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So AIBU to ask that family members stay away from a simple tea party type gathering if one of their children has just gone down with a contagious childhood disease? For context, they have more than one child, so could have another child harbouring the infectious illness, that's not yet showing symptoms or had any kind of treatment. Also the infected child will only have had 24hrs of antibiotics by tomorrow morning and the party is lunchtime.
This gathering will be special to my family but we rarely see these family members at any other time. So AIBU to ask the family to stay away?
Depends what it is. When my eldest had strep throat (which is contagious) I was told it was fine for him to be around other kids and back in school 24 hours after starting antibiotics as long as he felt up to it. I think it would be overly cautious to ask family members to stay away because they might go on to have a disease. Unless of course anyone has a weak immune system.
Family wasn't forthcoming with information, we only found out through social media and gave our condolences that they will miss tomorrow. We were then told that only one of them has it and has antibiotics.
I'm therefore assuming they were going to come without saying anything prior?
YANBU at all. My younger brother got 'Rheumatic Fever' as a consequence of Scarlet Fever- he was unable to walk for months afterwards and even now suffers from rheumatic/joint pain (20 years later). Scarlet fever can lead to heart complications. Definitely ask them not to come.
Thank you all for your input. My concern at present is with the siblings being possible carriers/not yet symptomatic and spreading the disease to others, inc my own children. We have spoken to the family and it was decided that it's best they stay home, but I don't think they're happy about it!
I was in a similar situation a couple of years ago - dp about to start chemotherapy so I asked everyone on the morning of our gathering to let me know if they weren't 100% so dp could decide whether or not to come. (Potentially huge risk to his health and treatment plan)
One family member turned up with grumpy child, that evening she texted me to say he'd got chicken pox! Other family members told me she said he'd been unwell and glands swolen but she'd decided to bring him anyway.
Absolutely ok to ask op, whether they're truthful in their response is another matter.
@lilibet2 so sorry to hear the complications your brother had/has. I think as it's something many children go down with, people tend to minimise how serious things could get. Just like Chicken Pox (here in the UK).
Sorry for the drip feed, but myself and my children have minor health issues and seem to pick up most bugs that do the rounds, so my judgement is a bit clouded by not wanting yet another week stuck indoors/time off work, as well as having poorly children!
I'm just hoping the rest of the family feels the same as us in regards to spreading it and no fall out occurs because of it!