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To never want sex?

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Lily715 Tue 19-Mar-19 09:31:11

Been with bf almost 3 years. At the beginning we had quite an active sex life. Now its like I just cant be bothered. I work shifts and Im always knackered. The sex isnt amazing, always the same really and he doesnt seem to have the confidence to take charge. We've talked about it but nothing changes. Its probably been about a month since we've had sex. Maybe longer.
Im on antidepressants which have really lowered my sex drive, I barely ever want it.
I worry about our relationship because of it and it feels really unfair on him, he'd have it every day if he could.

StarlightLady Tue 19-Mar-19 09:59:53

It’s equally unfair for you.

I’m in my 40s. I can’t imagine not wanting sex for a week, let alone a month. I have needs.

Sex is not something you give to a lover, it is about sharing and passion. Are you on anti-depressants because of your relationship?

Is it a case of not wanting sex in his style?

Smeghead90 Tue 19-Mar-19 10:03:56

I’m in exactly the same boat I’m on 150mg sertraline and my sex drive is on the floor. My partner is very understanding but the thought of initiating sex makes me nervous confused

Lily715 Tue 19-Mar-19 10:09:42

No I'm not on antidepressants because of my relationship.
I literally have no desire for it at all.
Coming off antidepressants isn't an option at the moment.
We still kiss and cuddle but I never want sex and dread him initiating it because I either have to turn it down or do it and not really enjoy it. I know it bothers him.
I don't want sex in his style but I also feel like I just dont want it at all. I've also put on tons of weight since starting antidepressants so I hate the way my body looks during sex.

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