DH and I are both in our early 40s, have been married 7 years, own our own flat and have no DC. We also run our own business together, which we set up six months ago (both leaving our full-time jobs to do so) and it's doing reasonably well.
However, over the last year or so our relationship has been seriously deteriorating, partly because DH is just constantly snappy and irritable. An example from this morning:
DH: "Can you answer this question about XYZ?"
Me: [stops the task I was midway through to find the answer he needs]. "Sure, here's the info you need."
Five minutes later:
Me: "DH please can you make X change to this invoice?"
DH: [in an angry tone] "I've got shitloads I need to do today, can you not interrupt me when I'm trying to work? It's really distracting and I've got loads of stuff I need to do."
Me: "But you just interrupted me five minutes ago and I didn't say anything, just helped give you the info you needed!"
DH then storms off and will usually come back and apologise later, only to repeat the exact same behaviour the following day, thereby rendering his apology completely meaningless.
AIBU to be completely fed up with his mood swings and general snappy behaviour? I know the above sounds like a minor incident, but when it's repeated on what seems like a daily basis in some shape or form, it really does start to grind you down.
I've mentioned to him that his moods are really starting to affect me and he accepts that it's not on, but nothing changes long term. It's really affected our sex life - I can count on one hand the times we've had sex in the last two years. I feel like our relationship is in a massive rut and I honestly don't know what to do anymore.
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At the end of my tether with DH - please help
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utterlybutterly8 · 12/03/2019 16:37
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