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Does this make me a bad friend

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colourfulness Fri 22-Mar-19 16:32:37

So I had plans on Thursday night for an exercise class with a friend that I asked her to do and I reminded her about it and she had forgotten and said it's up to me to decide if we go then I got back to her and said do you want to leave it, I'm up for going if you are and she had plans to pick up her grandad instead

I'm going out on Saturday night with another friend

Does that make me a bad friend? Would you be annoyed if you were the other friend?

StealthPolarBear Fri 22-Mar-19 16:35:02

Of course no ot, why? She is busy doing other things. Doesn't sound like she's that bothered about the class.

StealthPolarBear Fri 22-Mar-19 16:36:38

Actually it's not even the same night? I don't understand what your plans for Saturday have to do with your plans yesterday

Poppyputthekettleon Fri 22-Mar-19 16:36:51

You mean you friend decided not to come to an exercise call that you invited her to on Thursday? And now tomorrow night you are going out with a different friend and you are worried the Thursday night friend will be upset? If so is she super possessive and you are only allowed to go out with her? I'm just failing to see the connection.

colourfulness Fri 22-Mar-19 16:46:00

Because I didn't say until on the day of the plans when we had to book it (it never sells out) so she the agreed to pick her grandad up instead

But I'm doing plans with a different friend instead?

Or have I over thought this?

colourfulness Fri 22-Mar-19 16:47:21

It's almost like I cancelled plans but can do them on Saturday?

StealthPolarBear Fri 22-Mar-19 16:48:38

You didn't cancel! Which day is she picking up her grandad

Anoisagusaris Fri 22-Mar-19 16:49:08

You aren't making sense.

If anything, you could be annoyed with your friend if you had made plans and then she forgot.

But what does any of that have to do with you going out on Saturday night??

StealthPolarBear Fri 22-Mar-19 16:49:23

Presumably the exercise class wont be on on Saturday

TinselAndKnickers Fri 22-Mar-19 16:53:09

The two are unrelated - she is the one who forgot your plans. There is no issue OP!

colourfulness Fri 22-Mar-19 16:53:30

So we spoke on the Wednesday night and I reminded her about it she replied I'll let you decide and we kept talking

Then the Thursday I said we can leave it if you want but I'm up for going if you are
Then she replied she had said yes to picking her grandad up
Which I hadn't said so she arranged that

Then I'm able to see my other friend instead

StealthPolarBear Fri 22-Mar-19 16:56:44

You were seeing her on thursday
She cancelled
You're seeing another friend tomorrow

Which bit am I getting wrong

TinselAndKnickers Fri 22-Mar-19 17:00:59

You're not Stealth grin

Anoisagusaris Fri 22-Mar-19 17:02:26

Still not making any sense.

It sounds as if the class was on Thursday. Or is it on Saturday?

IvanaPee Fri 22-Mar-19 17:03:33

What?? You’re seeing a different friend on a different day...?

MillicentMartha Fri 22-Mar-19 17:07:13

Is the class on a Saturday? confused

DownToTheSeaAgain Fri 22-Mar-19 17:07:33

YABU to post this complete non issue

Greywalls12 Fri 22-Mar-19 17:08:58


MargotLovedTom1 Fri 22-Mar-19 17:10:03

You have definitely over thought it! Why would exercise friend give a flying fart what you're doing on Saturday? She wasn't even bothered about meeting you on Thursday for the class!

yearinyearout Fri 22-Mar-19 17:12:47

I'm struggling to see how the two things are related.

twobambinos Fri 22-Mar-19 17:13:02

Yabu for making no sense and also for saying you were up for going but do you want to leave it.

Bambamber Fri 22-Mar-19 17:15:51

You are way overthinking things. You made plans, other friend forgot about said plans and wasnt really bothered about them anyway. So that friend made other plans and you made other plans. Everyone is happy

lisamac28 Fri 22-Mar-19 17:21:04

If Thursday friend is annoyed by you going out with Saturday friend, tell her to grow up. This is a non-issue.

FriarTuck Fri 22-Mar-19 17:21:36

You aren't making sense.
This grin I really don't get why Saturday is relevant.

EffOffStomachPain Fri 22-Mar-19 17:33:23

I’m so confused.

HalfBearOtherHalfCat Fri 22-Mar-19 17:34:07

Has the OP been drinking or have I? confused

StealthPolarBear Fri 22-Mar-19 17:35:41

I definitely have. Very little is making sense.
Reminiscent of Sharon and the wasp.

Lweji Fri 22-Mar-19 17:36:39

It depends. Have you gone exclusive with the first friend, or are you still seeing other people?

StealthPolarBear Fri 22-Mar-19 17:38:49

Sharon and the wasp and the wine and the wall

BackforGood Fri 22-Mar-19 17:40:04

Just posting to see if the OP can sort this out for us.
I'm totally confused about why going out with one friend on a Saturday is, in any way related to a different friend changing her mind about coming to an exercise class on a Thursday.

burritofan Fri 22-Mar-19 17:40:12

Is the grandad invited on Saturday night?

Starch Fri 22-Mar-19 17:41:31

It doesn’t make you a bad friend, just a really confusing one. Your mate probably rang Grandad in a state of total befuddlement.

Marriedwithchildren5 Fri 22-Mar-19 17:41:46

I see what you're saying, in a strange kind of mindset thinking. Youre fine to go out on a different night, with a different friend. Not many people would think if they agree to cancel plans, which you were more than willing not to, that a person should cancel all other plans.

Thats what you're asking? Or does my post actually make no sense??

Springwalk Fri 22-Mar-19 17:46:43


gilchrist168 Fri 22-Mar-19 17:47:32

I'm good for Sunday. and Grandad free.

Cornettoninja Fri 22-Mar-19 17:51:09

You’re massively overthinking this.

Bluntness100 Fri 22-Mar-19 17:56:29

This makes no sense at all.

Why is you going on on Saturday related to you cancelling with her on Thursday? What is the link?

NinnieNouse Fri 22-Mar-19 17:57:30

Is the second friend Grandad?

FenellaMaxwell Fri 22-Mar-19 18:00:23

Hi Sharon! [waves]

FineFanks Fri 22-Mar-19 18:02:40

Are you high, OP?

NoWittyNamesAvailable Fri 22-Mar-19 18:05:24

Is this a puzzle we have to piece together ourselves?

ShirleyPhallus Fri 22-Mar-19 18:06:08

This is a great wind up, this thread could run for pages and pages

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