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DH using American words... AIBU?

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Sleeplesss Sun 17-Mar-19 23:52:28

I met my DH 10 years ago and we have a really good relationship. One thing, though, that has always bugged me a little is that he uses some American words. Think along the lines of calling a lift and elevator or calling a mobile phone a cell phone. I have never made an issue of this but normally correct him in a jokey way rather than make a fuss of it. Tonight he said cell phone and I did the jokingly correcting him thing and he has got really upset with me. Saying I'm making him feel stupid. Obviously that is not what I'm trying to do but at the same time, it really really grates in me. I explained to him, in the nicest possible way, that if it were me, I'd rather be corrected as it's a habit I'd want to break. He's been to America once and doesn't have any American friends/family so it obviously must come from watching American tv. When I suggested that to him, he said that I don't know that for certain. Yes I do, where else could it possibly come from?

So I'm just wondering, is it wrong of me to want him to break this habit? AIBU?

Excited101 Sun 17-Mar-19 23:54:32

I can see why you’d find it irritating but being corrected on phrases he uses is far more irritating and rude of you tbh, I don’t blame him for snapping!

Walkingdeadfangirl Sun 17-Mar-19 23:55:56

It would bug the hell out of me if someone kept correcting my language. He is a grown up and can use whatever words he wants. YABVU stop being so controlling.

YogaWannabe Sun 17-Mar-19 23:56:25

I’m someone who haaates Americanisms but I’d hate being corrected a lot more.

Leave him be

steff13 Sun 17-Mar-19 23:57:01

Have you been correcting him for 10 years? No wonder he snapped. Honestly, I think it makes you sound a bit snobbish. Let him use the words he wants to use.

CordeliaGoode Sun 17-Mar-19 23:58:53

YABU. Apologize and leave him be.

Sleeplesss Sun 17-Mar-19 23:58:56

I appreciate your comments, thank you. That's why I posted in AIBU, I'm happy to be told I'm in the wrong. I don't correct him every single time obviously. I just sort of hoped he'd stop doing it but he never has. Maybe I just need to give up and get used to it.

PuzzlingPuzzle Mon 18-Mar-19 00:01:18

Maybe ban him from watching anything except the BBC from now on?! grin I have to confess that I this and I worry it makes me sound like a bit of a twit with my very British accent but I do have the excuse of actually living in the US and I’m raising a very American daughter. My friends do laugh at me when I go back to the U.K. for visits though! I would be a bit irritated by this in someone with no ties to the US, especially if it invites questions like are you American, have you lived in the US etc. and he has to embarrassingly explain he just copies what he’s heard on TV. That said, he’s an adult and you can’t dictate how he speaks so if he doesn’t want to change you’ll have to learn to live with it. I’m curious though, has he always done it or is it a recent development?

Sleeplesss Mon 18-Mar-19 00:02:31

He's always done it Puzzle

RagingWhoreBag Mon 18-Mar-19 00:04:19

Ha my DP does this when he’s been to the US on business a lot, so at least he has an excuse. I do point out that we don’t put an s on the end of ‘anyway’(s) in this country and that the word y’all doesn’t exist grin. He doesn’t like it but I know he’d be the first to take the piss if it were someone else doing it. It usually takes him a few weeks to get out of it. If it went on longer I’d find it annoying! He also started calling me ‘babes’ at one point. I’ve just about accepted babe, but the extra s was a step too far and I told him so. Not an Americanism that one, but equally annoying for such a tiny thing!!

However, if it bothered him I’d feel bad for criticising him and probably just silently correct him in my head!

LEELULUMPKIN Mon 18-Mar-19 00:04:41

You are being VVU and you are very lucky it has taken him 10 years to snap. Who are you to correct his vocabulary unless it is being offensive?

You say "I would want to be corrected" you are not him are you?

You sound like his Mother and there is no way I would have stuck around with someone constantly making me feel stupid.

Sethis Mon 18-Mar-19 00:05:18

I'd be more worried about why it pisses you off so much tbh. Is it worth damaging your relationship over? Because that's what you're doing.

sweeneytoddsrazor Mon 18-Mar-19 00:06:35

My children all late teens and twenties do this all the time. Fire truck, elevator mailman and so on. I blame Zac and Cody, The Wizards of Waverley place and Hannah Montana amongst others.

Dotty1970 Mon 18-Mar-19 00:06:59

It's one thing I correct the children on if they do it and certainly would dh, it really annoys me... Keep correcting, f*ck worrying your talking 'down' to him, better still, get one of them fart cans or loud noise ones and press it each time 👍

IchWill Mon 18-Mar-19 00:08:53

If he uses the term "reach out", then you must LTB. 😅

Drogosnextwife Mon 18-Mar-19 00:10:12

😂 that would piss me off too OP. I would probably correct it aswell. My DP sometimes comes home with new phrases that he's picked up at work, then uses them to death.

NCforthis2019 Mon 18-Mar-19 00:13:32

Urghh I hate being corrected - it’s almost like an ‘I’m better than you’. I am very American influenced (grew up with only American tv) and an American system, my husband commented on it once and I told him I didnt appreciate it and found it rude.

ZippyBungleandGeorge Mon 18-Mar-19 00:17:11


BettyBooJustDoinTheDoo Mon 18-Mar-19 00:22:12

I’m with you OP it would irritate me as well, I know language evolves but I do take exception to perfectly acceptable common used English words being replaced with the American version for no good reason, such as takeaway now being takeout, pushchairs are now strollers etc, just why? I’m sure Americans don’t say mobile instead of cell or nappy instead of diaper! Even though a lot of words now are seeming to be swapped for the American version I have yet to hear anyone call their mobile a cell, utter cringe! For that alone have my first ever LTB grin

Quintella Mon 18-Mar-19 00:23:45

Nah, I'd find that irritating too. Cell phone my arse.

LilQueenie Mon 18-Mar-19 00:31:00

Has it done it since childhood? Sometimes you just have to leave it. DD had a perfect london accent since the day she could speak. She never watched anything to obtain it nor have we ever visited.

Mintychoc1 Mon 18-Mar-19 00:31:33

I’m with you OP. It would drive me insane and I’d have to correct him.

RugbyRugby Mon 18-Mar-19 00:35:51

* I have never made an issue of this but normally correct him in a jokey way rather than make a fuss of it.*

This is your problem. You should say to him (And should have told him ages ago) that it irritates you when he uses Americanisms and explained why it irritates you. Then he knows what it is that bugs you and has a choice as to what to do. You could have (And still could) do this without "making a fuss" just be honest.

Repeated correcting without a proper explanation is just as annoying - it smacks a bit of a teacher with an errant child. It's no way to treat an adult.

BadLad Mon 18-Mar-19 00:36:15

Has he gone as far as to say that he "could care less" yet?

That's the point at which the police have to be called.

RugbyRugby Mon 18-Mar-19 00:37:06

YANBU to find it annoying. It sure is pardner.

But YABU to have dealt with it by "correcting" rather than being straight.

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