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How to leave a cliquey mums WhatsApp group

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Lapetitemaz Thu 14-Mar-19 12:08:40

Hi mums

I’m after some advice. My twins are in reception and at the start of term some of the cliquey mums set up a What’sapp group and added me to it.

Over the course of the school year I’ve taken a step back from the group and declined social invites with them as I’m increasingly uncomfortable with how cliquey and also bitchy it’s becoming. I want no part of this. What’s also made it awkward is that someone added into the group chat a mum who is notorious for bitching/gossiping/back-stabbing (she did this to me friend) and I just do not trust this girl at all as can already see her working her usual tricks on some of these mums.

I guess what I’m asking is does anyone suggest a polite message I can send to explain why I’m leaving the group?! Or do you think not say anything. I don’t want to make a big deal out of it (and give any more reason for bitchiness!)

Thank you

10IAR Thu 14-Mar-19 12:10:11

I'd mute notifications and say nothing if you don't want to cause a fuss.

Otherwise I'd just say group chats aren't for me (which is true, I find them really pressurising) and retreat politely.

Nameynameychangers Thu 14-Mar-19 12:12:43

Just say you're trying to cut down on social media as its distracting so you are deleting a few apps including WhatsApp to try and refocus.

WFTisgoingoninmyhead Thu 14-Mar-19 12:12:55

Click on the group title, scroll down and EXIT GROUP it really is that simple, why would you bother about causing a fuss.

stopfuckingshoutingatme Thu 14-Mar-19 12:13:46

Hide or archive the group

I know what you mean a complete exit would cause more harm

SpenglerOswald Thu 14-Mar-19 12:15:46

Just leave. As if adults get in a tizzy about shit like this.

Coffeepot72 Thu 14-Mar-19 12:19:36

I'd mute notifications and say nothing if you don't want to cause a fuss

That's what I'd do. If they're as toxic as you think, any formal 'exit' could be unpleasant.

LeopardPrintKnickers Thu 14-Mar-19 12:19:47

As the others say, just leave. But, they could be nicer than you're giving them credit for - surely they're only cliquey if they're excluding others and it sounds like they're actively trying to include you?

Bouledeneige Thu 14-Mar-19 12:21:17

Just dont read it or join in. No announcement necessary.

Hazlenutpie Thu 14-Mar-19 12:22:28

Just leave, never apologise, never explain.

Weebitawks Thu 14-Mar-19 12:23:12

Just leave.

WarpedGalaxy Thu 14-Mar-19 12:24:41

Another who fails to see the need for a big exit announcement. Just stop posting, hide the conversation or whatever you do on WhatsApp and then in a while quietly unsubscribe or, again, whatever you do on WhatsApp.

FullOfJellyBeans Thu 14-Mar-19 12:24:55

Like PP I'd just mute notifications for that group or leave it and say nothing. If you flounce off they'll be even less likely to reflect on what you have to say.

AnyWalls Thu 14-Mar-19 12:26:05

I need details of the bitchiness wink

Love hearing about the bat-shitness that goes on with grown women....

maddening Thu 14-Mar-19 12:26:51

I would just stay mute but keep access - always good to know what is being said Imo.

BlueMerchant Thu 14-Mar-19 12:28:32

Agree with pp.

babysharkah Thu 14-Mar-19 12:29:27

Just mute, don't get involved.

toomuchtooold Thu 14-Mar-19 12:37:06

Fucking WhatsApp. One of the school mums here reckons it's an app for booking other mums in to look after your kids. When I got fed up fielding her calls I just muted her and when she asked me about it I said I'd had problems with my phone and had to uninstall WhatsApp. She probably knew I was lying, but that's all to the good.

Ginkythefangedhellpigofdoom Thu 14-Mar-19 12:44:00

I agree with muting.

If nothing else it means you can see where they are meeting etc so you aren't there to bump in to them!

JaneEyre07 Thu 14-Mar-19 12:44:32

I've got a group that I've just muted. Less drama than exiting.

NotSorry Thu 14-Mar-19 12:47:02

I hate that WhatsApp allows others to add you without permission

I hate that WhatsApp tells others you've left the group

I just mute the group

mummyofdaughters Thu 14-Mar-19 12:49:45

What @SpenglerOswald and @WFTisgoingoninmyhead said. Don't even know why you're giving this a second thought. Just exit the group. Jeez.

wishywashy6 Thu 14-Mar-19 12:50:18

Click leave group. The end

Mixedupmummy Thu 14-Mar-19 12:50:39

I'd just mute it too

DelilahTheSlagFromTheBible Thu 14-Mar-19 12:51:43

I fucking hate the way WhatsApp allows anyone in your contacts to add you to a group. I've left our class one more than once but been re-added. It's on mute but it does my head in. Seriously thinking of changing my phone number.

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