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Or is it petty to say your dd can’t attend a party bc my dd missed hers?!?!

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Mamabear12 Mon 11-Mar-19 21:06:46

So my dd friend said her mother said she can’t attend her bday party bc my dd missed hers last year!! We had a legitimate reason, as we were out of town and her mother sent the invite like a week before (which in most cases don’t expect many to attend w last minute invite!!). Anyway, I don’t mind if she had a legit reason like piano lessons or a trip or lunch with grandma. But a petty reason like my dd didn’t go to her party so she can’t go to my dd? They are 7!

There are two other dc that are coming, even though my dd missed their parties due to a tummy bug and stitches in the head (the part was at a trampoline park and she just go stitches and doc said no activity that could open them). Anyway, these parents were understanding, so not sure why the other parent is not. I just felt bad for my sweet daughter. She wasn’t upset . But she likes this friend a lot and said “I still want her to get a present even though she can’t attend my party” she means a party bag.

MarvinMarvinson Mon 11-Mar-19 21:09:29

She's bonkers. At least you know what type of person she is now, give her a wide berth. Be the bigger person and let your child take a party bag for her friend though if she wants to.

LordVoldetort Mon 11-Mar-19 21:10:18

Yeah, it’s pretty petty!
I would just let it go and move on though, it’s not worth the potential fall out

Leeds2 Mon 11-Mar-19 21:21:32

Very petty.

But do be the bigger person, and let DD give her friend a party bag.

CloserIAm2Fine Mon 11-Mar-19 21:27:54

The mum is crazy, but let DD give her friend s party bag if she wants to

Although the friends reporting of what mum said may be a little or a lot different from what mum actually said, either intentionally or unintentionally! I’ve regularly said something to a child that age then heard them tell their friend I said something different or even opposite!

formerbabe Mon 11-Mar-19 21:31:20

Give her the party bag...hopefully it will shame the mum.

Mamabear12 Mon 11-Mar-19 21:37:25

Yes, I’ll let my dd give her friend a party bag. The friend is very sweet. It’s just so strange. The mom is always strange though not replying to texts etc. Not just to me, but others as well. Not that I send her many texts! Just 2 in the past year. One regarding a play date and one the party. Not a big deal though as my dd has other friends and her best friend is attending so she is happy. I just felt a little bad for her bc she likes this friend as well and always talks about how sweet and kind she is. Ah well.

TragicallyUnbeyachted Mon 11-Mar-19 21:50:23

It's always possible that the conversation is being misrepresented -- i.e. the friend can't come, or it would be really difficult to come, for some other reason, and the mother has tried to console her by saying something like "it's not the end of the world -- remember that DDbear didn't come to your party last year, and you're still friends"? Because that's exactly the sort of thing that aged 7 I can see mutating into "my mum said I can't come because you didn't come to my party".

WithAllIntenseAndPurposes Mon 11-Mar-19 21:52:53

My parents didn't attend a family party as the person didn't attend theirs.
Some people never grow up

Arowana Mon 11-Mar-19 21:53:12

Very petty but I agree with Tragically that it's possible something has got lost in translation.

kaytee87 Mon 11-Mar-19 21:55:35

Did you rsvp to say you couldn't come at the time?

Witchend Mon 11-Mar-19 22:03:43

I've certainly seen people on here being very indignant because their child invited child A, but child A didn't invite them back again. I wonder if it's someone who thinks that's the correct etiquette after reading one of those threads.

thedisorganisedmum Mon 11-Mar-19 22:20:40

Some people are just so pathetically and tragically ridiculous, you don't know if you should laugh or cry.
Imagine a child being raised in that toxic environment.

You can only hope the girls have misunderstood something!

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