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Thatsnotmyotter Sat 09-Mar-19 23:12:44

DH has broken his neck (C7 fracture). He was sent home less than 48 hours after his accident with basically no aftercare plan or advice. I have a 6 month old who wakes every hour and a half overnight and am now nursing poor DH who is in absolute agony. He was only sent home with dihydrocodeine and paracetamol which is not touching the pain at all (DH is trying his best to be stoic but I’ve never seen him like this... And I’ve seen him completely broken after absolutely hammering himself in Ironman races so he’s by no stretch of the imagination afraid of pain). Thankfully we have great family support but I still feel like I’m a shitty mum for just abandoning DS with my parents constantly to do things for DH. He is understandably devastated about this injury which is a massive blow to our family life and his (amateur) sporting career. His bastarding company only pays statutory sick pay so this is going to completely fuck us financially because our critical illness cover isn’t applicable. Again, we are lucky that we have family who may be able to help out financially but it’s still a shitty situation to be in.

I’M FUCKING EXHAUSTED ALREADY. Urrrggggggfgggfgghhhhhhhhh

AnOwlCalledPlop Sat 09-Mar-19 23:13:46

How did he do it?

Springiscomingsoon Sat 09-Mar-19 23:18:37

Oh gosh his scary. What a relief he is sort of ok and home although sounds like it was too soon.
Take all the help you can get with looking after both him and the baby and yourself. It's going to be an awful time but he will eventually get better. Maybe contact the doc for stronger pain meds.

Thatsnotmyotter Sat 09-Mar-19 23:19:11

Came off his bike at speed. Head first.

kaytee87 Sat 09-Mar-19 23:21:16

Contact gp for tramadol or similar.

Op it's shite, I broke my ankle really badly when ds was 17 months (and into bloody everything). It was a nightmare.

FaithInfinity Sat 09-Mar-19 23:21:50

Paracetamol and dihyrocodiene is not going to cut it. It’s barbaric to send him home on that with that sort of fracture! Can you contact 111 to see if you can get anything stronger prescribed? I wonder if there’s an on call GP that could do a home visit for him.

flowers for you, what a nightmare situation.

Thatsnotmyotter Sat 09-Mar-19 23:26:05

He’s managed to get himself to sleep so I won’t wake him if I don’t have to but I think of this pain continues like this (he’s fine with the nerve and muscle pains as long as he’s still and horizontal but he’s got this ‘migraine’ constantly now) he’ll need to be assessed. I’m worried that the fracture isn’t as stable as they thought tbh.

Thatsnotmyotter Sat 09-Mar-19 23:29:43

Oh and just to stick the knife in, DS has a horrible cough. First time he’s been ill in about four months.

Thatsnotmyotter Sun 10-Mar-19 00:12:39

And has been uncharacteristically screaming for an hour.

I’m going to have a panic attack.

DoJo Sun 10-Mar-19 00:17:10

You poor thing- is there anyone you can call now to come and just be with you? It sounds like a really difficult situation and people are usually really great if you ask them to step up when you're struggling.

EcclesThePeacock Sun 10-Mar-19 00:24:39

flowersgo ahead and whinge here all you need. And accept all the help you can from family - no, of course you're not a shitty mum to let your parents take care of your DS while you look after your DH.

Merryoldgoat Sun 10-Mar-19 00:29:56

Wtf? A relative had a similar injury (although I think C4/5) a year ago and was in hospital for months and is still in rehab.

Is he really ok to be home?!

Merryoldgoat Sun 10-Mar-19 00:30:25

I’m so sorry for you and your family - what a terrible thing to happen.

kaytee87 Sun 10-Mar-19 00:45:26

Oh op take a deep breath. If you need to then put the baby down somewhere safe and go into another room to count to 10.

Aquamarine1029 Sun 10-Mar-19 00:48:53

Can you get a family member to come over straight away? You need immediate support so don't be afraid to call on them.

Thatsnotmyotter Sun 10-Mar-19 08:17:59

Thanks ladies. I DID have a panic attack. But then I woke up my mum, she took DS and I have slept for 7 hours. I feel guilty but I really needed that sleep. He only feeds to sleep usually so I have no idea what she has done but I haven’t heard a peep from him🤷‍♀️

kaytee87 Sun 10-Mar-19 08:20:02

Why feel guilty? You did the sensible thing.
Now you can face the day feeling a bit more on top of things.

Thatsnotmyotter Sun 10-Mar-19 08:23:23

Because I’m his mum. I should be able to do this. I want him to feel safe and secure and wanted, not palmed off. My fuse is so short at the moment and I don’t want him to beat the brunt of that. He’s such a gorgeous, easygoing, happy (usually!) little boy and he’s having to cope with so many changes in such a short space of time and it feels so unfair. Surely at a time when his dad can’t be there for him, he needs me more then ever.

Thatsnotmyotter Sun 10-Mar-19 08:28:37

Just been in to DH and nothing he is saying makes sense. I’m really worried.

ProjectGainsborough Sun 10-Mar-19 08:30:54

Can you call the doctor? Worth getting advice. Go easy on yourself, this sounds really difficult

SavageBeauty73 Sun 10-Mar-19 08:40:12

Your Dh should be in hospital. Call for help.

Merryoldgoat Sun 10-Mar-19 08:42:16

Ambulance. Now.

Littlebelina Sun 10-Mar-19 08:42:22

Acute confusion by itself is a reason to call 999, coupled with the neck injury I would not hesitate

Littlebelina Sun 10-Mar-19 08:43:46

StoneofDestiny Sun 10-Mar-19 09:09:54

Dial 999 and get the professional help needed for your husband

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