Background first. I have a huge family. All slightly dysfunctional and lots of cousins who have ended up in care, myself included. Once I had grown up I decided to move away from the chaos as did some of my "normal aunts". As the years passed family members drifted and passed away and what is left is a very fractured family. Think Eastenders with a family of 7 children to my maternal grandparents (these are called the kids) and over 30 cousins(the babies) and expanding 2nd cousins. Most kids have drinking issues and most of the babies refuse to have contact with their parents. Anyway I moved 60 miles away from them. Some followed as in, my mum and siblings and a couple of cousins. These relationships dwindled and I moved away again, 200 miles. I am happy and settled and I have contact willingly with 1 cousin and not so willingly with another. I'll call her A. Cousin A wants to visit and has done in the past but I can't cope with visits or overnight stays and if you say no she becomes very aggressive. A few years back she came a few times and kept on and on to visit again and again until I made excuses to deter her. She then went NC. Great. Now she's back. Being super nice and I thought oh well I can be nice back. And low and behold. Can I come and stay. When can I stay. Can we come and stay. I stupidly said she could to get it over with and now I just can't go through with it. She's pestering me for a date. What can I say. Block. Ignore. Lie. Tell truth. I just dont know. It's more of a WWYD but I want to scream FO and get a life as i know she's using me to stay here for a free holiday and to escape someone she's pissed off no doubt. AIBU to block her. I'm a coward but I can't face it.
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