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To ask what you will do when your kids leave home?

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Mangetoutrodney Wed 20-Mar-19 17:29:04

I love being a mum & will do anything for my kids. I do find it tiring though esp working full time & the weight of responsibility of raising 2 small people (they are 7 & 11). I try to cherish every moment though.

When I have an empty nest, i’d love to take another gap year. I have been lucky to have had 2 in my life before to travel extensively and I miss it. I think I am a wanderer at heart & am not bothered by material stuff. So that’s what I hope to do (health etc permitting) - to wander again for a year.

Aibu to ask what you would like to do?

(I’m not wishing my life away- just dreaming a bit when the routine gets to me a bit!!)

stopfuckingshoutingatme Wed 20-Mar-19 17:30:11

Rest when I get home
Miss them
Have a
Clean hour
I’ll be 55 minimum !!!! I

Gazelda Wed 20-Mar-19 17:31:13

I just know that I'll sink into a very low mood, for a very long time. So I'll plan lots of nice things for the short term to see me through

After that, I'd absolutely love to be a parish councillor.

megletthesecond Wed 20-Mar-19 17:31:57

Go to the gym every day again.
Read books.
Catch up on paperwork.

8 years until both at Uni and I'm counting the days blush.

tillytrotter1 Wed 20-Mar-19 17:31:59

Don't fret, you're never really rid of them!

Mangetoutrodney Wed 20-Mar-19 17:32:15

@stopfuckingshouting i’ll be 55 too 😬

Mangetoutrodney Wed 20-Mar-19 17:32:56

That ‘race around the world’ has inspired me though- some retirees on there backpacking!!!

Fatasfook Wed 20-Mar-19 17:33:24

My child won’t ever be able to leave home

Lungelady Wed 20-Mar-19 17:33:29

I am living the dream.
Retired early...I travel a lot and love seeing them sporadically grin

ZippyBungleandGeorge Wed 20-Mar-19 17:33:45

I'll be mid fifties if not a little older, I'd like to travel again and I'd really like to be a magistrate

HarrySnotter Wed 20-Mar-19 17:35:04

@megletthesecond, what if they don't go to Uni? They might be around even longer! grin

Bibijayne Wed 20-Mar-19 17:35:15

Travel! I'll be 52 when my DS is 18.. but I'm a FTM so hoping for more small people.

My DH and I love traveling. Hoping to still do a bit whilst our DC is still little.

Mydressinggownismybestfriend Wed 20-Mar-19 17:35:43

I’m hoping mine stay here till mid 20s until they can buy a house (depending on their circumstances of course!)

Even if they do I’ll still only be mid 40s. Maybe I’ll start all over again with another couple grin

Jokes ... I’ll read a LOT of books!

Ithinkmycatisevil Wed 20-Mar-19 17:36:46

I'll be just turned 41 when my youngest goes to uni. I'd like to travel and become properly qualified in the area I work in

I'll also miss them like crazy, they're my favourite people.

megletthesecond Wed 20-Mar-19 17:37:18

harry then I'll go back as a mature student and they can look after the house grin.

NameChangeNugget Wed 20-Mar-19 17:37:50

Love mine to bits but, we treated ourselves to 6 weeks in Australia & New Zealand. Was fantastic and a real line in the sand moment

juneau Wed 20-Mar-19 17:38:02

Mine are the same age as yours and right now I'm looking forward to a) having a tidy home that stays tidy and b) not having to cook, wash, clean and tidy after anyone else (apart from DH, that is, but he's not too bad). I just find the drudgery of parenting grim. So many tedious tasks that have to be done again and again. Muddy games kit 5x a week, meals, shopping - agh! I need staff dammit! grin

Mangetoutrodney Wed 20-Mar-19 17:39:38

@ithinkmycat my kids are my fav people too. I’d love to travel with them- we have done a bit but not long haul with them- would love to backpack with them for s few months!

PotteringAlong Wed 20-Mar-19 17:39:58

I’m going to be at a sandels adult only resort in the Caribbean faster than you can say freshers week...

FairyBunnyAgain Wed 20-Mar-19 17:41:43

This is where I should have been last October but DC1 dropped out of uni as DC2 started so is back home re evaluating their life. They are working and help around the house so it’s not all bad but I long to be able to go out to work in the morning leaving a tidying house and return to the same in the evening.

As they are adult I can still go to the gym etc when I want so that is great and We only eat together when it works for us (see above regarding messy house)

I have no plans for a gap year at present as I had a 6 month career break 5 years ago, but DH and I do try to travel at least 3 times a year, leaving DC at home to look after the pets. And we are planning to retire early

juneau Wed 20-Mar-19 17:42:13

Oh and when they leave home I'll spend a couple of months every winter somewhere where the sun shines.

stopfuckingshoutingatme Wed 20-Mar-19 17:46:55

My child won’t ever be able to leave home

That’s hard . Will they gain more independence Or will you be completely hands on ?

Alienspaceship Wed 20-Mar-19 17:47:00

There’s nothing really I’m desperate to do. I decided to get it a out of my system, travel etc before kids as I couldn’t imagine anything worse than being constrained by kids and thinking ‘I can’t wait to... ‘.

KOKOtiltomorrow Wed 20-Mar-19 17:47:44've just given me a great idea for next year's holiday!

When mine go, I will down size, but a nice ",retirement " flat, free up some cash and do whatever the heck I!!'

maslinpan Wed 20-Mar-19 17:49:05

See more films and have more sex. I like to keep my goals realistic!

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