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To think I'm not a "young Mum"?

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AlwaysFuckingTired94 Sun 10-Mar-19 17:39:05

Pregnant with DC1 at 22, had her at 23

Pregnant with DC2 at 23 and had her at 24.

Aibu to think this isn't young to have kids? It's definitely the average age to start a family where I grew up.

Keep getting referred to as a "young Mum" out and about, at toddler groups etc and it feels a tad patronising.

Magicroundabout321 Wed 13-Mar-19 17:40:44

It's a great age to have kids! :-)

But yes, like others have said, a lot of people are already 30+, so it would seem young to them.

SausageMashandOnionGravy Wed 13-Mar-19 17:45:03

You are young by today's standards, most women are well into their 30s before they have children. I was early-mid 30s when I had my 2 children and want another baby. I wish I'd started in my late 20s as I'm now feeling the pressure of the clock ticking as I creep towards late 30s.

Having children in your 20s is young-ish but in the long run you'll be the one laughing when your kids have left home and you are still in your 40s loving life!

blueskiesovertheforest Wed 13-Mar-19 17:45:12

www.mentalhealth.org.uk/projects/young-mums-together Peer support group for "Young Mums" in London - for under 25 year olds.

bananasandwicheseveryday Wed 13-Mar-19 18:33:31

I was in my mid 20s when I had dc1 and my hospital notes proclaimed me to be a geriatric mother! Nowadays, I'd be considered young! My mum and MIL were late teens when Dh and I were born. DC and DIL are mid twenties so are considered young parents among their peers.
I think it doesn't matter what age you are when you have your children, someone will always have an opinion and for some reason, they will think it acceptable to comment on it. Sadly, IME, those who do feel entitled to comment upon it are often doing it in a patronising way.

As long as you are happy, ignore the comments and just be a mum.

soberfabulous Wed 13-Mar-19 19:17:30

I'm 20 years older than you with a 5 year old. You are young to me.

XingMing Wed 13-Mar-19 20:49:48

The term elderly prima gravida is applied to all first time mothers over 25-ish according to my obstetric consultant, 20 years ago. I was 42 then. He reckoned 18 -25 was perfect biological age to have babies; I had to point out that socially and professionally it might not work.

NCforthis2019 Wed 13-Mar-19 20:52:42

I would say you were a young mum. I had my first at 30. No one I know in my friend circle had kids before 29. Doesn’t matter though.

DelilahfromDenmark Wed 13-Mar-19 21:05:44

Where I live you’d be a really young mum. Most people where I am are mid to late 30s when having their first.

Blondeshavemorefun Wed 13-Mar-19 22:41:46

Young to me

Almost 44 when gave birth and now almost 46 with a nearl 2yr

CountFosco Wed 13-Mar-19 23:03:23

The term elderly prima gravida is applied to all first time mothers over 25-ish according to my obstetric consultant, 20 years ago

I was (just) over 25 20 years ago and none of my Uni friends were having babies. Most of us weren't even married at that stage. We al seemed to get married in 2000 and have babies over the next 20 years.

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