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Anotherday39 Wed 20-Mar-19 17:06:47

When family are close and supportive I'm sure it's the best, but when they are awful, bitch behind your back and are generally toxic it's the worst! Especially when it's your parents.
I always feel like the only people to truly love someone is a parent. Partners come and go, even siblings sometimes don't get along. But when it's your parents that don't care about you, nothing is as awful as that.
Second to that is the betrayal from siblings, who it seems sometimes you can never escape the rivalry, so much so that there is no love or care anymore. Just resentment.
I think I just drew the short straw when it comes to family.
My inlaws don't like me either, my MIL says horrid things to me, no matter how hard I try to get on with her. But I know she would do anything for her son. I saw them in a new light when BIL broke up with his girlfriend, who they did like. They said horrible things about her after , wanted her gone asap.
My husband has that comfort of someone always being on his side.
Then again, my kids love me. It's so unusual for me to have that unconditional love from them. But I don't trust it, like one day they all hate me too.

LucyAutumn Wed 20-Mar-19 17:40:51

Sounds like you're having a tough time OP, do you have any solid long term friendships? Friendships are the family we can choose.

I also recommend reading Toxic Parents, you might find it helpful with regards to your relationship with your own parents and hows that's bleeding into your feelings of doubt with your children now.

TheMightyToosh Wed 20-Mar-19 17:41:37

Sorry you're feeling this way. All I can say is try to break the mould with your own DC and be there for them no matter what. It's not easy when you feel you have no support from the people who are meant to love you the most thanks

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking Wed 20-Mar-19 18:05:52

So, according to you, Your blood family hate you, your in laws hate you and you think your children will turn on you and partners come and go.

Do you think you need to talk to someone about this? Because this isn't normal, to have the entire world hate you.

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