What should I do?

Is it her idea or is she being put up to it by her friends? Is it to 'fit in'?

Im pretty sure it's her idea. The friend se he has tonight if a good friend and has been for 7 years

Totally overreacting in my opinion but I find the concept of your child being able to "steal" family food incomprehensible.

She's got a friend over for a sleep over and she's taken some "everyday" biscuits I can't think of a single reason to be concerned about this

@BirdieInTheHand agree

We always say if they are hungry they can eat whenever they want but it must be healthy so fruit or a yoghurt

That'd be why she had to 'steal' the biscuits then, because she wouldn't be allowed them. Poor kid.

I would let it go. She will know that you aren’t happy and that will be punishment enough. Choose your battles would be my advice. My daughter did something similar years ago. She is 17 now and a lovely, sociable, caring and responsible girl. Try not to worry.

Goodness I just can’t comprehend this ‘stealing’ of food, my son has always had free access to a snack cupboard. Because of this he’s learnt to manage his hunger and food cravings. You’ll make your child obsessed with food when they’re old enough to buy their own?

Well you sound as though you are keeping her ion a pretty tight leash. I would imagine that's why she doesn't want to tell you, she thinks you will say no and give her into trouble. 2 punishments for taking some biscuits is a bit OTT IMO. Of you don't ease up it might get worse. Trust me I hid everything from my parents.

understand how annoying this is, and that it's very much the principle, the sneaking etc - but mine do this too, they want to make their sleepover special, it's not ideal but not worth embarrassing your DD in front of her friend, I think you should pick your battles

YABU. Massive over reaction. It's food in her home not a tenner out of your purse.

If you think you have worries now, with a “stolen” biscuit. Just you wait 4 years😂. Good luck OP with your DD who always does as she is told.

I think she's just getting to the age where they need to be a little bit rebellious, push boundaries. I think it's absolutely normal. A teen or tween who never, ever did anything 'secret' would be more of a worry imo!

I also think that if her idea of rebellion is taking some biscuits from the snack box you've really got nothing to worry about!

I think just telling her she shouldn't have done it is enough. It gives her a sense of 'i've done something a bit naughty' but doesn't make a massive issue out of something that is really minor!

My god surely this is a massive over reaction. I thought you were going to say she was hiding alcohol or fags (which would be a worry). Nicking some biscuits - which she would have been allowed anyway is nothing. It's natural and to some extent healthy that as she gets older she wants to assert her own authority a bit and not ask permission for everything she does. As long as it's just a few biscuits I think you need to relax!

Wasn't just the biscuits...

Wow don’t complain in 20 years when she goes nc with you or ends up with eating issues. It’s a packet of biscuits ffs unless you are struggling financially you are massively overreacting

"you can eat whatever you want as long as its fruit"

That'll be why!

She's 11 you need to give her a bit of freedom. A few biscuits aren't going to hurt her

Serveral packs of chocolate covered biscuits an hour after dinner which included a generous slice of cake for pudding and sweets after school. Pretty sure I'm aloud to limit crap food if I feel the need.

She took snacks from the kitchen of her family home. I'm shocked that you'd refer to that as stealing.

God I thought you were going to say weed or alcohol - not chocolate biscuits! God forbid a couple of kids would want a treat in a sleepover. Your child is probably embarrassed by your wierd puritanical attitude.

Age 9 ish I used to ask mum if I could have a biscuit, if she said yes I went and grabbed a club or a kitkat from the school snack drawer instead.....until the day she asked “when I say yes to a biscuit, are you taking a school snack instead?”
I denied it, but I never did it again, until as a teen -shock, horror-I scoffed whatever I could grab before my siblings ate it first.
Why, if they say they are hungry, must it always be healthy? Sometimes you just want a biscuit rather than an apple.
I guess this was showing off and being sneaky with a friend. It was fun and rebellious. Maybe the friend was hungry and didn’t want a boring healthy snack.
YABU and over reacted. If you are this controlling over a biscuit I can’t help thinking there will be a massive rebellion in later years.
BTW I am now mid 40’s, honors degree, HCP, own my own home so sneaking biscuits didn’t lead me into shoplifting and mugging old ladies

Jesus, fancy a sleepover with friends without even some sodding biscuits! You need to lighten up OP or you'll end up with real reasons to be worried

Relax it's a sleepover.
Or she will just want to sleep over elsewhere...

Bit OTT op.

Pretty sure I'm aloud [sic] to limit crap food if I feel the need*

Sure you can. But there's a world of difference between restricting "crap" and talking in terms of your DD stealing chocolate covered (shock horror!) biscuits.

Carry on restricting family food and you've got a world of eating disorders and unhappiness ahead of you