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AIBU to wonder what DS is doing with cigarette lighters?

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GatherlyGal Mon 25-Mar-19 14:56:37

So of course he is probably smoking BUT I can never smell smoke on either him or his clothes and he has literally loads of lighters - in every pocket, bag etc.

He is being quite challenging at the moment and finds it very easy to fob me off with a lie.

When I ask him he tells me all his friends smoke and that's why he has lighters. Not especially convincing but what am i missing? What is he doing with them??

ShatnersWigIsActuallyAMammoth Mon 25-Mar-19 14:57:30

Oh come ON!

Duckyneedsaclean Mon 25-Mar-19 14:58:25


GatherlyGal Mon 25-Mar-19 14:59:15

May be he is smoking but why can I find lighters everywhere and no evidence of any papers, tobacco, cigarettes etc?

Buster72 Mon 25-Mar-19 14:59:45


GatherlyGal Mon 25-Mar-19 14:59:48

Weed with a pipe maybe?

pallisers Mon 25-Mar-19 14:59:53

Weed - I speak from experience.

GatherlyGal Mon 25-Mar-19 15:00:58

Thanks Buster let's hope its neither of those.

GatherlyGal Mon 25-Mar-19 15:02:45

OK weed.

He's also self-harming so possibly using them to sterilise a blade.

DGRossetti Mon 25-Mar-19 15:56:40

May be he is smoking but why can I find lighters everywhere and no evidence of any papers, tobacco, cigarettes etc?

Some form of vaping ? Bong ?

KylieKoKo Mon 25-Mar-19 16:17:47

I think it's quite easy not to smell of smoke if you are careful about wearing gloves, changing clothes and smoking on well ventilated places (although on mumsnet the line is that all smokers stink strongly of fags even if their last one was 3 days ago and they've showered daily since).

It seems odd that he would be so good at making sure you don't find the cigarettes or papers but leave the lighters everywhere. Do you think he's sniffing lighter fuel?

aLilNonnyMouse Mon 25-Mar-19 16:21:43

I've never smoked in my life and I used to carry around a lighter as a teen. If there is no other evidence maybe believe him for now until something else shows up?

FamilyOfAliens Mon 25-Mar-19 16:24:45

If he’s smoking rollups they don’t smell as bad as straights.

But I’d guess weed as well or instead of rollups.

FriarTuck Mon 25-Mar-19 16:26:29

He's lighting candles in church grin

Leeeeemon36 Mon 25-Mar-19 16:28:32

Inhaling lighter fluid?

ThereIsNoSuchThingAsRoadTax Mon 25-Mar-19 16:31:20

Butane is a very commonly misused substance. People inhale it. And it is very dangerous.

golddustwomen Mon 25-Mar-19 16:32:45

I smoke roll ups. I mentioned that I smoked to some moms on the school run last week and they were all shocked as they had never smelt smoke on me.

Schmoozer Mon 25-Mar-19 16:33:22

Inhaling lighter fuel

TheQueef Mon 25-Mar-19 16:35:50

Crack and heroin can be smoked.

SneakyGremlins Mon 25-Mar-19 16:36:05

I have several lighters. I've never smoked but my friends always lose theirs.

EvaHarknessRose Mon 25-Mar-19 16:40:08


GatherlyGal Mon 25-Mar-19 16:44:39

Inhaling lighter fuel is what I was afraid it might be sad. Maybe weed with a bong but I'm pretty sure I would have found some evidence.

BlueMerchant Mon 25-Mar-19 16:45:37

None of the reasons are likely to be very positive. Is there anyone in the family who could have a chat who he may open up to?

GatherlyGal Mon 25-Mar-19 16:49:14

He's having some counselling but I'm not sure how much he actually opens up.

ferretygubbins Mon 25-Mar-19 16:49:39

If he is anything like I was as a teen he may just want them in case he ever has to light a fire. For similar reasons I always used to have a knife, field dressing and snare wire (only ever was used as a garrote).

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