DS is now 18. Since leaving school he’s done nothing. He’s not worked, not gone to college (although joined a one day a week course at s training facility under pressure). His bedroom is an absolute shit hole, he does nothing around the house and spends all his time drinking and taking drugs. He was arrested twice last year for assault ... both times under the influence of drugs yet he still does them. I’ve had cahms, social services, drug counselling ... everyone I can think of involved and nothing changes. He misses appointments and just doesn’t engage. The latest thing is that cahms want to discharge him due to missed appointments.
I give him no money other than the bus money to get to college one day a week so god knows where he gets his money for the substances.
He’s constantly asking for me to buy him this and that, loses bus tickets, breaks stuff by being careless ... I’m just so tired. It’s a constant strain.
The elephant in the room is that he’s self harmed and last year was sectioned for a violent suicide attempt which he does not even think of as a serious situation. He’s not bothered. Continues to take drugs and I’m just sat here waiting for the next time the police knock at the door.
I can’t go on like this. AIBU to think we need to be looking at him living independent? Or cruel because he has MH problems (which he does nothing to help by continuing to take drugs?)
I’m not well myself. Mentally, I’m a fucking mess. I don’t leave my house unless it’s to go to work. I’m just so tired. Defeated.
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At what point do I set DS off on his own?
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LellowYedbetter · 18/03/2019 07:37
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