Posted here more for traffic really.
Back story-I grew up in London and, as such, never bothered learning to drive. I could get everywhere I needed to easily on trains/buses/tube. Moved to Kent when I was 21 with baby DD, to a town with great rail links and OK buses. DSis lived round the corner so would take me to do a big shop etc, although eventually I shopped online because it was easier.
Just over 3 years ago, I decided I'd bite the bullet and take some driving lessons. My DDad was very ill with cancer, and I thought maybe it was wise to start driving so if something happened during the night, I could get there easily.
To my astonishment, I loved it. I've always been a nervous passenger, so I think maybe being in control was what I needed. Had a bunch of lessons, passed my theory test and then started to talk about taking my test.
And then my dad died, a lot sooner than we expected, so I had a few weeks off to help mum sort out the funeral, and to grieve of course.
I had another lesson about 2 weeks after dad's funeral, and felt really jittery and shaky the whole time. I had a bit of a scare with a bloody ocado van that came tearing round a blind bend, and while I would have been OK before, this time it shook me up in such a way that I couldn't stop myself crying.
And that was it, I never had another lesson with that instructor again. I tried another instructor, but just didn't gel with him at all and he seemed less understanding about my anxieties around driving. So I stopped altogether.
3 years later, we now live very rurally and while I manage day to day, DS and I both have appts coming up at a hospital there is no easy public transport route to. It's just under 3 hrs on buses, compared to a 50 minute drive. They will both be regular weekly appts and I need to start driving soon. But I just can't. Even typing this post I'm crying because the thought of it is overwhelming. There's no logic to it, I don't know anyone who's died in a car accident, and it seems to have been triggered by my dad dying of cancer
AIBU to think I can ever get over this fear?
Has anyone successfully got over a real fear of driving? And I don't mean just not liking it, I mean actually shaking everytime you get behind the wheel. I'm still a nervous passenger, more so now I think. But I need to get it sorted and soon.
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