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You're not really a single parent

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jessicawessica Fri 22-Mar-19 22:49:09

One day a week "help" from NRP does make you a single parent.
Tell her to do one.

freddiethegreat Fri 22-Mar-19 22:42:39

IVF & adoption are clearly NOT the only routes to lone parenting, by the way ...

freddiethegreat Fri 22-Mar-19 22:40:04

Well there are resident parents with non-resident co-parents. The amount of co-parenting will vary massively from family to family. There are obviously also non-resident parents with resident co-parents. There is parenting with more or less absent other parents. And there are lone parents, whose children, whether by IVF or single parent adoption have no legal second parent. All are single parents, but there is a difference - & pros & cons to that difference - between ‘ex has the kids once a week or more’ & ‘there is no second parent at all’.

Myoldtable Fri 22-Mar-19 22:38:17

I think there is a difference between being a single parent and a solo parent. I was a solo parent of my dd. Her father had died as had both my parents and I had no siblings. I had a friend whose partner had keft her with 2dds but he had them every other w/end and one night in the week. I felt she had it a lot easier as she was free on alternative w/ends to have a life whereas I had no breaks at all.

TwistinMyMelon Fri 22-Mar-19 22:25:31

What a twat. My ex does 50/50 but I am still a single parent. Block and ignore.

Noodledoodlesandspud Fri 22-Mar-19 22:23:00

I posted a status on Facebook earlier saying in a jokey way how hard it was to have a shower as a single parent. My aunt who lives abroad commented 'well you're not really a single parent are you'.
I asked her to clarify thinking that she might have not realised me and STBXH had separated. She replied well STBXH helps out a lot and what ever happens you still have the boys keeping you together'. I replied saying that actually STBXH only has the boys one day a week and rarely pays maintenance etc and I do everything for my boys. She then said there no need to be like that.
AIBU to be really pissed off that she said that.
Tbh she lives abroad and hasn't seen STBXH since we split and his lovely persona has slipped (he's a manipulative bastard and noone else saw it until after we split and his mask started to slip).

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