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Is a teacher sending a personal thank letter to a child's home over stepping a boundary?

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BoobiesToTheRescue Thu 14-Mar-19 16:39:19

Or normal?

I was surprised when DS got a thank you card through the post today, hand written from one of his school teachers.

Probably totally normal, I was just wondering really.

ScatteredMama82 Thu 14-Mar-19 16:41:45

Thanking DS for what? I think it's nice. Our kids are at a small village school and the reception teacher writes and delivers thank you cards for all her Christmas/end of term gifts. It's a nice personal touch and I really appreciate it.

DoneLikeAKipper Thu 14-Mar-19 16:43:02

Context is everything....

AirBiscuit Thu 14-Mar-19 16:43:03

It depends. If your DS is a teenager and the note said "thank you for the lovely evening snugglebums" then I would suspect a line has been crossed. Otherwise it is probably ok

QueenofCBA Thu 14-Mar-19 16:44:07

Postcards home are a form of reward in many schools. How is this overstepping a boundary?

raincloud3 Thu 14-Mar-19 16:44:09

I agree it's a nice gesture. It's difficult to determine if she was stepping over the boundaries without knowing what she was thankful for.

Also, perhaps in the age of GDPR, this is crossing a boundary due to the misuse of a persons personal date.

Takethebuscuitandthesink Thu 14-Mar-19 16:44:16

More info needed

WorraLiberty Thu 14-Mar-19 16:44:32

I'm not sure whether to laugh or cry at how weird and suspicious people have become nowadays, when it comes to their kids sad

Overstepping what 'boundary'??

MigGril Thu 14-Mar-19 16:45:32

Well are DD high school they send out post cards hand written from the teachers to the children when they have done good work. This also happens in the school I work at, so if that's hat it is then totally normal.

AssassinatedBeauty Thu 14-Mar-19 16:45:33

It's very normal and some schools expect their teachers to do this regularly.

SmileEachDay Thu 14-Mar-19 16:46:32

I send post cards home to my classes - praising work, effort, attitude - thanking for being helpful, kind, going out of their way to do something.

What did card say exactly?

Crunchymum Thu 14-Mar-19 16:47:05

Yes OP, please do provide a little context.

I am assuming it wasn't hand delivered?

My kids school is trying to move away from reward treats (food or toy based) and they use the 'postcard sent to home' thing another poster mentioned. My kids adore receiving post. It's a fab idea.

LuckyAmy1986 Thu 14-Mar-19 16:47:58

Isn’t this done in a lot of schools?! I think it’s lovely, my DC are always super excited to get theirs

ThreeBagsFullofWool Thu 14-Mar-19 16:48:12

'Expressing Thanks' to be renamed 'Overstepping Boundaries'

FFS, really? 😂😂😂

MemorylikeDory Thu 14-Mar-19 16:48:11

Totally normal and even expected at some schools. Also likely that the teacher has written it, copied it to be kept in a file in school and then addressed and sent via the office staff. Unless there's a massive drop feed to come.

Flicketyflack Thu 14-Mar-19 16:48:21

It is good manners smile

GarthFunkel Thu 14-Mar-19 16:48:55

Ours does this, they are school postcards, not something the teacher has personally bought in Paperchase or something!

MemorylikeDory Thu 14-Mar-19 16:49:16

*drip 🙄

EmeraldShamrock Thu 14-Mar-19 16:49:50

No. It seems thoughtful to me.
If it was a Valentine card, then it would be strange.

user1483387154 Thu 14-Mar-19 16:50:31

Really? That is so thoughtful and kind

whiteroseredrose Thu 14-Mar-19 16:51:15

Normal. DD's primary often sent 'well done' postcards out.

cherrryontop Thu 14-Mar-19 16:52:41

Child's age?
Thanks for what exactly?

Can't think how sending a letter to show appreciation for something is over stepping boundaries. It's not like the teacher turned up at the house wanting to be invited in confused

FrancisCrawford Thu 14-Mar-19 16:53:22

I’d never heard of this, but what a lovely idea

Highway Thu 14-Mar-19 16:54:22

We regularly send out praise postcards to our students. They are (obviously) hand written, you've done an excellent job in English, great quotations! Or Thank you for carrying all my books, it was very helpful! Miss Highway​

Highway Thu 14-Mar-19 16:55:18

We, as tutors, also send Birthday cards out in the post!

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