So, I have a beautiful 15 week old baby boy who obviously I love to bits and he’s amazing and fortunately a really good baby - sleeps well and not at all whingy etc
However, I have him 24/7 - DP has carried on his life with no change basically
He goes to the gym 5 times a week and tonight for example he went off to the pub
I have absolutely no problem with any of this but he won’t look after DS so that I can do anything?!
I do go out for the odd lunch with friends but always take DS with me
I have a horse which I’m not managing to ride and have to do all the stable jobs etc with DS in tow in his pushchair
Whenever I bring the subject up DP tries to make out that I’m trying to stop him doing stuff - I’m not, I just think we both should be able to do things?!
He reckons he doesn’t want to have him in an evening or weekend as that’s his “chill” time - he does work hard yes, but when am I supposed to get any “chill” time? I’m only asking for an hour here and there!
Bearing in mind the horse is at home so he can soon come out to me if there’s a problem
He’s had him a couple of times but if DS so much as grizzles DP comes out shouting at me and I have to go and get DS so it’s honestly more hassle than it’s worth!
I keep trying to discuss this with DP but he just tries to make it out to be that I’m moaning at him for going out etc which I’m not! Or tries to guilt me and say “that’s your little boy, why don’t u want to look after him”?!
It’s all just so one sided - he’d never put up with it if it was the other way round
Also annoying that it was him that really wanted to have this baby - I’ve already got a 17 yo DD from a previous relationship, so I’ve literally started all over again just as she turned independent!
He is out of order isn’t he??
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MH1975 · 22/03/2019 23:16
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