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Aibu with shop assistants comment 'wrecking the place'

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Harmonyrays Sat 16-Mar-19 10:59:35

Browsing in a large charity shop wuth a toddler pottering about. In the childs section, i was looking at books while she was looking at toys getting things out admittedlt leaving 3 or 4 on the floor. I was just turning aeound to pick them hp when an assistant came over and said 'could you please not let your child wreck the place'.

Thoughts please as im annoyed at the comment as shes a very yound child who was doing what kids do, i was close by ready to put things away and was going to help the charity by buying several items.

SoupDragon Fri 22-Mar-19 09:25:49

You don't sound cool in any way

Clearly a complete failure in comprehension there given the name clearly starts with the word "not" 😂😂

notacooldad Fri 22-Mar-19 09:15:45

You don't sound cool in any way regardless of address
I'm definitely not cool!
I'm too old for that nonsense!!🤣🤣

Latteaday123 Thu 21-Mar-19 18:19:20

notacooldad I assumed from your username?? You don't sound cool in any way regardless of address

ColeHawlins Thu 21-Mar-19 14:53:09

I'm still hoping for an explanation about the cat and the rabbit.

AureliaJane Thu 21-Mar-19 14:46:42

This thread is a wild ride from start to finish. Started as a toddler making a small amount of mess and a shop assistant making a not totally unreasonable but slightly sarky comment and has evolved into various lectures on the decline of manners / community / childhood / parenting etc, as well as a list of the horrific dangers lurking in every corner of even the most innocuous charity shop.

For those of you making furious, trenchant comments from either side of the debate here, ask yourselves - is it honestly worth it?

TrendyNorthLondonTeen Thu 21-Mar-19 14:27:43


llizzie Thu 21-Mar-19 14:25:17

PaulHollywoodsSexGut : nasty language to put in print. Is that what you teach your children?

PaulHollywoodsSexGut Thu 21-Mar-19 09:13:30

Oh this whole stupid thread can fuck off

llizzie Thu 21-Mar-19 03:27:07

for 'country' read 'counter' sorry about the typo

llizzie Thu 21-Mar-19 03:26:02

Children have to learn at the earliest how to conduct themselves in public and training does not have to be hard. Even a toddler can understand that 'out' has a different set of rules to 'indoors'. I started teaching my children how to behave in restaurants and tea rooms at a very early age. They were little monsters at home, but in a restaurant or tea shop they had manners to die for. They were not allowed to play with toys they had not paid for. Every time we went out of a shop they were searched for 'take homes' and were promptly marched back to the country and made to apologise to the assistant for helping themselves.

notacooldad Wed 20-Mar-19 23:46:47

Latteaday123 Pat on the back for you sir.
Wtf are you talking about with the ' sir' business?

WeepingWillowWeepingWino Wed 20-Mar-19 20:37:45

I’ll admit to not seeing that post when I posted that

SoupDragon Wed 20-Mar-19 18:52:55

I would have expected at least a fractured wrist.

You mean just like the previous poster who broke their wrist tripping over a toy left on a shop floor by a child?

WeepingWillowWeepingWino Wed 20-Mar-19 18:45:07

siam sounds like you had a lucky escape, I mean, anything could have happened in that charity shop. Anything! You were lucky to leave in one piece, I would have expected at least a fractured wrist.

SoupDragon Wed 20-Mar-19 17:43:34


Latteaday123 Wed 20-Mar-19 17:28:24

notacooldad yes exactly. The same sensible point of view as myself. Pat on the back for you sir.

notacooldad Wed 20-Mar-19 16:29:26

@Siameasy Finally somebody taking some sense!!
When you say someone is talking sense what you actually mean here is that someone has the same point if view as you. That doesn't necessarily mean it is sense.

Latteaday123 Wed 20-Mar-19 16:00:26

@Siameasy Finally somebody taking some sense!!! Thank you!!

Siameasy Wed 20-Mar-19 12:35:06

Just been in the charity shop actually. There was a child playing with three toys on the floor. The mum was a metre away looking at kids’ books. NOTHING BAD HAPPENED. No one died or was injured. No one appeared offended.
(In our CS there are many toys displayed on the floor or on the bottom shelf. I thought of calling the police though as a child touched a toy)

ColeHawlins Wed 20-Mar-19 11:55:12

Exasperation is not the same thing as agression. Neither is curtness.

BloodyDisgrace Wed 20-Mar-19 11:37:59

keep in the pram

BloodyDisgrace Wed 20-Mar-19 11:37:17

Your child is only your problem and shouldn't add more work for others (by scattering toys around etc), but, equally, that sales assistant should have been polite. Yes, they might be fucking annoyed at your kid, true, but should have worded it as "please could you stop your child doing that and put the toys back? Thank you".

I hate rudeness and snappiness. If I were you I'd keel the child in the pram in the first place, but if someone spoke to me like that - even for a reason - I'd say "i am really really sorry. But I wish you said it less aggressively".

notacooldad Wed 20-Mar-19 07:16:07

I think she summed the situation up pretty accurately to be honest.

UnspiritualHome Wed 20-Mar-19 07:12:39

I don't think it's me who has lost the plot, Latte. There was time for the child to get the toys out and put them on the floor, and for the assistant to notice, get concerned about the situation and come over to talk to OP. It blatantly wasn't a few seconds.

Latteaday123 Wed 20-Mar-19 06:37:04

@UnspiritualHome honestly!!!!! She didn't say she was reading the books. She was looking at books. Browsing...... You know..... When you pick up a book, look at the cover... Perhaps scan the back. All while your child is at the periphery of your vision. Think you've lost the plot a bit and we are way off track from the op. I have found this thread utterly amazing!

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