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To tell 12yold the real meaning

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Crockof Mon 25-Mar-19 20:00:54

Year 7. Keep coming back with playground talk which is inappropriate and incorrect. We have a very open relationship and I encourage them to talk to me. Tonight he laughed and said I just teabagged the dog. I questioned what he said and he says that everyone says it at school and he thinks it means to sit on. I hated being made to feel stupid by not knowing stuff at school (I was very innocent) but equally don't want to project. Wibu to tell him what it means?

Bookridden Mon 25-Mar-19 20:01:56

What does it mean????

kimlo Mon 25-Mar-19 20:03:17

no, I wouldn't thats too far. But I would tell him it doesn't mean to sit on.

Samind Mon 25-Mar-19 20:03:39

I think they pick up a lot of information in the playground! Depends if you want him to carry the real answer back to his friends

Whatififall Mon 25-Mar-19 20:03:41

You definitely need to tell him.

Imagine if he said it to a teacher in the context he thinks it means, he’d be in so much trouble.

reallygrumpytonight Mon 25-Mar-19 20:03:44

I would definitely be honest. I'd rather tell my dc what words mean than hear it from someone else.

Disfordarkchocolate Mon 25-Mar-19 20:04:02

I think you should tell him, its not something you want a teacher overhearing. He'll be very embarrassed though.

Burlea Mon 25-Mar-19 20:05:11

Sorry but I don't know what that means.

Dueinnov19 Mon 25-Mar-19 20:05:24

To jump on someone's face with your balls.

Personally he needs to know but have you got a peer that can tell him like a older brother or uncle....

I remember when I was about 12 I used to call people dildos as an insult..... my brothers girlfriend took me to one side and told me what it was and why it wasnt insulting but silly.... I was mortified but so grateful she told me. I don't have a open relationship like that with my mum so I wouldn't have taken it well if she told me instead

YogaWannabe Mon 25-Mar-19 20:05:57

I definitely would! Have a laugh about it though rather than a serious conversation

nauseous5000 Mon 25-Mar-19 20:06:21

Urban dictionary might be your friend here... tea bagging isn't just sitting on the dog...

titchy Mon 25-Mar-19 20:07:15

Yes of course you should tell him! Imagine the mocking he'll get if he says it, or comments on someone else saying it, and it's clear he doesn't know what it means!

WhoWants2Know Mon 25-Mar-19 20:07:21

It means to squat over someone and dunk testicles into their mouth. Foul term.

I tend to be very blunt about inappropriate language, and explain what things mean in plain terms. So far it seems to deter the kids from repeating the terms.

roundligament Mon 25-Mar-19 20:07:51

No 😂😂😂 don't tell him and have a laugh at his nativity

Someone I know thought dildo was slang for a condom and orgy was short for an orgasm

It would have been interesting hearing her arrange to have sex 🐒

ShaggyRug Mon 25-Mar-19 20:08:02

You have to let him know somehow.

BlackeyedGruesome Mon 25-Mar-19 20:08:32

I tell mine what things mean, within reason. I might tell your ds it is something people do during sex if I were you without elaborating further. You know your kid best though.

SpiritedLondon Mon 25-Mar-19 20:10:49

You could tell him it’s slang for a sex act and suggest he google it (if you can’t stand the thought of being that explicit.)

ShaggyRug Mon 25-Mar-19 20:11:04

At DD’s primary they used to call the bean filled sacks you’d throw in sports day ‘Tea Bags’ blush not a well thought out name.

I was stood in the yard once when two boys were throwing them at each other. One yelled to the other, “I’m gonna tea bag too so hard!!” shock I nearly ruptured something trying not to laugh gringringrin

harrietkatie Mon 25-Mar-19 20:11:17

Does your kid play video games??

As teabagging is also a term they use on certain games

ShaggyRug Mon 25-Mar-19 20:12:01

tea bag *you so hard that should have said blush

hdh747 Mon 25-Mar-19 20:12:38

Well that's me educated.
If you don't tell him he's going to keep using it incorrectly. If you tell him it doesn't mean what he thinks he can easily google it and find out what it does mean. So maybe you would be better telling him. If there's an age-appropriate way of explaining it I haven't worked it out though.

BertieBotts Mon 25-Mar-19 20:12:49

You can't suggest he googles it as an alternative to explaining confused that would be much worse!

Brakebackcyclebot Mon 25-Mar-19 20:13:33

Don't suggest he Googles it! He'll potentially see some horrific porn that way. Which won't make your situation any easier....

I would explain to mine.

ItsAllGone19 Mon 25-Mar-19 20:14:35

I'd also give the information that it's a sex act so not wise to use the term so freely.

If he pushes to know what sex act I think it's better to tell him than for him to Google because that could be a disastrous rabbit hole to wander down at the age of 12!

EmeraldShamrock Mon 25-Mar-19 20:14:59

I am not sure, usually I am very open with things, it is very descriptive.
Mind you I thought a cunt was the weeds around tree's, my older brother told me it was where a dog liked to wee.

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