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ScatteredMama82 Tue 19-Mar-19 11:51:34

So I’ve found a lump in my breast, and I’m having really odd sensations in it like a tingling/burning feeling. I’m 40. My Mum was diagnosed with NC at 48 and 4 years later she was dead. I’m a wreck, I have a GP appointment this afternoon to start the process of getting checked out but I am terrified. I’m shaking, I’m imagining telling my kids I’m dying. I’m so scared. DH is working away and has a long drive home, I haven’t told him yet as I don’t want him to worry.

ScatteredMama82 Tue 19-Mar-19 11:52:17

Edit to add, my mum was diagnosed with Breast cancer. Sorry, can't type with shaky hands.

Weebitawks Tue 19-Mar-19 11:54:15

❤️❤️❤️❤️ please don't panic. You've done the right thing booking yourself into the doctors. Please also remember, whatever the outcome that cancer survival rates and dramatically increased and there are so many more treatments available than there were at the time of your mother's diagnosis.

Lots of luck xx

Ansumpasty Tue 19-Mar-19 11:54:35

Chances are, it’s a harmless cyst. Just wait and see what the gp says xxxx

DonPablo Tue 19-Mar-19 11:55:25

Well, we have a saying in our house, and that's 'let's try not to worry until there's something to worry about'. It's clumsy, but it's about not rushing ahead and trying to stay calm even when you're not because the alternative is frightening and upsetting.

So, you've done the right thing making an appointment. Now, could you make a cuppa and call a friend or family member?

Hoping for good news for you flowers

lmusic87 Tue 19-Mar-19 11:55:42

Try to stay calm, you've done the right thing by having an appointment. Just be kind to yourself until then and try not to 'what-if'

Tell your husband after the appt if you want to xxxxxx

FudgeBrownie2019 Tue 19-Mar-19 11:56:51

Sending huge, huge hugs, it must be terrifying. We're all here alongside you.x flowers

Moondancer73 Tue 19-Mar-19 11:57:25

Hand hold here. I know it's scary but you've done the best thing and made the appointment. My mum went through this a couple of years ago and it was just fatty tissue so please try not to worry too much x

ScatteredMama82 Tue 19-Mar-19 11:58:09

I dragged myself to work but I'm at my desk trying not to cry. Thank you all. I've not told anyone in RL.

cantbebotheredtoday Tue 19-Mar-19 12:06:19

Good luck ❤️

ijustdontunderstandher Tue 19-Mar-19 12:08:41

Please don’t panic yet OP, you’ve done the right thing by getting help as soon as you found it, chances are it’s absolutely harmless. Don’t worry until you know exactly what’s going on, I hope all goes wellflowers

Armadillostoes Tue 19-Mar-19 12:12:34

Another hand hold. It may be nothing terrible at all. Easier said than done, but try to think positive.

DarlingNikita Tue 19-Mar-19 12:17:14

Hand-hold, OP. See what the GP says. Until then, deep breaths.

Mummyoflittledragon Tue 19-Mar-19 12:18:35

I hope it goes ok for you this afternoon. flowers

AuntieCJ Tue 19-Mar-19 12:19:11

I had thee op nearly 3 yeas ago. Still clear. Please remember a diagnosis is not a death sentence. I know it's hard, I was in bits but here I am.

Peridot1 Tue 19-Mar-19 12:19:58

Fingers crossed it’s fine. But even if it’s not treatment these days is very successful. I know as I’ve had it. As have some friends.

I told people and it was amazing hearing about so many people who were just fine after treatment. My hairdresser’s mother had it four times and is still here and now in her 80s. She was first diagnosed in her 40s..

Blondebakingmumma Tue 19-Mar-19 12:20:01

Extends hand 🖐
Hand hold
Slow deep breath

MsTiggywinkletoyou Tue 19-Mar-19 12:23:36

If you want to speak to someone now, phone Macmillan Cancer Support. They can cope with you crying down the phone, if that is what you need to do. Or if for some reason you can't get through, try the Samaritans. They are there for anyone in distress, not just suicidal people. Both lines say they are free.

Mac: 0808 808 0000
Sam: 116 123

Ginkythefangedhellpigofdoom Tue 19-Mar-19 12:24:23

Hey, there are loads of reasons for lumps or changes in the breasts!

No reason to panic yet, your doing the right thing by going to the gp and you'll find out soon exactly what's going on.

I know it's really scary but there's nothing you can do that you aren't already doing.

If it turns out to serious then at least you'll know and the doctors will help you take the next steps needed.

Massive handhold from me flowers

gottastopeatingchocolate Tue 19-Mar-19 12:27:47

Hand hold here too, OP.

I have been there. I understand the terror. You have done the right thing to get an appointment and you should be seen very quickly by the hospital.

Try not to pre-empt the situation - believe me, I know that's hard.

Hope you have someone in RL that can be with you in your stress.

FurrySlipperBoots Tue 19-Mar-19 12:28:09

Best of luck OP! bear

Coyoacan Tue 19-Mar-19 12:34:13

Been there, done that, bought the T-shirt.

And it turned out to be a cyst

My mother died twenty-nine years ago but things have changed completely since then. Nearly everyone I know who has had cancer in the last fifteen years is still here to tell the tale.

bobstersmum Tue 19-Mar-19 12:36:14

Best of luck op hoping it's nothing. My mil has had cancer twice and beaten it both times and her motto is don't meet it halfway. She says don't worry until you know what you're dealing with, which if course could be absolutely nothing to worry about. Best of luck.

Didthatreallyhappen2 Tue 19-Mar-19 12:36:59

Holding your hand very tightly here.

Ohyesiam Tue 19-Mar-19 12:38:47

Big hugs op. I’m holding your hand.
Breathe right down into your belly and try to unhook from the worst case scenarioflowers

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