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Rosegarden10 Sun 10-Mar-19 08:39:11

I've name changed for this as obviously this is very outing.

On Friday, my child attended a school disco. Whilst they were at the school disco, another parent broke into the school and was banging on the hall doors to get in. When she couldnt access the hall she kicked the glass door and broke the window smashing the glass. The children and adults inside were terrified and they had to evacuate the children in an emergency lockdown procedure.

My child (and the majority of the other children) are now traumatised. My child doesnt want to go back to school tomorrow. The police arrived at the scene however it doesnt appear as though they arrested her as she the parent was on the parent WhatsApp group trying to justify her behaviour an hour after the incident.

Can I press charges against this woman for the trauma she has caused my child and the other children? I am so angry!!

PotteringAlong Sun 10-Mar-19 08:40:36

No, you can’t.

MamaLovesMango Sun 10-Mar-19 08:40:42

I know I’m mossing the point slightly but why did she do it?

I’m not sure you can but I imagine the school can.

Wolfiefan Sun 10-Mar-19 08:41:58

No crime has been committed against your child. I’m sorry they were upset and it sounds awful but you can’t legally prosecute for “trauma”.

YourSarcasmIsDripping Sun 10-Mar-19 08:42:38

No you can't. The school might be able to sue for damages and they will probably ban her off the premises.

IceRebel Sun 10-Mar-19 08:43:17

You can't press charges, but the school could do so for damage to property.

Why did she break into school?

Rosegarden10 Sun 10-Mar-19 08:43:22

She did it because she was angry at the headteacher for something, who was in the building at the time. I just cannot believe they didn't arrest her!!

LostInShoebiz Sun 10-Mar-19 08:43:31

Maybe wait and see if this trauma lasts more than two days first, eh? hmm

Barrenfieldoffucks Sun 10-Mar-19 08:43:38

The school would know this situation best, and would be the ones able to press charges for damages etc.

Why were the doors locked etc? This is very odd.

Treaclesweet Sun 10-Mar-19 08:44:39

Unless she said anything particularly threatening to the kids I don't think so? Seems very unfair though, school is definitely somewhere they should feel safe. Speak to the school at least, make sure it's properly dealt with as a traumatic incident, not swept under the rug.

Barrenfieldoffucks Sun 10-Mar-19 08:44:42

And this is one of these things that you can either make a big deal of to your kids, or you can encourage resilience.

Cannotresist Sun 10-Mar-19 08:46:00

There innuchh concept as “pressing charges” in the uk. If a crime is committed the police investigate and then the cps or fiscal in Scotland bring charges

StillCoughingandLaughing Sun 10-Mar-19 08:46:03

‘Pressing charges’ is a myth. You can report a crime, but that appears to have already happened. The police were called, she wasn’t arrested - it’s over. There’s no such crime as ‘traumatising a child’.

Cannotresist Sun 10-Mar-19 08:46:22

*no such

BigSandyBalls2015 Sun 10-Mar-19 08:46:36

Don’t be soutterly ridiculous. Sounds like you’re fuelling your DCs ‘trauma’. A brisk chat about how silly the cross lady was and how she won’t be allowed to do it again etc etc is all that’s needed.

Frecklesonmyarm Sun 10-Mar-19 08:47:58

It just have been upsetting for the children.

But yes, I would leave it more than 2 days. Go to the school with the child and speak to them, stay with your child for a bit and ensure they feel more comfortable.

Explain to your child that they weren't in danger, though you understand it's scary. And the police came and dealt with it

There has to be more to it. A person doesnt smash their way into a school for no reason.

Especially when there are people at the school.

Rosegarden10 Sun 10-Mar-19 08:48:10

The doors were locked because it was in the evening and why would the doors be open to the general public to just walk in 🤔

The parent was in the reception outside the hall and was shouting, swearing, repeatedly banging on the doors and windows. She then broke the glass. The kids inside were terrified as were the staff who didn't know whether the parent was armed. I am not sure why some of you think that's not a big deal?

user1483387154 Sun 10-Mar-19 08:48:13

You are being very over dramatic.

BigSandyBalls2015 Sun 10-Mar-19 08:49:08

Are you in America?

Birdsgottafly Sun 10-Mar-19 08:49:10

" I just cannot believe they didn't arrest her!!"

The Police know who've they got in, what there night is going to pan out like. Fridays can be manic.

She could have mental health issues etc and it wouldn't be in anyone's interest to arrest her.

It isn't that simple as, commit a crime = arrest.

dayswithaY Sun 10-Mar-19 08:49:31

Why would you want to? She's clearly got issues which the police would have taken into account. The school will deal with it as they see fit. Yes it was scary for the children but they'll move on.

MotsDHeureGoussesRames Sun 10-Mar-19 08:50:04

Agree with Barrenfield. Yes, it was awful behaviour and scary for the children but not traumatising, surely? Let your child know they are safe and send them to school! Do not let them stay off. They need to know it is safe - keeping them off only reinforces that they aren't. YANBU to feel angry but don't let your feelings impact your child. I am surprised too that she wasn't arrested. I feel sorry for her child, who will bear the brunt.

IceRebel Sun 10-Mar-19 08:50:15

as were the staff who didn't know whether the parent was armed

That's a rather large leap there, she was banging on the glass, not sure why they would jump to is she armed. I can't imagine why she would be so angry at the headteacher, but I would love to hear her side of the story.

JacquesHammer Sun 10-Mar-19 08:50:18

* I am not sure why some of you think that's not a big deal?*

What are you thinking you can press charges for?

If I were you I’d be saying along the lines of “yes it was scary but didn’t your teachers do a great job keeping you safe?”

You can use this to build resilience.

Barrenfieldoffucks Sun 10-Mar-19 08:50:45

I'm surprised the doors were locked because it just seems odd that people weren't free to come and go as they wanted. What if you'd wanted to leave early? I only have experience of a small village school though to be fair.

However this doesn't have to be the big deal you're making it out to be. How old is your child?

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