19

It’s a shit hole. Poor amenities, poor performing schools, very deprived socially.....
Unfortunately due to jobs/family etc moving out of the area is almost impossible.

bulbmoment Tue 26-Mar-19 09:40:01

Yes! When I chose this house to rent it appeared like a lovely, quiet middle class area. Now it’s overrun with anti-social behaviour and even drug takers as there is a waste land belonging to the business opposite. Some neighbours are very loud and quite anti-social themselves. Others are just intrusive and involve themselves in my life a lot. One is currently being passive aggressive because my grass has grown a bit since winter. I can’t wait to leave!

SwimmingJustKeepSwimming Tue 26-Mar-19 09:40:33

Yes and no. Wish we had the means to move.

moumoute Tue 26-Mar-19 09:41:02

Oh and where is it?

moumoute Tue 26-Mar-19 09:42:28

@bulbmoment @mari50 @swimmingjustkeepswimming where do you guys live?

keepingbees Tue 26-Mar-19 09:42:39

Yes. It's scruffy, no amenities apart from supermarkets, and the people are cliquey and strange.

SwimmingJustKeepSwimming Tue 26-Mar-19 09:45:43

My wider area is lovely and I l0ve this part of England. Im just in a tiny ex council house in a v.working class area and Im no longer keen on the school.

Got to an age where people are doing extensions/moving up/ good holidays/saving for uni and we just didnt do so well career wise and it feels so frustrating we cant just choose to move!

PosterPostingPosterishly Tue 26-Mar-19 09:46:36

This is strange...OP has not answered the question herself and is enquiringly where others live.

OP, what town do you live in and do you like it?

evilharpy Tue 26-Mar-19 09:46:42

Yes. There's nothing wrong with it, it's just not for me. I haven't made many friends in the 10 years we've lived here, there's really not much to do, it's just too small and cliquey and even if you want somewhere nice to go for a walk you have to get in a car and drive there. In the next few years I want to move elsewhere.

PosterPostingPosterishly Tue 26-Mar-19 09:47:12

*enquiring (you know what I meant wink)

SweetSummerchild Tue 26-Mar-19 09:51:36

It has good and bad points.

Nice house, good public transport, good neighbours, quiet and low crime, good outdoor spaces

Poor secondary schools (Pay or pray to get a good one), character-less town, expensive

Overall, can’t complain too much. I’ve lived in worse towns/houses.

moumoute Tue 26-Mar-19 10:06:40

I live in Sweden and I don't like it.

araiwa Tue 26-Mar-19 10:08:22


If i did, i would move

Mari50 Tue 26-Mar-19 10:12:05

Ok, if we’re being very general I live in Scotland and I don’t like it. There are many lovely areas to live in Scotland but none of them would work for my situation unfortunately so I’m kinda stuck.....

Home77 Tue 26-Mar-19 10:18:12

I didn't like living in Scotland either (grew up there). Found it unfriendly in some ways and weather not good either. Much prefer it in the south west to be honest.

AdvancedAvoider Tue 26-Mar-19 10:21:27

I used to hate where we lived, I thought I'd love it but the reality was very different so we moved.

I now love where we live. Good transport links, small town with a community feel, great neighbours, fairly good access to entertainment for teens, rural surrounding areas, excellent schools, low crime rates.

carear Tue 26-Mar-19 10:22:39

I thought Sweden would be an awesome place to live! I haven't been there or know anything about it though!

Were you originally from the UK and have moved over there? Why don't you like it?

carear Tue 26-Mar-19 10:24:14

Oh and I absolutely detest where I live. The area is a dump, drugs, anti social behaviour, fly tipping, parking issues, littering, you name it- it's here. I hate my house too. Only good thing is everything is walking distance.

LinoleumBlownapart Tue 26-Mar-19 10:25:50

I wouldn't say I hate it. It's a hard life though, none of the state schools are well funded, everything decent costs a fortune, so there's a massive gap between the rich and the poor. People build without proper planning or following regulations. People cut corners, rip people off and try to get away with it. Everyone moans about what's wrong with it, but given the chance they do the same shit as everyone else.
I live in Brazil

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking Tue 26-Mar-19 10:28:04

Not much these days.

What was once a nice little town has unfortunately got a touch of the South Londons creeping in. Too many charity shops, too many fast food outlets, too many pound stores, , the drugs are creeping in in, more blatently available and the place is full of the stereotype Uber drivers. Actually it's becoming a ghettoised shitsville.

chaoscategorised Tue 26-Mar-19 10:29:25

I live in a Manchester suburb. I love it - nice town centre. But it's expensive and you only have to go half a mile in another direction and it's a very different story.

LinoleumBlownapart Tue 26-Mar-19 10:29:34

carear Sweden is not a warm and friendly. Swedish people can be very cold to outsiders. My grandmother was Swedish and she was always very arrogant about Sweden.
Materialisticaly and aesthetically it's great, but sometimes that doesn't cut the mustard.

Gin96 Tue 26-Mar-19 10:30:16

Love where I live in the uk, lots of work, good schools, great amenities, lots to do for my teenage daughter, the best of both worlds, great country side but also live very close to the city with theatre, cinema, shopping and many other activities available all on my doorstep and if you want something different London is 30 mins on the train

Parker231 Tue 26-Mar-19 10:30:52

No - we live in central London and love everything about our house and neighbourhood but due to Brexit we’re now planning on leaving but can’t work out (agree) on where to move to.

Lyricallie Tue 26-Mar-19 10:33:07

I do and I don’t.

It is very cheap cost of living/renting. We both have very good specialist jobs that would be hard to find anywhere else but it’s very very rural. It’s a 6 hour drive south to the major city I grew up in and I also moved up here after living a couple of years in London. So going from that to this. I miss restaurants that sell more than pub food. I miss my family and friends (although I have friends here).

I think plan is another 4/5 years then head to the central belt. I just feel so ungrateful as everyone is so nice here and help me feel included and I’m just counting down until I can leave.

I do enjoy all the outdoor activities I do that I wouldn’t have as easy as access anywhere else.

CabbageHippy Tue 26-Mar-19 10:34:55

no - why would you live somewhere you hate - why not move?

megletthesecond Tue 26-Mar-19 10:35:01

Although I was ok with it until my last local family member passed away. Now I feel rootless despite living here all my life confused.
Secondaries aren't great and some of my neighbours are a nightmare.

SwimmingJustKeepSwimming Tue 26-Mar-19 10:42:28

Oh Cabbage - money!! Not being able to afford a nicer area.... obvious really!

FookMeFookYou Tue 26-Mar-19 10:42:50

@PlainSpeakingStraightTalking do you live in Kent by any chance... sounds like you are describing the town I moved to nearly two years ago. I'm a South Londoner 😁

LaurieFairyCake Tue 26-Mar-19 11:03:40

No, it's amazing

Beautiful green spaces, loads to do, fantastic transport, lovely people

moumoute Tue 26-Mar-19 11:05:45

@carear you got a good explanation from @linoleumblownapart. It's known to be a safe place with free schools and all. But I will never feel home because of the locals. I am also very tired of live revolving around the cold weather.

moumoute Tue 26-Mar-19 11:08:01

@Parker231 what if Brexit doesn't happen? Is there any solution to stay? You will miss London wherever you go especially if you are happy there!

Parker231 Tue 26-Mar-19 11:15:35

@moumoute - we will probably still leave although we talked about it so much, I’m no longer certain what is and isn’t a good idea. I have an EU passport although I’ve lived in the UK since I was five. DH is French Canadian and came to the UK as a student. As so glad now that we didn’t get UK passports. DT’s were born here and are in UK Uni’s although neither plan on getting jobs here. I work for an international company and can work anywhere but DH is a doctor so some limitations on where he is qualified to work.

carear Tue 26-Mar-19 12:00:50

moumoute linoleumblownapart wow, really didn't know that or even think that it would even be like that. How strange. I could understand why you'd feel fed up after awhile. I guess there's good and bad in every place you live.

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