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Or is it petty to say your dd can’t attend a party bc my dd missed hers?!?!

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Mamabear12 Mon 11-Mar-19 21:06:46

So my dd friend said her mother said she can’t attend her bday party bc my dd missed hers last year!! We had a legitimate reason, as we were out of town and her mother sent the invite like a week before (which in most cases don’t expect many to attend w last minute invite!!). Anyway, I don’t mind if she had a legit reason like piano lessons or a trip or lunch with grandma. But a petty reason like my dd didn’t go to her party so she can’t go to my dd? They are 7!

There are two other dc that are coming, even though my dd missed their parties due to a tummy bug and stitches in the head (the part was at a trampoline park and she just go stitches and doc said no activity that could open them). Anyway, these parents were understanding, so not sure why the other parent is not. I just felt bad for my sweet daughter. She wasn’t upset . But she likes this friend a lot and said “I still want her to get a present even though she can’t attend my party” she means a party bag.

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VelocityViewServlet : Error processing a template for path '/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3530658-Or-is-it-petty-to-say-your-dd-can-t-attend-a-party-bc-my-dd-missed-hers'

Invocation of method 'isVoting' in class com.mumsnet.talk.models.TalkThread threw exception java.util.ConcurrentModificationException at talk/message_block.html[line 175, column 96]
java.util.ConcurrentModificationException
	at java.util.HashMap$HashIterator.nextNode(HashMap.java:1429)
	at java.util.HashMap$KeyIterator.next(HashMap.java:1453)
	at com.mumsnet.talk.models.AibuVotingThread.pruneCacheIfNeeded(AibuVotingThread.java:51)
	at com.mumsnet.talk.models.AibuVotingThread.isItAibuVotingThread(AibuVotingThread.java:34)
	at com.mumsnet.talk.models.TalkThread.isVoting(TalkThread.java:1209)
	at sun.reflect.GeneratedMethodAccessor248.invoke(Unknown Source)
	at sun.reflect.DelegatingMethodAccessorImpl.invoke(DelegatingMethodAccessorImpl.java:43)
	at java.lang.reflect.Method.invoke(Method.java:498)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.parser.node.PropertyExecutor.execute(PropertyExecutor.java:142)
	at org.apache.velocity.util.introspection.UberspectImpl$VelGetterImpl.invoke(UberspectImpl.java:533)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.parser.node.ASTIdentifier.execute(ASTIdentifier.java:198)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.parser.node.ASTReference.execute(ASTReference.java:262)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.parser.node.ASTReference.evaluate(ASTReference.java:470)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.parser.node.ASTAndNode.evaluate(ASTAndNode.java:106)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.parser.node.ASTExpression.evaluate(ASTExpression.java:62)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.parser.node.ASTIfStatement.render(ASTIfStatement.java:85)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.parser.node.ASTBlock.render(ASTBlock.java:72)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.parser.node.ASTIfStatement.render(ASTIfStatement.java:87)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.parser.node.SimpleNode.render(SimpleNode.java:336)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.directive.Parse.render(Parse.java:260)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.parser.node.ASTDirective.render(ASTDirective.java:175)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.parser.node.ASTBlock.render(ASTBlock.java:72)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.parser.node.SimpleNode.render(SimpleNode.java:336)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.parser.node.ASTIfStatement.render(ASTIfStatement.java:106)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.parser.node.ASTBlock.render(ASTBlock.java:72)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.directive.Foreach.render(Foreach.java:366)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.parser.node.ASTDirective.render(ASTDirective.java:175)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.parser.node.ASTBlock.render(ASTBlock.java:72)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.parser.node.SimpleNode.render(SimpleNode.java:336)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.parser.node.ASTIfStatement.render(ASTIfStatement.java:106)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.parser.node.SimpleNode.render(SimpleNode.java:336)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.directive.Parse.render(Parse.java:260)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.parser.node.ASTDirective.render(ASTDirective.java:175)
	at org.apache.velocity.runtime.parser.node.SimpleNode.render(SimpleNode.java:336)
	at org.apache.velocity.Template.merge(Template.java:328)
	at org.apache.velocity.Template.merge(Template.java:235)
	at org.apache.velocity.tools.view.servlet.VelocityViewServlet.performMerge(VelocityViewServlet.java:805)
	at com.mumsnet.baseservlets.CommonBaseServlet.performMerge(CommonBaseServlet.java:486)
	at org.apache.velocity.tools.view.servlet.VelocityViewServlet.mergeTemplate(VelocityViewServlet.java:762)
	at org.apache.velocity.tools.view.servlet.VelocityViewServlet.doRequest(VelocityViewServlet.java:555)
	at org.apache.velocity.tools.view.servlet.VelocityViewServlet.doGet(VelocityViewServlet.java:509)
	at javax.servlet.http.HttpServlet.service(HttpServlet.java:624)
	at javax.servlet.http.HttpServlet.service(HttpServlet.java:731)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.ApplicationFilterChain.internalDoFilter(ApplicationFilterChain.java:303)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.ApplicationFilterChain.doFilter(ApplicationFilterChain.java:208)
	at org.apache.tomcat.websocket.server.WsFilter.doFilter(WsFilter.java:52)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.ApplicationFilterChain.internalDoFilter(ApplicationFilterChain.java:241)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.ApplicationFilterChain.doFilter(ApplicationFilterChain.java:208)
	at com.mumsnet.filters.XSSFilter.doFilter(XSSFilter.java:29)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.ApplicationFilterChain.internalDoFilter(ApplicationFilterChain.java:241)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.ApplicationFilterChain.doFilter(ApplicationFilterChain.java:208)
	at com.mumsnet.filters.CSRFFilter.doFilter(CSRFFilter.java:31)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.ApplicationFilterChain.internalDoFilter(ApplicationFilterChain.java:241)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.ApplicationFilterChain.doFilter(ApplicationFilterChain.java:208)
	at com.mumsnet.filters.SessionNotifierInitialisationFilter.doFilter(SessionNotifierInitialisationFilter.java:28)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.ApplicationFilterChain.internalDoFilter(ApplicationFilterChain.java:241)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.ApplicationFilterChain.doFilter(ApplicationFilterChain.java:208)
	at com.mumsnet.filters.AdvertisingFilter.doFilter(AdvertisingFilter.java:161)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.ApplicationFilterChain.internalDoFilter(ApplicationFilterChain.java:241)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.ApplicationFilterChain.doFilter(ApplicationFilterChain.java:208)
	at com.mumsnet.filters.ReferralTrackingFilter.doFilter(ReferralTrackingFilter.java:147)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.ApplicationFilterChain.internalDoFilter(ApplicationFilterChain.java:241)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.ApplicationFilterChain.doFilter(ApplicationFilterChain.java:208)
	at com.mumsnet.filters.FirstSeenCookieFilter.doFilter(FirstSeenCookieFilter.java:32)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.ApplicationFilterChain.internalDoFilter(ApplicationFilterChain.java:241)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.ApplicationFilterChain.doFilter(ApplicationFilterChain.java:208)
	at com.mumsnet.filters.AuthenticationFilter.doFilter(AuthenticationFilter.java:38)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.ApplicationFilterChain.internalDoFilter(ApplicationFilterChain.java:241)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.ApplicationFilterChain.doFilter(ApplicationFilterChain.java:208)
	at com.mumsnet.filters.RequestFilter.doFilter(RequestFilter.java:120)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.ApplicationFilterChain.internalDoFilter(ApplicationFilterChain.java:241)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.ApplicationFilterChain.doFilter(ApplicationFilterChain.java:208)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.StandardWrapperValve.invoke(StandardWrapperValve.java:220)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.StandardContextValve.invoke(StandardContextValve.java:122)
	at de.javakaffee.web.msm.RequestTrackingContextValve.invoke(RequestTrackingContextValve.java:99)
	at org.apache.catalina.authenticator.AuthenticatorBase.invoke(AuthenticatorBase.java:505)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.StandardHostValve.invoke(StandardHostValve.java:169)
	at de.javakaffee.web.msm.RequestTrackingHostValve.invoke(RequestTrackingHostValve.java:170)
	at org.apache.catalina.valves.ErrorReportValve.invoke(ErrorReportValve.java:103)
	at org.apache.catalina.core.StandardEngineValve.invoke(StandardEngineValve.java:116)
	at org.apache.catalina.valves.RemoteIpValve.invoke(RemoteIpValve.java:683)
	at org.apache.catalina.connector.CoyoteAdapter.service(CoyoteAdapter.java:436)
	at org.apache.coyote.http11.AbstractHttp11Processor.process(AbstractHttp11Processor.java:1078)
	at org.apache.coyote.AbstractProtocol$AbstractConnectionHandler.process(AbstractProtocol.java:625)
	at org.apache.tomcat.util.net.JIoEndpoint$SocketProcessor.run(JIoEndpoint.java:316)
	at java.util.concurrent.ThreadPoolExecutor.runWorker(ThreadPoolExecutor.java:1142)
	at java.util.concurrent.ThreadPoolExecutor$Worker.run(ThreadPoolExecutor.java:617)
	at org.apache.tomcat.util.threads.TaskThread$WrappingRunnable.run(TaskThread.java:61)
	at java.lang.Thread.run(Thread.java:745)