To think I'm not a "young Mum"?

[AlwaysFuckingTired94]

Pregnant with DC1 at 22, had her at 23

Pregnant with DC2 at 23 and had her at 24.

Aibu to think this isn't young to have kids? It's definitely the average age to start a family where I grew up.

Keep getting referred to as a "young Mum" out and about, at toddler groups etc and it feels a tad patronising.

[Sparklesocks]

It’s all relative I suppose, people who have their kids in their 30s may see you as a young mum.

[TheSchumanPlan]

Where I live, in my social circle, hardly anyone has kids before they’re 28 at the earliest - and most are over 30.

Most people I know were finishing university and starting their careers at the age of 22, and were not in a position to start a family.

So yes, I would consider you a young mum.

[PristineCondition]

Take no notice. I had one at 16 and was called a young mum and one at 25 and called an older mum by some

I’m 33 now and would probably be called a geriatric mother if I have another😂

[FudgeBrownie2019]

I'm 37 and had my first at 24. At the time I didn't feel young, looking back I absolutely was.

My sister had her first at 16 and comparatively I wasn't young. But 24 is still young and although I wouldn't change a thing, coming straight from University into Motherhood was hard.

[Nix32]

Young for my circle of friends - we were all around 30 when we had our first.

Not young for my parents at school (I'm a teacher) - plenty of mums in their early 20s.

[kaytee87]

Yes, I'd consider you a young mum. You'd certainly be very young where I live. I had ds a couple of days before I turned 29 and I was on the younger side here.

I wouldn't actually refer to you as a young mum though. There wouldn't be any need to mention it.

[weltenbummler]

biologically it is the ideal age to have kids. people who are characterising you as a "young mum" are doing so against their own social norms; for example average age of first time mothers in UK is now 30

[EntirelyAnonymised]

You are young. According to the latest published statistics from ONS, the average age of a first time mother in the UK is 28.8 years old.

www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/birthsdeathsandmarriages/livebirths/bulletins/birthsbyparentscharacteristicsinenglandandwales/2016

Obviously the local average ages will vary from area to area but nationally speaking, you are young.

[thefirst48]

Yeah I'd consider you a young mum too.

[PatriciaHolm]

The average age of a first time mother in the U.K. is 29, so yes I say you are young.

We all have different outlooks on this determined in many cases by our social circles. I only know a handful of mums who had their first children in their early 20s; most of my friends were early 30s!

[EntirelyAnonymised]

Apologies, those stats are only for England & Wales.

[ApplestheHare]

You are a young mum though

As pp said the average age for the UK is much higher.

[outpinked]

Technically young because more and more women are waiting until their thirties or even forties nowadays.

A few decades ago you’d probably already have a full brood at your age and have started at 18/19 once you were married.

[MyDcAreMarvel]

Well you might think it but factually you are.

[MyDcAreMarvel]

*not think

[ThroughThickAndThin01]

Sounds young to me. Nothing wrong with it though.

[SummerHouse]

I was 33 and 36 when I had mine and would find it annoying to be called an old mum.

[SwimmingJustKeepSwimming]

I'd say young mum but I've moved to an area with a lot of younger mums so its the "norm" in our school.

I mean it IS young isnt it?

[Fuckedoffmax]

I was 22 when I had my first, had 3 by 23. Thought nothing of it. By the time I had my 5th at 30 at felt ancient!
At the end of the day its personal choice and no one else's business

[BirdieInTheHand]

It's all relative isn't it? I have a professional career and had three DC in mid 20s. We live in a very MC part of London and all the DC are at fee paying schools. We're seen as practically baby's by some of the other school parents .

I'm sure there's plenty of places where I'd be considered old, if not ancient!

[monkeysox]

Most people who go to uni start work and buy a home before marriage and kids.
Due to how much things cost many wait until they have more security.

[DramaAlpaca]

You are a young mum, but there's nothing wrong with that.

[OddBoots]

Society has become so much more used to older mothers now that women becoming mothers at the age they used to in previous generations are seen as young. We have an odd miss-match between the ideal biological age and the ideal social age to have children. I'm glad we have a choice of some sorts these days but it does seem to have pushed it so those not waiting until they are older are seen as the odd ones.

[3boysandabump]

I had my first at 22 & second at 23. I didn't consider myself to be a young mum at the time but having had subsequent dc at 27 & 30 I realise I was. It doesn't really matter though does it?

[Wedgiecar58]

I would say you are a young mum. Younger than you would be very young mum.

I will be 31 for my first and this seems to be the average for my circle.