My dd2 is 12 and on friday, her best friend of the same age had a sleepover at our home. Nothing out of the usual there. Next day, saturday, my dc go for visitation with their father and so the best friend usually heads home when they go.
This time however, she was visibly upset and after some gentle prodding, she told me her father, who has custody of her, had actually told her not to come home on friday night, because she had not informed him she was going to a youth club that same day, after school. He had text her and told her to 'find somewhere else to stay'.
She went on to say she was frightened to go home because her father drinks with her uncle on a saturday night and gets nasty towards her, threatening to hit her and throwing things about.
There was no way i was going to make her go home and eventually the father text her to say he would phone the police to bring her home. She told him to go ahead as she would tell the police he had been threatening to hit her...to which he replied yes, and so what? Her nan lives with them too and the father said it would be my dd's friend word against his and that the nan would side with him so noone would believe her. He then said she could stay but would be grounded with no phone when she returned home on the sunday.
Sunday morning, i phoned the nspcc. I didnt know best what to do as i wasnt comfortable with her going home. The nspcc contacted the local social services and long story short, social services are opening an investigation.
The problem i have, is i know that the likelyhood is nothing much will happen. I had to report my own kids father three times to the police before they eventually took it seriously and convicted him. Unfortunately, all i have probably done is made things worse for her and also for my dd2 as of course the father will not let his DD socialise with my dd out of school now.
I dont know if i did the right thing and my dd's friend wasnt in school today, i am so worried. What would you have done?
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PurpleThistles · 19/03/2019 00:37
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