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HappyHattie Thu 14-Mar-19 10:16:05

I get married in 12 weeks time.

I booked a hairstylist over eight months ago! After careful consideration...etc. (I’d heard good things about this salon/ read reviews online).

I asked to come in for a trial earlier but was told no, not until 2-3 months before- this seemed to be standard practise amongst wedding hair stylist...so fine.

Went for my ‘trial’ the other day (keeping in mind that it’s a stately home wedding, and I have two very shy under 10 flower girls looking forward to getting their hair done, so I want the morning getting ready to be chilled out...etc)

The woman I’d expected (heard good things about) was no longer there. The woman who did my hair was...not right. I’m not even kidding. My mother (who came with me) had to go for a walk, she felt so uncomfortable and some of the things the salon staff were saying 🙄.

Also, heavily tattooed (sleeves down both arms and neck). Long black acrylic nails- absoloutley wouldn’t look right in any getting ready pics. And my hair started falling out 30 mine after I left 😒

Not an option. So I rang about 20 other wedding hair stylists yesterday to be told...sorry we book like a year in advance. Which is fair enough, but if none of them offer trials until 2-3 months before the date, then what the hell are you supposed to do if your trial goes horribly???

You have no other choice!!!

Short of not getting a hairstylist (and we need one)...I have no idea what the hell to do!

Spaceunicorn6789 Thu 14-Mar-19 10:18:40

Also, heavily tattooed (sleeves down both arms and neck). Long black acrylic nails- absoloutley wouldn’t look right in any getting ready pics

This is ridiculous. Is this actually a thing people think about when they're getting married?!?!

onanothertrain Thu 14-Mar-19 10:21:10

Why didn't you just book a normal appointment if you couldn't get a trial earlier?
What's wrong with using your normal hairdresser?

Grumblepants Thu 14-Mar-19 10:21:37

I think it's a little mean to judge her on her appearance, after all when she got tattooed she wasn't to know it wouldn't fit with your wedding photos.
However if you are not happy with the hair style (I had this exact problem, my stylist was beyond shit) I'd put a shout out on Facebook asking if any of your friends can recommend someone for the date you need. Good luck.

MarthasGinYard Thu 14-Mar-19 10:21:42

'Also, heavily tattooed (sleeves down both arms and neck). Long black acrylic nails- absoloutley wouldn’t look right in any getting ready pics'

I wouldn't give a toss about that

How ridiculous

Did you like the hair?

MinervaVause Thu 14-Mar-19 10:22:02

I didn’t have a stylist when I got married but a couple of friends had at least 3 different ones booked for their weddings then just chose the one they preferred after their “trials” and cancelled the others.

Too late for you now though.

Have you phoned a few independent “mobile” stylists. There’s some excellent ones that just don’t want to work in salons. You might have more luck.

MarthasGinYard Thu 14-Mar-19 10:22:12

Just go to your regular hairdresser

HarrysOwl Thu 14-Mar-19 10:22:27

Also, heavily tattooed (sleeves down both arms and neck). Long black acrylic nails- absoloutley wouldn’t look right in any getting ready pics

Better clutch my pearls.

It comes across a bit precious with this, OP, sorry.

she felt so uncomfortable and some of the things the salon staff were saying

Can you give us some examples?

I wouldn't mind what someone looks like, if they do a good job.

Sleepyandtired21 Thu 14-Mar-19 10:23:52

Try and advertise the job on your local fb page. I’m sure you’ll find mobile hairdressers who will do you a trial.

MinervaVause Thu 14-Mar-19 10:24:11

Also, heavily tattooed (sleeves down both arms and neck). Long black acrylic nails- absoloutley wouldn’t look right in any getting ready pics

And this wouldn’t bother me at all if I liked what they did. Different story if you didn’t but I wouldn’t refuse to use someone based on their tattoos.

Ylvamoon Thu 14-Mar-19 10:24:36

Walk into your normal hairdresser & tell them what you want. I bet they do a lovely job and for the fraction of the price! Mine did.

MarthasGinYard Thu 14-Mar-19 10:25:18

You have 3 months to sort

Hardly a crisis

RockyFlintstone Thu 14-Mar-19 10:25:20

Also, heavily tattooed (sleeves down both arms and neck). Long black acrylic nails- absoloutley wouldn’t look right in any getting ready pics.

😂

HotSauceCommittee Thu 14-Mar-19 10:25:22

Getting ready photos? Who gives a shit about that?
Just find a normal hairdresser or a member of the wedding party who’s good at doing hair.
A get a (hair) grip. It’s one day. Then you have the rest of your married life together, the important bit.

happymummy12345 Thu 14-Mar-19 10:25:48

You're wrong to judge her based on her appearance.
My hairdresser didn't turn up on the day (text my then fiancé (we were very traditional and had no communication, even text) to say she couldn't be bothered to turn up (he had to ring my mum for her to tell me). So my best friend had about 10 minutes to do the best she could, and it still looked wonderful.
Make the best of it, I had to with an hour to go until the ceremony was due to start.

underneaththeash Thu 14-Mar-19 10:26:13

I'm really not into tattoos at all, but I'm sure someone can either photoshop them out, or just don't have "having hair done" photos.

However if she's a bit crap at hair then its clearly not going to work.

Do you necessarily need a wedding hairstylist or just someone who is good at putting hair up? You may just need to alter the style you were thinking of slightly and just go to a regular hairdresser. Even if your morning doesn't go exactly as you imagined it, it's only one tiny part of your day and I can promise you no-one will notice.

I'm really crap at doing hair myself, but I bought some of the dyson airwrap things and they make lovely curls, that would look perfect o little bridesmaids.

RockyFlintstone Thu 14-Mar-19 10:26:13

But yes, if it started falling out after half an hour that's no good. I'm sure you will find someone though.

JacquesHammer Thu 14-Mar-19 10:26:40

Also, heavily tattooed (sleeves down both arms and neck). Long black acrylic nails- absoloutley wouldn’t look right in any getting ready pics

Why wouldn't it look right....?

And my hair started falling out 30 mine after I left

So go back, give them feedback and ask for another trial.

gamerchick Thu 14-Mar-19 10:26:59

Also, heavily tattooed (sleeves down both arms and neck). Long black acrylic nails- absoloutley wouldn’t look right in any getting ready pics

See this is what stands out from your post. You are judging this so are going to automatically going to pick fault with the rest. Who takes photos of them getting their hair done anyway?

If you find a small independent salon you'll probably find someone to fit you in. You'll just have to keep looking for that aesthetically pleasing individual for your wedding pictures.

ADHMeeee Thu 14-Mar-19 10:27:16

Also, heavily tattooed (sleeves down both arms and neck). Long black acrylic nails- absoloutley wouldn’t look right in any getting ready pics

....unless, like me, that sort of thing is preferable. I would rejoice if this lady did mine. The majority of us get stuck with the fake tanned, trendy haired, "you OK hun" type who have all fallen through the same mould and would probably go home from a good, fun, alternative wedding saying "ermergerd, I had to do hair for these freaks, they were like, sooooo ratchet".

However, I do find it appalling that you don't get to test out the hairdresser earlier and that they didn't tell you the lady you wanted had gone. That seems silly to me. Do they have a different stylist or just the one? By hair falling out, I assume you didn't get a bleach job but that it fell out of place?

AdobeWanKenobi Thu 14-Mar-19 10:27:23

Also, heavily tattooed (sleeves down both arms and neck). Long black acrylic nails- absoloutley wouldn’t look right in any getting ready pics

No, really, you'd look fucking awful in comparison to her.

Littlechocola Thu 14-Mar-19 10:27:31

What did they say to make you so uncomfortable?

Awful of you to judge the stylist based on her not looking ‘right’ for your photos.

TheShiteRunner Thu 14-Mar-19 10:29:21

You could have worded this OP like, "I booked a company to do my wedding hair, but now I've gone for the trial and the stylist I liked isn't there anymore. I wasn't happy with what the new stylist did with my hair. What do I do?"
But you gave us the pearl-clutching about tattoos and all that, making me think that you're a bit of a bridezilla and impossible to please.

ADHMeeee Thu 14-Mar-19 10:29:24

I'm really crap at doing hair myself, but I bought some of the dyson airwrap things and they make lovely curls, that would look perfect o little bridesmaids.

I thought that was a kind of Hoover hmmgrin oops

Shookethtothecore Thu 14-Mar-19 10:29:27

Jesus Christ the getting ready photos 😂😂 your gunna cringe about worrying about that one, no one cares about the getting ready photos.
The rest of it then fine, if she isn’t good then that’s another issue. Wedding hairdressers easily book a year in advance, but you might get an up do if you go to a salon the morning of your wedding? Do you have time for that? You might have to forgo your wedding shoot in your dressing gown but you won’t have shit hair on the day?!

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