So my dd friend said her mother said she can’t attend her bday party bc my dd missed hers last year!! We had a legitimate reason, as we were out of town and her mother sent the invite like a week before (which in most cases don’t expect many to attend w last minute invite!!). Anyway, I don’t mind if she had a legit reason like piano lessons or a trip or lunch with grandma. But a petty reason like my dd didn’t go to her party so she can’t go to my dd? They are 7!
There are two other dc that are coming, even though my dd missed their parties due to a tummy bug and stitches in the head (the part was at a trampoline park and she just go stitches and doc said no activity that could open them). Anyway, these parents were understanding, so not sure why the other parent is not. I just felt bad for my sweet daughter. She wasn’t upset . But she likes this friend a lot and said “I still want her to get a present even though she can’t attend my party” she means a party bag.
The mum is crazy, but let DD give her friend s party bag if she wants to
Although the friends reporting of what mum said may be a little or a lot different from what mum actually said, either intentionally or unintentionally! I’ve regularly said something to a child that age then heard them tell their friend I said something different or even opposite!
Yes, I’ll let my dd give her friend a party bag. The friend is very sweet. It’s just so strange. The mom is always strange though not replying to texts etc. Not just to me, but others as well. Not that I send her many texts! Just 2 in the past year. One regarding a play date and one the party. Not a big deal though as my dd has other friends and her best friend is attending so she is happy. I just felt a little bad for her bc she likes this friend as well and always talks about how sweet and kind she is. Ah well.
It's always possible that the conversation is being misrepresented -- i.e. the friend can't come, or it would be really difficult to come, for some other reason, and the mother has tried to console her by saying something like "it's not the end of the world -- remember that DDbear didn't come to your party last year, and you're still friends"? Because that's exactly the sort of thing that aged 7 I can see mutating into "my mum said I can't come because you didn't come to my party".
I've certainly seen people on here being very indignant because their child invited child A, but child A didn't invite them back again. I wonder if it's someone who thinks that's the correct etiquette after reading one of those threads.