To be pissed about mothers day...

[jade19]

At the begining of this month my partner was a bonus from work. He will normally take some out of for himself and then get me the rest to put away in case of emergency. He took £300.
We have recently agreed that each month after bills are paid what ever money is left I will split and we can both have money to do what we like with. The only exception is if there is a reason we are short that month or if there are a lot of birthdays all together (For example, July we have 6 birthdays and we are a 1 income family.)
This month we had 3 birthday and mothers day. So when he asked me when his money was being put over I told him i couldn't this month because I had birthdays and mothers day to buy for and he had also had £300 so, he wouldnt miss this month. He suggested that if I gave him some money he would buy all the gifts for his mum and I wouldn't have to worry.
Well two days a go he told me he had forgotten about mothers day and spent the extra money and that he had NOTHING left. He apologised and told me that me and his mum wouldn't be getting anything for mothers.
I am so pissed! I don't care that I won't get a card or gift I'm pissed he said he would do something and he hasn't!
I have now had to dip into our emergency fund/ savings and make sure his mum is sorted.
I don't really think this is a question more of a rant🤣

xx

[Hollowvictory]

I could not be in a relationship with someone that bad with money and that thoughtless. Both highly unattractive traits.

[Beautyfail]

You say you are a 1 income family - is it him that earns the income ? I see your frustration but also think you are being very controlling with the money.

[Tink2007]

I wouldn’t have sorted his mums presents. I would have watched him squirm as he told himself.

[ChoccieEClaire]

Is this money for him to spend on what he chooses or did it go on bills/food etc?

[Chloemol]

Learn from this and don’t agree to this again

[AuntieCJ]

He never had any intention of buying presents. You do realise that?

[jade19]

Yes he is earning the income. We would normally split what is left at the end of the month 50/50 but because he had £300 to spend on what he likes. I thought I could use the money from the end of the month to get our parents decent presents.

[jade19]

AuntieCJ I do now... Which makes me feel even worse. I spend so much time thinking, looking and buying gifts for everyone and I thought he genuinely wanted to help.

[Frenchmontana]

Does he have form for stuff like this?

[Fatted]

I wouldn't buy his mum a present. Make her realise what a selfish oaf she raised.

[Treaclesweet]

Don't get anything for his mum & get yourself something nice! That's a lot of money to fritter away, what's he spent it on?!

[MorelloKisses]

How much are these gifts (no excuse for the thoughtlessness) just wondered

[Mmmmbrekkie]

I’d feel mortified m if I knew my adult children were having marital strife all over buying me a poxy mother’s day present!

[jade19]

Treaclesweet I don't know and I don't know if i want to ask. Because if its something stupid I may flip my lid.

[jade19]

Mmmmbrekie To be honest she probably wouldn't care of he got her something or not, but for me it's the principle.
I havent said anything to him about it xx

[Drum2018]

Why are you concerned about getting his mother a gift? Leave him to explain to her why he hasn't bought her a gift.

[Mmmmbrekkie]

Principle
Schminciple

[IvanaPee]

Are you a SAHM? I’m assuming you’re not married since you call him your dp?

You’re leaving yourself very vulnerable with someone like this...

[jade19]

Ivanapee Yes I am a stay at home mum xx

[IvanaPee]

Do you have plans to return to work? Are you getting married any time soon?

[ilovesooty]

Just get your mother a gift. He should buy for his own mum anyway.

[Joebloggswazere]

You do sound quite controlling though....and what do you mean “buy all the gifts” for his mother? How much do you spend? Won’t a bunch of flowers or a box of chocolates do? I’m sure your emergency fund or what’s left of his bonus could stretch to that?

[Drogosnextwife]

Oh for god sake. OP didn't ask for advice on wether she should get married or not. It's no one else's business wether OP will return to work soon.

[IvanaPee]

Drogo, if OP’s partner can’t be trusted with money whilst she’s in such a precarious financial position then that’s something she should think about.

And it’s whether.

[Drogosnextwife]

@IvanaPee

Aw thanks for the spelling correction. Being dyslexic it happens from time to time but I do apologize for offending you with one missing letter 😂. Or you know you could grow the fuck up?

Like I said that is not what the OP asked. No one has any need to comment on her relationship status.