DD aged 3 has plenty of lovely clothes but she has 3 particular items which are her “favourites”. She wears them until they’re dirty, I wash them and once they’re back in her wardrobe/drawers again and she spots them she wants to wear them again. She probably wears them once a fortnight to once every 3 weeks depending on how quickly I wash and dry them. (Items are a particular dress, a particular t shirt and a particular pair of leggings).
She sees my Ex once a week. And he’s just text me after I’ve dropped her off saying he wants to see her in “different” clothes, as she’s wearing her favourite dress again.
I have no problem with her wearing her “favourites” she wears other things (with a bit of persuasion) but just wants these particular items when they’re available and I am the same in that I tend to go back to the same items of clothes in my wardrobe if they’re available.
Ex knows he is welcome to change her into whatever he wants her to wear but doesn’t provide clothes for his house for her, so I kind of think it’s up to me. One of the items was a Christmas present and was quite expensive (not bought by me) so it’s also nice she’s getting plenty of wear out of an expensive item – I also have bought bigger sizes of 2 of the 3 items so as she’s grown she’s had her “favourites” in the correct size Don’t even think she’s noticed either.
AIBU to think she’s 3 and can decide what she wants to wear as long as it’s weather and age appropriate? Or is Ex right that I need to rotate her other clothes more?
AIBU?
To let DD wear the same clothes on repeat?
SayYesToTheToddler · 14/03/2019 12:43
She’s fine to wear her favourite clothes, mine all went through that phase. Spider-Man outfit was one I remember distinctly 
What’s your ex inferring here?
As long as the clothes are clean and weather, age and activity appropriate of course YANBU.
My 11 year old daughter has 6 identical black t shirts and 3 identical pairs of black jeans - he does also have about 10 other different t shirts, 3 other pairs of jeans and a few pairs of tracksuit bottoms as well as shorts and sports kit - he puts everything in the wash every night, but he does appear to wear identical outfits more than 50% of the time (we don't have school uniform) I see nothing wrong with this. I've just noticed that he and DD are dressed identically in black socks, black jeans and identical ling sleeved black t shirt today too!
Does your ex think his DD should dress to please him, or herself?
In a year or so she will be in school uniform and wear the same thing every day
She's starting school in September 
why not just be slow washing favourite item(s) so it is not available for the next couple of visits? Or be extra quick washing so it is dirty next time the visits come round?
I do try and persuade her into other items but these are her favourites. I do already have to wait a couple of days for it to dry as I have no dryer.
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