5 Load the cutlery basket handle-down, separating pieces as much as possible. Place knives, forks and spoons in the cutlery basket, handle down. In general, dangerous or sharp knives should be washed by hand, as they dull in the dishwasher. Any wood handled or wood utensils should not go in the dishwasher. Distribute the cutlery loosely, and position the soiled surfaces of the spoons and forks apart so that the water can reach them. Separation is key. Long pieces of cutlery can block the spray from tubes, nozzles and rotating devices. These items should be laid down in the upper basket. Lay larger serving utensils in the top section of the dishwasher. Arrange serving spoons with the bowl facing down so that water does not collect in them.
Handles down except for sharp knives which went in handles up if I couldn't be bothered to wash them by hand. All the same type put in together (eg all forks together) to make for quick unloading and putting in the right section of the cutlery drawer.
Handles down. I always wash sharp knives by hand. And definitely alternate spoons and forks.
There's a definite science to how I load the dishwasher, to get the most out of the load and to make sure things come out clean and as dry as possible. My husband, though he possesses many other admirable qualities, doesn't understand the Ways of the Dishwasher, so if he's tried to help by loading it, I usually end up having to rearrange things into their proper order. This is not "OCD" or controlling behavior, obviously, and yes there is a right way and wrong way to load a dishwasher.