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Unable to move the car AIBU?

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MrsElizabethShelby Mon 18-Mar-19 19:29:52

So, I know DH WBVVU but was I?

This morning we took the car on the school run. Don't usually but needed to today.

I cannot drive. I don't have a license. DH parks across a driveway with a car in it.

I said to DH 'you can't park there' he objected and said ' oh, il only be a minute' and jumped out to run DD1 into school.

The minute DH was out of sight owner comes out of her house keys in hand and mouths at me that she needs to leave.

I rolled down the window, apologized and said husband will be back in a sec.

She repeated she needed to leave. I apologized again and explained that I can't drive and that even if I could DH has the keys and he will be back any minute.

This time she shouted she needed to leave. I said I'm sorry I've tried to explain and rolled my window back up.

I could have taken DD1 into school but DH had jumped out and gone before I had even had chance to suggest it.

Woman begins banging on my window shouting at me to move the car. Frightening my infant DD2 and making her cry.

Husband told her to wind her neck in when he got back and we ended up falling out as it was his fault as he parked there is the first place.

All of this took place over the space of about 5 minutes.

AlmostAJillSandwich Mon 18-Mar-19 19:31:55

You were physically incapable of moving the car, while she had every right to be annoyed she shouldn't have been banging on windows.

OKBobble Mon 18-Mar-19 19:32:09

YWBU too. as soon as he parked you should have made him move or taken child into school.

PengAly Mon 18-Mar-19 19:32:40

He shouldnt have parked there in the first place and she had every right to be annoyed but banging on your window was uncalled for.

bunintheoven88 Mon 18-Mar-19 19:34:06

Your husband was BU but at that exact moment in time there was nothing you could do and you tried to explain so no you weren't BU.

She shouldn't have banged on the window and frightened your DD, very silly thing to do.

PuzzlingPuzzle Mon 18-Mar-19 19:34:45

it was his fault as he parked there is the first place - you’ve summed it up. And no of course you shouldn’t have attempted to move the car when you don’t have a license and can’t drive. Driveway lady shouldn’t have banged on the car but I 100% get her frustration. I also can’t believe your DH told the woman to ‘wind her neck in’ when he was the one blocking her driveway. He sounds like an entitled arse.

KoraBora Mon 18-Mar-19 19:37:38

She was out of order banging on the windows but she is probably fed up of selfish pricks like your husband. Hope you have it to him with both barrels.

underneaththeash Mon 18-Mar-19 19:38:16

I would have banged on your car too. Parking across someone's drive is not acceptable ever - even for 5 minutes.

SouthernComforts Mon 18-Mar-19 19:39:09

The poor woman will have people like you and DH outside her house Every. Single. Day. She is entitled to be pissed off. Your DH should have parked somewhere else.

I live near a place tourists flock to when the weather is nice, it's a huge PITA when people ditch their cars with no thought for residents.

Stayawayfromitsmouth Mon 18-Mar-19 19:39:49

Jeez your husband is a selfish dickhead.

Easterbunnyiscomingsoon Mon 18-Mar-19 19:40:20

Is he always so entitled?

JacquesHammer Mon 18-Mar-19 19:40:22

Your husband was very unreasonable to park across a drive.

Driveway lady was very unreasonable to bang on your car.

YWNU at all.

Nicknacky Mon 18-Mar-19 19:40:34

Your husband was massively unreasonable and caused that situation. Why didn’t you just take your child to school, you would have had ample time to say “no, I will take her”.

MrsElizabethShelby Mon 18-Mar-19 19:41:04

puzzling he certainly can be sometimes. I think it's a learned habit from having selfish parents. He used to never clear his own rubbish from places like McDonald's because 'someone is paid to do that' until I explained what a colossal cunt that made him. Bobble I'm intrigued as to how you think I could have made a grown man move a car he didn't want to move.confused

CluedoAddict Mon 18-Mar-19 19:41:13

Your husband is a selfish prick. The woman may have needed to go to the hospital or anywhere else important.

Iloveacurry Mon 18-Mar-19 19:41:21

He shouldn’t of parked there. I’d be annoyed too if I was the home owner.

Cranky17 Mon 18-Mar-19 19:41:55

completely dh fault, he needs to take all the responsibility for this issues including causing your infant dd to cry

boredboredboredboredbored Mon 18-Mar-19 19:42:44

There was a Jeremy Kyle style row outside my dc primary school because of this situation. Police were called and it got ugly.

Woman still parked across home owners driveway the next day.

Absolutely disgusting, completely unnecessary and completely selfish. Every parent who parks there thinks it'll only be for a minute or two, imagine if there were several like this everyday. Nightmare!

BluebadgenPIP Mon 18-Mar-19 19:43:10

Couldn’t you have got out with the baby and walked down to meet your DH and told him to get back to the car pronto?

He’s a dick.

CloserIAm2Fine Mon 18-Mar-19 19:43:30

Your DH is a rude and selfish prick

You couldn’t move the car. But you can surely appreciate her frustration. She’s probably thoroughly sick of dicks like him blocking her in

I probably would’ve tried calling DH to show that you were making an effort.

Pinkyyy Mon 18-Mar-19 19:44:11

The banging on the window was very rude and very unnecessary. You told her there was no way for you to move the car, I'm not sure what she was expecting you to do.

Witchend Mon 18-Mar-19 19:44:43

He can't only have been a minute as he said he would be if there was time for it to escalate to that point.

And it's not acceptable to do that even for a minute. If he managed to jump out, get child to jump out with bags, and get out of calling distance before you managed to form the words "I'll take her" then he's a miracle worker.

CloserIAm2Fine Mon 18-Mar-19 19:44:49

Oh and I would be walking my child to school from now on if he thinks he can carry on behaving like that

thedisorganisedmum Mon 18-Mar-19 19:45:11

You were caught in the middle, not your fault. You understand why the woman was so angry, and she had no way to know you couldn't drive. When parents can't be bothered to leave a drive free, they are the same people who will refuse to move because they can't be bothered.

Tell your husband how embarrassing it is, that people now take photos and some schools have started putting them in newsletter, or they at least end up on social media. It's not fair on your child.

tickingthebox Mon 18-Mar-19 19:45:26

Having lived close to a school the number of parents who did this was amazing - my general tactic was to just press the car horn continuously so everyone was staring and commenting and a highly embarrassed parent rushed back.... they never did it twice, although another parent would then try "just stopping for a moment".

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