My siblings have been saying for years that we should return to our fav childhood holiday destination in about 4 years from now. My older sibling in particular has been very vocal about it and when I said we wouldn't be able to afford it without great sacrifice for the next 5 years, said I was being selfish.
Last time this was discussed, my yearly salary was the same as it would cost for me, DH and my kids to go on this 2 week holiday (10k).
At the time I was working part time, we were getting in loads of debt and our parents were financially bailing us out regularly. We argued about it and I made it clear I wouldn't be able to afford it.
For what it is worth, neither sibling has children so it is more affordable (at least for my elder but I think she expects my Dad to pay a good chunk of the holiday- not that she has asked him about it) for them.
Just before xmas I managed to get full time work and we are now clearing the debt and doing much better. I had an accident in the new year and the insurance company have offered us a good chunk of money. DH has suggested we use it as a stepping stone towards taking the kids to Disney. It would cover about 1/3 of the costs so we would need to save up a fair bit more over the next few years, but without this money, we probably wouldn't be able to do it for alot longer, if at all.
Disney is the same value holiday and very similar to the family holiday my siblings want us to go on. I mentioned to DH that it was going to cause an arguement and he said if he is spending that amount of money, he isn't spending 2 weeks with my controlling and demanding sibling. I agree with him, but the arguement is still likely to happen!!
Are we being unreasonable using this money on just us and our kids? I want to do what is best for my kids but am made to feel like I have "chosen them" and neglected my wider family quite often.
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To go on this holiday despite saying repeatedly we cannot afford it?
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hidinginthenightgarden · 16/03/2019 18:55
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