I'm quite socially anxious and needy at present, which I know is a problem and I'm in the process of getting help. But, I'm still in the process of feeling OK.
One of the things that has been hard is I feel like I have lost all intuitive sense of friendship etiquette and are constantly making faux-pas. So I've started to try and think of 'rules' to help me and not feel like I'm going to drive away all my friends, for example:
- If I ask someone to spend time with me and they say no without an alternate plan (ie "sorry I can't, but I can do X" as opposed to "no I can't do that sorry"), don't ask again, it's up to them next.
- If someone writes nothing more than 'lol' or 'haha' or something like the thumb emoji in an online chat, consider the conversation over, don't drag it out further.
AIBU to ask - what is your unspoken friend etiquette? What unspoken 'rules' are you aware of?