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I feel stuck in a rut

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Namechangedtoprotect Sat 16-Mar-19 08:23:00

AIBU to want more?
I feel stuck, I have to work to earn money, my job is getting bigger for less money (adj for inflation) and my prospects are shit. I have a health condition so I'm worried about moving company. I also have bad anxiety and low self confidence.
My personal life is stuck. I feel so low all the time. My son has a life long condition and my mum passed away recently. I tried counselling but it didn't help. My husband is trying but I have no joy in anything so I keep buying holidays and things and trips out to try and fill the void.
What do I need todo to sort out my life or will it be grey and hard forever. I worry about the effect I'm having on my kids. I have no laughter or fun in me.

GirlRaisedInTheSouth Sat 16-Mar-19 08:24:05

What would you like to do with your life? If you could do anything?

Namechangedtoprotect Sat 16-Mar-19 08:25:41

I would love to take my children out of f school and travel the world, staying in amazing places and experiencing everything. Or win enough money so I can stop working, take over childcare so DH can follow his dream

JennaRossetti Sat 16-Mar-19 08:26:36

How old are your kids?

Namechangedtoprotect Sat 16-Mar-19 08:27:28

They are ten

JennaRossetti Sat 16-Mar-19 08:30:16

Do it before they start secondary school if you want longer than 6 weeks. Are you able to save up all your annual leave and go on a long holiday during the school holidays?

Namechangedtoprotect Sat 16-Mar-19 08:33:23

1) I would have to leave work if I wanted more than a week off
2) bills still need to be paid
3) I couldn't take my kids out of school, they like going and they need routine

All my plans are selfish, but I can't see a way out of the rut I am in

GirlRaisedInTheSouth Sat 16-Mar-19 09:12:30

Do you own your home?
What is your DH’s dream?

hidinginthenightgarden Sat 16-Mar-19 09:17:20

You need something new in your life. A hobby or social events.
When I felt like this I joined the gym. It has a kids club so we can go as a family. We really enjoy it!

Springwalk Sat 16-Mar-19 09:18:38

I would start with a holiday. You sound like you need one. Then work from there.

haba Sat 16-Mar-19 09:24:28

If your children crave routine, then traveling the world doesn't sound like a good thing for them, it sounds as though it would be nightmarish!

I get the need to flee, I really do, but this sounds like pure escapism fantasy.

Namechangedtoprotect Sat 16-Mar-19 09:49:08

It's is escapism fantasy. All I do at the moment is dream. What can I do to make my life more fulfilling? I don't have time for anything other then kids or work and my next holiday is may

haba Sat 16-Mar-19 10:48:14

Will your children ever be able to live independently? That's the starting point.

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