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To not pick him up from the airport tomorrow?

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theemmadilemma Fri 22-Mar-19 17:13:25

Can't be arsed to NC.

Relevant details:

He is in short haul EU country (1.5hr max) visiting family including a GP who had a stroke around 3 months ago - recovering well.

I am at home working and looking after dog and cat.

He left Thurs am (up at 6.30am) after a late night and disturbed sleep for both of us for reasons out of our control.

He has since been having lovely lunches in lovely sun...

I am at home holding the fort at usual. I WFH so I'm ok with picking up most home duties.

I don't have a problem on a daily basis with the split of chores.

However, dog is being unusually annoying and over active, I'm trying to work, and do all the usual shit including cleaning the house. I had a crap night sleep last night due to my wonderful but currently arsehole dog.

I won't have any down time tonight really.

And tomorrow I need to clean the the house some more.

AIBU to say that whileI have nothing else meaning I can't. I'm happy to play chef, laundry, cleaner, etc., I'd rather not add being chauffeur at 7pm tomorrow night to do a 1.5 hr journey to save his a £30 Uber he can afford? When I could be supping a wee glass of vino and trying to chill out?

AIBU?

FullOfJellyBeans Fri 22-Mar-19 17:15:35

YANBU. I'd just let him get an uber. Maybe have his favorite beer in to make up for it smile

KOKOtiltomorrow Fri 22-Mar-19 17:20:06

If it really is only £30 YANBU. But that does sound cheap for a 45 minute airport run.

If I'm honest though - you sound resentful. You work from home, you don't mention any DC but you are looking after an arsey dog and a cat. And doing chores. Sorry OP but I don't think you will get much sympathy as your life sounds great!

DizziLizzy Fri 22-Mar-19 17:21:34

YABU, your jealous his been away. Do you ever get the chance to do the same? If not I'd insist you get the equivalent time to yourself.

HarrysOwl Fri 22-Mar-19 17:21:46

Personally, I probably would pick my DH up, but it's definitely not unreasonable not to if you're knackered & he can afford transport back.

Unless he 'expects' a lift. Big difference between hoping for/or insisting on you picking him up.

Sirzy Fri 22-Mar-19 17:22:13

I would go and pick up if you can. Seems a bit mean not too and a waste of money

brizzlemint Fri 22-Mar-19 17:23:26

I am at home working and looking after dog and cat.

Such hard work, no wonder you are exhausted and can't go and collect him. Are you always such a snowflake?

AryaStarkWolf Fri 22-Mar-19 17:23:32

I would collect him if it were my oh but if you can't be bothered that's your choice

twobambinos Fri 22-Mar-19 17:23:35

Yabu you sound very resentful of his trip to visit family. Is the being a chauffeur a regular thing maybe. Can you not chill with your glass of wine together at 8pm when he is home. I can't imagine how dirty the house could possibly be with two adults living in it and one has been away since Thursday and you've already done some cleaning.
If the flight was at an anti social time I would say let him spend the money on the uber but it isn't even that. Is there more going on than you are saying

WorraLiberty Fri 22-Mar-19 17:23:54

I'd pick him up

What's up with the dog? Oh and how much looking after does the cat take?

blackteasplease Fri 22-Mar-19 17:24:37

Yanbu. I can never understand why people are so reluctant to pay a small taxi fare (assuming it is £30 and not £150!) And would rather put others out massively.

Where we live it's madness to get to the airport by any method but the train though as it's so much quicker so doesn't really arise for us.

LaurieFairyCake Fri 22-Mar-19 17:25:55

Yeah bollocks to that. 3 hours of my time is worth more than £30.

blackteasplease Fri 22-Mar-19 17:26:09

Yabu to say "supping" or " vino" though.

theredjellybean Fri 22-Mar-19 17:26:27

You have one cat and one dog and you need to spend so much time cleaning the house???
You sound a bit of a nightmare to me, you do has been away literally few days and your moaning about holding the Fort... Your not over run with small children, elderly relatives etc..
You have basically had to feed and walk the dog... Which maybe your dp does usually.. But yiy have had to do for a few days
Good grief get a grip.
I'd expect my dp to come and meet me and then we can both have a few drinks together when we get back

LaurieFairyCake Fri 22-Mar-19 17:26:44

Sorry, 90 minutes of my time in front of the tv cuddling dog and drinking wine is way more than £30

ElloBrian Fri 22-Mar-19 17:27:28

“You take someone to the airport, it’s clearly the beginning of the relationship. That's why I have never taken anyone to the airport at the beginning of a relationship. Because eventually things move on and you don't take someone to the airport and I never wanted anyone to say to me, How come you never take me to the airport anymore?”

Chloemol Fri 22-Mar-19 17:28:03

How would you feel if the situation was reserved and he refused to come and collect you and said get a Uber

theemmadilemma Fri 22-Mar-19 17:32:06

Ah I'm so glad I choose AIBU.

No DC.

He usually works 15 mins from home. Does travel for work once a month maybe? His average day, leave at 9ish, back at 7 latest.

I work 9am to around 6pm from home.

I'm not a special snowflake.

Yes I often travel alone to see friends abroad. I usually book my parking and drive, but unfortunately I cannot fly from the local, closest airport so it's a 2 hr journey to the airport I need. He's done it for me though, maybe a couple of times. And I've done various drop off's/pick up's in the past, when needed.

I just feel like this time, it's some he can easily afford, he's had some nice down down time. Can't I just chill tomorrow?

Vice versa I wouldn't ask.

Not jealous of his time away at all. 100% supportive.

KatieHack Fri 22-Mar-19 17:33:58

Yeah I do think YABU it’s not a big deal to drive 45 minutes early in the evening to pick your OH up. Why not suggest you go out together tomorrow and spend the £30 then smile

theemmadilemma Fri 22-Mar-19 17:34:25

Note: Very small house. Huge dog. Old cat. If I don't do certain things every day you'd all be clutching your pearl necklaces and hoicking those pants...

KatieHack Fri 22-Mar-19 17:36:37

Haha fair enough! I know a house can get messy even with just 2 pets. Why not ask him how he’d feel about it and gauge from there?

HarrysOwl Fri 22-Mar-19 17:36:46

What would his reaction be if you didn't?

Would he be more likely to understand you must be tired, or be the sulky type?

itssoooofluffy Fri 22-Mar-19 17:36:48

YABU. Both me and DH often go away without the other, we always pick each other up. Spend £30 on a cleaner instead grin

theemmadilemma Fri 22-Mar-19 17:37:50

@WorraLiberty Dog just wants Partner Wants the person that isn't there. In that way they can be little gits like that.

brizzlemint Fri 22-Mar-19 17:40:18

I work 9am to around 6pm from home.

That's hardly excessive, especially without a commute. Many people work those hours and commute on top.

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