ASD and meltdowns

My asd dd is always worse when been on internet mainly u tube kids videos watching kids play with toys as opposed to actually playing with them herself!
But too much screen time makes her aggression and attitude really bad. So you are right to limit it.

It sounds like he has sensory overload from the party. I would say needs some quiet time. I usually readsure dd I am there and stay close but she will not always tolerate being held.
When quiet i suggest a quiet activity to do with her, drawing, board game etc.
Then praise her for calming down and then she might say something about what happened and then I can see what triggered it.

Hope that helps a bit

When my son meltsdown we just have to make sure he's safe and let it run it's course. Then work out why it happened, the immediate cause (eg not being allowed Fortnite) is actually rarely the actual cause, it's usually a result of a build up of stress (eg the party). Some meltdowns are unavoidable but knowing what the series of triggers are has reduced ours loads. I hope you're son and you feel better soon, I know it's really hard.

I'm aware that might not work for everyone btw, it's just what works for ds, it works for me too and I usually hate being hugged

Thing not think.

You can have whatever private thoughts you like under this stress.

Longer term, you need some decent input. Are CAMHS currently involved?

If he's been to a party, especially one he didn't want to go to, he's probably overstimulated. I also have ASD and overstimulation is frightening and disorientating. Stop all unnecessary sound, lights, movement etc in the area of the house he is in, pull him down so you are sitting on the floor with him on your lap, hold him in a tight hug and speak to him quietly telling him you love him and that he's safe.

If you're at home, just walk away and leave him. Let it burn out. He's not doing it to hurt you, he's disregulated because he can't do the think he had anticipated doing. I swear there's an element of addiction with console games too.

Depends what works for your child. If I tried to cuddle mine in meltdown it would make it worse. We have to just leave him to burn out.

Have you tried hugging him? My ds is 11, ASD and has horrific meltdowns but a meltdown is an expression of internal conflict that they can't express any other way. I find if I hold my ds really tight and reassure him that we love him and ignore all the horrible things he's saying it stops a lot quicker.

Your having a bad day you don’t mean that!