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To not pick him up from the airport tomorrow?

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theemmadilemma Fri 22-Mar-19 17:13:25

Can't be arsed to NC.

Relevant details:

He is in short haul EU country (1.5hr max) visiting family including a GP who had a stroke around 3 months ago - recovering well.

I am at home working and looking after dog and cat.

He left Thurs am (up at 6.30am) after a late night and disturbed sleep for both of us for reasons out of our control.

He has since been having lovely lunches in lovely sun...

I am at home holding the fort at usual. I WFH so I'm ok with picking up most home duties.

I don't have a problem on a daily basis with the split of chores.

However, dog is being unusually annoying and over active, I'm trying to work, and do all the usual shit including cleaning the house. I had a crap night sleep last night due to my wonderful but currently arsehole dog.

I won't have any down time tonight really.

And tomorrow I need to clean the the house some more.

AIBU to say that whileI have nothing else meaning I can't. I'm happy to play chef, laundry, cleaner, etc., I'd rather not add being chauffeur at 7pm tomorrow night to do a 1.5 hr journey to save his a £30 Uber he can afford? When I could be supping a wee glass of vino and trying to chill out?


ILiveInSalemsLot Fri 22-Mar-19 17:56:16

Well I’m not surprised you don’t want to pick him up if you do all the cooking and cleaning even while he’s there. What’s up with that?

Ihatehashtags Fri 22-Mar-19 17:57:00

1.5hr drive? No I wouldn’t pick him up

theemmadilemma Fri 22-Mar-19 17:57:19

Of course they'll be a nice meal when he gets home with wine, and a chilled Partner...

DM1209 Fri 22-Mar-19 17:57:57

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itsabongthing Fri 22-Mar-19 17:58:58

Yes not sure AIBU was the right place to post! Collect from the airport, don’t collect from the airport, your choice. But I think sympathy for you will be affected by the fact that a significant proportion of your audience here are sleep deprived parents who can only dream of being able to focus on cleaning the house!

Yabbers Fri 22-Mar-19 18:00:47

I’d be really annoyed if my OH did this when he really had nothing he couldn’t put off. Sends a message that you don’t really care about them.

Bluntness100 Fri 22-Mar-19 18:01:12

God, you make is sound like it's really hard work looking after yourself and two pets. The way you're going on anyone would think you'd been down the mines,

If you can't be arsed picking him up don't. Really. Who would anyone give a shit.

OftenHangry Fri 22-Mar-19 18:02:32

I am so glad my DH isn't like you and picks me up happily after I visited my family while he was working and keeping the house running for a week....
But then. He is actually happy to see me, so that might be the difference, I guess.

mrsdavys Fri 22-Mar-19 18:04:22

You sound like hard work OP

peppaaargh Fri 22-Mar-19 18:05:19

How difficult is the cat? If you don't want to pick him up then don't. But don't go exaggerating how difficult all that stuff is. Sounds like a walk in the park to some of us

Cheap uber that though hmm

theemmadilemma Fri 22-Mar-19 18:07:08

I love AIBU.

I'm hard work is honestly funny. Never ever been called that.

Everyone's issues are proportionate people. I posted for a bit of insight and opinion. Which I got in spades. grin

I'm happy with my very good relationship thanks. We're good to each other in many, many ways.

I figured I was being a bit lazy, but not a complete cunt.

Which seems to be the general opinion.

Drum2018 Fri 22-Mar-19 18:07:15

Regardless of whether you work 20 hours a day or sit on your arse watching Jeremy Kyle all day, you don't have to pick him up. I wouldn't, especially seeing as an Uber only costs him £30.

theemmadilemma Fri 22-Mar-19 18:09:20

Cat is old and is kept away from dog with litter tray that needs a lot of 'attention'.

Dog is young, big and creates havoc.

Both of which are issues of my own choice admittedly.

Tilikum Fri 22-Mar-19 18:10:52


I actually enjoy the time out when it happens. It's just these 2 days have been an unusual nightmare. Which means it's been shit for me here.

Unusual nightmare grin

YABU. Not because you don't want to pick him up; it's fine for him to get a taxi if you're too tired, but because there's a real attitude of resentment and bitterness in your posts. I'm sure your DP would prefer not to have a sick grandparent in another country that he is worried about and needs to visit. You are not the one with the shitty end of the stick here.

theemmadilemma Fri 22-Mar-19 18:10:57

Double checked Uber cost. £29-39 max.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff Fri 22-Mar-19 18:11:15

Three hour round trip? v £30 uber. How much is the petrol costing. Airport sthort stay parking.. YOu also have to time the flight.. how long will it take him to get out of customs, what if its delayed,
Maybe he'd rather step straight into his uber without any hanging around and come home to a chilled partner and as someone said a nice dinner. A £30 uber is sounding better and better value.

My OH would think nothing of getting me out of bed at 1.30 am to pick up from a staion halfway down the line after he was too "merry" to get on the right train or leave in time.. until my grown up DC, commented.. "Even I would get an Uber for that Dad." ... out of the mouth of babes... Strangely I've never been asked since!

PosterPostingPosterishly Fri 22-Mar-19 18:12:44

* I am at home working and looking after dog and cat.*

It's a tough life....🤣🤣🤣

Trills Fri 22-Mar-19 18:13:57

I am often shocked at how often people expect others to put themselves out to do airport runs when they could get a taxi or public transport fairly easily.

YANBU to not go to the airport just because you don't feel like it.

HotpotLawyer Fri 22-Mar-19 18:14:00

I never understand why arriving by plane somehow has a special status that other normal aspects of travel do not.

Especially Heathrow. I can't bear it when relatives (SIL / BIL, DH does not drive) expect me to do the short but 4 hour return trip to pick them up (because....London traffic, waiting, queueing etc) and pay a ton for parking when my airport round trip takes longer than their flight has done and costs more in petrol and parking than a tube ticket. I'll pick them up from the station, no fuss.

It's just travel. He's a grown up, he can sort out his own journey.

theemmadilemma Fri 22-Mar-19 18:14:31

Ugh. My tone is shite and this is even more outing.

I lost one of beloved pets last week. I'm still upset.

So it's just been shit timing.

theemmadilemma Fri 22-Mar-19 18:16:14

@DuckbilledSplatterPuff At last some fucking sense.

DarlingNikita Fri 22-Mar-19 18:18:28

I am at home working and looking after dog and cat.
It's a tough life...

its not like you have a million jobs to do

You make it sound like you have such a hard life when your work from home and have two pets.

See, posts like these sound much more resentful and bitter than anything the OP says.

MandalaYogaTapestry Fri 22-Mar-19 18:20:32

Apart from the practical side, then you come home from a trip it feels nice when someone is there to meet you.

Having said that, 1.5 hra of driving would cost around £15 in petrol. Plus airport parking if there is no free pick up zone. So Uber will be only marginally more expensive. Is it really just £30?

sagradafamiliar Fri 22-Mar-19 18:20:37

He has since been having lovely lunches in the lovely sun.

I find this relevant. You sound resentful and like a martyr. He's been visiting his sick family. You haven't been running round after kids- you've got a couple of pets. Pick him up or don't put don't build up a put-upon image to justify it. Just choose what you want to do.

sagradafamiliar Fri 22-Mar-19 18:22:02

But don't*

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