Tight see through white top and no bra in the office

[furrybadger]

Okay so I work in quite a large organisation and work within an office, we don’t have a formal dress code as such, we can wear casual clothes as long as it’s appropriate, so for example no ripped jeans, no flip flops, no low cut tops etc.

Today there was a young woman in the office, she had a tight white see through T-shirt on and no bra, very clearly see everything especially when she is walking around the office with everything bouncing around.

Aibu to think this isn’t appropriate ? do others think this is ok in a office setting ? I understand not wearing a bra but surely not when your top is very clearly see through ?!

[SurgeHopper]

Yeah it's innapropriate

[Chocolateisfab]

Unless you work in a high class massage parlour she is being unreasonable.

[Isth]

As much as I feel very at ‘everything bouncing around’ , no, absolutely not appropriate. I work in a very casual office, building trade, and could wear flip flops, ripped jeans, whatever and there’s no way on this earth I would think that would be okay, no matter how fond of my chest I am!

[NearlyVegan]

What about guys that wear whit shirts that you can see their nipples through? how do you feel about that?

[peppaaargh]

Nearlyvegan repulsed. Work is not a place for nipples

[Hushnownobodycares]

Bit conflicted here.

If it's not OK for her it shouldn't be OK for guys to get their nips out in thin shirts. It does sound wildly inappropriate though so clearly I'm a hypocrite

[furrybadger]

Men is a bit different, would you enjoy it if a man had no underpants on and see through trousers on watching his bits jiggle about ? I don’t think so

[Isleepinahedgefund]

This always happens when there's no dress code. None where I work, and there was a big problem with one employee who thought nothing of seeing the public with her arse crack hanging out of her shorts and a pair of flip flops teamed with a stained I'll fitting t shirt. Management had a tough time of it trying to deal with it because there was no dress code, basically it relied on everyone "doing the right thing". They couldn't discipline her for not following a non existent policy.

In the end the other staff doing the same job, including me, had a gentle word with her to explain that management weren't getting at her but dress code or no dress code there are professional standards and it's disrespectful to not bother to dress properly when you're seeing the public or even generally in the office - we didn't want to see her bum crack and manky feet every day either!

[Biancadelrioisback]

Boobs/nipples do not equal male genitals

[Wholovesorangesoda]

Oh God. Maybe the lighting at her home was different and she wasn't aware how see through it was?
Definitely not appropriate for a workplace though. I'm all for people wearing whatever they wish and outside of work if you really want everyone to be able to see your nipples then sure, whatever floats your boat, but not at work! Having said that, I'm obviously getting old cos I have no idea why you'd want everyone to be able to see everything!

[Reters]

[Bluntness100]

Huge lol at thr nuggets trying to pretend a woman showing her nipples is the same as seeing a mans, and breasts have no sexual connotations, like they grew up under a rock and don't know better,

Yes op of course it's inappropriate.

[Biancadelrioisback]

Do you think she was aware that everything was visible? I only ask because I ended up in a similar situation when I put a new white shirt on and it looked fine at home but once I got into work you could very clearly see my bra through the shirt. Very clearly.

[furrybadger]

I’m all for #freethenip and not wearing bras but for people saying what’s the problem, would you go to work like that ?

[Isth]

Yea, cause lady nipples, but not men’s nipples obviously, are absolutely the same as being able to clearly see a mans genitals 🙄

[DontCallMeShitley]

Unless you work in a high class massage parlour she is being unreasonable.

That's not high class.

[HennyPennyHorror]

I don't think there's anything wrong with it. If she's happy so what? If you don't like it, don't look.

[LtJudyHopps]

I put a black bra on today with a blue top - looked fine in my mirror. I got to the work toilets to realise you could see the bra! Luckily I kept my jacket on as the air con was in full force. It happens to me all the time my mirrors at home clearly aren’t as well lit as the office artificial lights! Same thing could have happened to her.

[NearlyVegan]

No I wouldn't but I also wouldn't judge it's just some boobs imo but I'm happy to accept it's not the average opinion.

[Billballbaggins]

I don’t want to see anyone’s nips in the office, male or female nipples (usually it’s men who are worse, well they were where I used to work, cheap white/pale pink shirts then helloooooooo Mr peanut smuggler eww)

[Bluetrews25]

Or even (())(()) @reters

[Dominobeauty]

Get all the ladies to put dried peas under their T-shirt’s (nipples) and start a Micky taking trend. The boss will put a stop to it then. Watch the men’s eyes bulge ant everyone.

[AngelsOnHigh]

A young girl I used to work with dressed inappropriately and the boss gave me some cash to buy some "work" shirts for everyone to wear.

He didn't want to hurt her feelings but didn't want her bringing down the "tone" of his business.

[Persimmonn]

YANBU! We have a problem person like this at work. I really want to tell her about bra intervention, because her boobs spill out and around, and bounce with every step.
I don’t think they realise what they look like and everyone is too polite to say anything.

[Springwalk]

So what are you gonna do op? No good just complaining on here.
If you feel it is concerning talk to her. Be direct. Maybe she doesn’t realise, maybe she does. Either way I am not sure it is right to rip her apart on here.