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To have gone for a drink by myself?

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lovelilies Tue 19-Mar-19 09:33:18

I was supposed to meet two friends for drinks and a pub quiz last night but they cancelled at short notice. I was in the mood for going out so I decided to go anyway, on my own.
My DP (don't live together, long history, 2 DC together, he had them at his last night) said I shouldn't go out alone.
He only knew I was out alone because I told him my friends had baled and asked if he fancied meeting me (his parents are up staying with him so could babysit).
He texted 'Because there are dick head men out there who’d love to take advantage! You have a family at home and it’s not the right thing to do...'
it's really pissed me off. He's coming from the 'I'm worried for your safety' angle, however he never asked me to let him know I was home safe/ checked up if I'm ok.
I do have a tendency to overreact but AIBU?
So not to drip feed, I had 1/2 a beer, and still collected teenage DD from hobby and was home by 8.30pm!

LimeKiwi Tue 19-Mar-19 12:38:47

However I do think that the OP is being insensitive to her partner, and not respecting the relationship.

For daring to leave the house and go to a pub by herself?
Give over!
Wimmin! Know your limits. Those aren't the type of establishments a lady should frequent. confused hmm

SleepingStandingUp Tue 19-Mar-19 12:49:46

What the OP is doing is going to a pub on her own just for a drink whilst her partner is nearby but home with the kids. Totally totally different. And?? He was ok when she had supervision so couldn't accidentally have sex with another man. He was invited so clearly she hadn't set up a date. She told him what had happened so she wasn't lying to him.

If he thinks she'll be attacked then that'll likely happen to or from, so independent of who she's in the pub with.
If he thinks a guy will come in to her and she'll snog him / have sex with him then she should dump him.
If he thinks a guy with flirt with her but OP won't do anything but he doesn't like it anyway, tough

Vulpine Tue 19-Mar-19 13:46:04

I'm not saying I'm unattractive but....I've rarely attracted male attention in a bar whilst drinking on my own - something I like to do from time to time. Maybe I have a Don't fuck with me vibe!

FuckertyBoo Tue 19-Mar-19 13:49:42

I’ve done it and I’ll do it again mwahaha!

Ahem. Sorry. For some reason, “...and I’ll do it again” has to be followed by an evil cackle.


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