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My friend talks about my child.....

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FizzyGreenWater Fri 15-Mar-19 11:44:06

Be relieved!

She isn't a friend.

But yes, the temptation to text back 'Didn't happen lol' would be immense!!!

Rainbunny Fri 15-Mar-19 11:43:16

Back away from her OP, she sounds toxic and I hate to say it but her child likely will grow up with these tendencies, hell she's already encouraging her child to tell tales to her. Hopefully your child will not want anything to to do with this other child and will naturally drift away from her.

mummyodell Fri 15-Mar-19 11:41:22

I'm am just so surprised at her, we were friends before kids so never, ever thought she would be like this! I am moving away from this friendship which is a shame but she has now started meeting mutual friends without asking me.... so I am assuming it is so she can talk about me/my kid. And actually..... I feel relieved not sad!

Stifledlife Fri 15-Mar-19 11:40:36

Reply "..and you're telling me this because..?"

RearEnded00 Fri 15-Mar-19 11:40:19

Gah!!! I hate this!! She's not a friend. She has competitive mother syndrome and will spend her time constantly making out to you that her child is so much better. She's also a gossip.

Rather than spell all this out in a text and give her more fodder, I would just quietly withdraw from involvement and give her a little opportunity as possible to carry on her games, unless she directly contacts you with something and then Margot33's reply is a good one.

You will find that you are not the only person she does this too. Focus on the nice people that your DD could play with and make sure she has interests outside of school. Best of luck.

Purplecatshopaholic Fri 15-Mar-19 11:39:01

She is not your friend....

QueenoftheBiscuitTin Fri 15-Mar-19 11:37:21

As pp said, just repeat 'It didn't happen' until she gets the message and shuts up.

Fatasfook Fri 15-Mar-19 11:33:06

This is why I don’t do ‘friends’

Margot33 Fri 15-Mar-19 11:28:50

Wow that is so childish! Next time she sends you messages about what your child's supposed to have done/said. Just say, " Im not interested thanks. But if you have any concerns then talk to school." I had a friendship from my childrens school which soured. Due to the mother shouting at me and my (5/6) daughter that she was bullying her son. After all the screaming stopped I just turned my back and walked away. I needed to sit down calmly with my daughter and find out what happened. She said," nothing, he's just not nice so we don't play with him" The next day I spoke with school to ask if there was an issue that needed dealing with. It turned out her son was bullying other children and they were now retaliating! They had a word with my 'friend' and she ended up changing schools. Because her son would never do anything bad!!! Some parent's are bat shit crazy about their kids that they have to fight their battles for them!!!

Shockers Fri 15-Mar-19 11:21:07

Her DD has worked out that gossip will get her mum’s attention. That’s pretty sad.

Easterbunnyiscomingsoon Fri 15-Mar-19 11:18:54

Ask your friend if she is also <insert dc age here >?
Then block her.

steppemum Fri 15-Mar-19 11:15:08

I would distance the friendship.
It is up to you whether or not you tell her why.
I might reply to one of her texts with - you seem to believe your child with everything they say about mine. But that isn't backed up by school, who are very happy with her. Your own child is not perfect, and does similar things, but you seem to believe none of those happens. I am finding it too exhausting being friends with someone who denies her own child's faults while insist on pointing out every imagined thing they here via gossip about mine. Let's go our separate ways.

Newadventure Fri 15-Mar-19 11:14:56

Foooooooooo.. This would piss me off so much. I'd probably let it slide the first time but after that id be telling her to keep quiet.
Sounds like she's putting your dd down at any opportunity and that isn't on.
Tell her you don't want to hear it!

MummyStruggles Fri 15-Mar-19 11:14:29

Obviously, she's not a friend. Kid's tell tales all the time and she needs to realise this. I'd tell her next time, if she has any serious concerns, to take it up with the school.

TwoRoundabouts Fri 15-Mar-19 11:11:44

Your "friend" is mad.

Time for you to limit contact. Don't respond to her messages.

If she kicks up explain that children should be able to have friendships with one another without their parents intervention, as parents intervention into their relationships is setting them up for unhealthy relationships as adults.

MumW Fri 15-Mar-19 11:11:04

She's not a friend but just text back/tell her "it didn't happen" on repeat.

kbPOW Fri 15-Mar-19 11:10:17

She's not your friend. Next time she messages you, send a curt reply advising her to raise any concerns with school and that you don't want her to contact you any more

mummyodell Fri 15-Mar-19 11:08:18

My friend has a child the same age as mine, they are now in the same class at school. She is constantly telling me tales her child has told her about mine and usually it's not very nice. Her child is of course, perfect, the one time a few years ago I asked her about something my child had told me she just said. Didn't happen. Which means my child is a liar! Since that time, I have never told or asked my friend anything my child has told me. Even when I feel really angry at some of the things she is saying to me. She even texts me sometimes with what her child has told her has been going on. Does this happen to anyone else?

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