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Stranger giving my 4 month old food from her finger?

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NotSureIfBU Sat 09-Mar-19 19:26:46

So I was at a baby shower today. My son is 4 months old today.

A lady whom I have never met, and still don't know who she is or what her name is was sitting next to MIL. MIL was holding my 4 month old.

Everyone was eating and I looked over to see said stranger putting her finger in my sons mouth with food on it. She saw me look and said "don't worry, it's only blank" (can't remember what food she said now as I'm so angry)

My concern is, she doesn't even know mine or my child's name, if he has any allergies, or if I'm even weaning him yet (she'd only seen me give him a bottle while there so as far as she's concerned he's only drinking milk!!)

AIBU to be completely and utterly livid about this?

NotSureIfBU Sat 09-Mar-19 19:27:50

Also I know babies get germs etc in their mouths all the time and I'm definitely not a mother who wraps her baby in cotton wool. But to intentionally give a 4 month old food off your finger whom you don't even know? Just seems wrong to me...

dementedpixie Sat 09-Mar-19 19:28:21

I'd be angry too. You didn't even know who she was

CottonSock Sat 09-Mar-19 19:28:56

Yanbu, and I'd be livid

Ellieboolou27 Sat 09-Mar-19 19:29:27

Yuk, YANU that’s vile. Yes, I’d be pissed off and definitely would have made it known to her.

ZippyBungleandGeorge Sat 09-Mar-19 19:30:03

Did you tell her it's no solids until six months and to get her finger out of your baby's mouth? I would've

OnlyFoolsnMothers Sat 09-Mar-19 19:30:04

I’d have gone off at her- seriously not on!

Sexnotgender Sat 09-Mar-19 19:30:09

I’d be livid too. What the fuck is wrong with people?

SrSteveOskowski Sat 09-Mar-19 19:30:11

YANBU. I'd be absolutely fuming!angry

Lana1234 Sat 09-Mar-19 19:30:42

Yanbu shock did you say anything? I would have absolutely told her to stop what she was doing

OhHelp0hNo Sat 09-Mar-19 19:30:48

Wow, I would have been absolutely livid!! YADNBU.
The fact that he's only 4 months old, you don't even know her, putting her finger in his mouth (yuck!). I would have confronted her, definitely.

NuffSaidSam Sat 09-Mar-19 19:31:01

Livid is an over reaction. And pointless because it's done now.

But YANBU to be annoyed and a bit disgusted!

She stepped well over the line, but probably meant well.

It's done. Calm down and move on.

Magissa Sat 09-Mar-19 19:31:06

I would be so angry. As you say the woman has no idea what you baby may be allergic to. If she was sat with mother in law do you think she gave her the go ahead to do this?

sidesplittinglol Sat 09-Mar-19 19:31:19

I'd be angry at someone doing this for various reasons:

1. She's a bloody stranger
2. God knows where her fingers have been. Some people don't know how to wash hands properly after using the loo
3. Your baby may have allergies
4. It's too Early to introduce foods to them that their body isn't ready for
5. You may not have started weaning them

lanclass1 Sat 09-Mar-19 19:31:32

I'm pretty relaxed about most things but I would be livid at that for several reasons!

MyBreadIsEggy Sat 09-Mar-19 19:32:13

I’d be furious. And would probably be spending tonight in a cell.
One of my DCs has life threatening food allergies. If the mystery food had contained milk, he could easily be dead.

People are so fucking stupid sometimes it is infuriating confused

ethelfleda Sat 09-Mar-19 19:32:41

I don’t think livid is an overreaction. I think that woman was completely inappropriate! I can’t even get my head around someone doing it!!

NotSureIfBU Sat 09-Mar-19 19:33:04

I think she saw me staring and that's why she said 'don't worry it's just xxx!' Then my MIL turned him around so he wasn't facing her as she thought it was bad too.

One of those situations where I should've said something but at the time I was so taken aback by it I just didn't say anything??

Talkingfrog Sat 09-Mar-19 19:35:48

Yanbu. Even with a toddler or older child I know well, I would ask the parent first before giving them something (unless I was responsible for them at the time)

2birds1stone Sat 09-Mar-19 19:36:08

I hope that woman is a mumsnetter, sees this, realises it's about her and feels bloody ashamed and learns from it.

ViolaD77 Sat 09-Mar-19 19:37:28

Did u find out who she was?

NuffSaidSam Sat 09-Mar-19 19:37:59

Was she an older woman? In my head she's in her late 50's at least, maybe older.

Ansumpasty Sat 09-Mar-19 19:41:16

YANBU, I’d be angry, too.

I had a similar thing happen when my son was a baby. A friend of the family was holding him at a funeral and eating nuts and prawns. I then saw her letting my son suck and chew on her fingers. Not cool

Cherrysoup Sat 09-Mar-19 19:42:50

Was she an older woman? In my head she's in her late 50's at least, maybe older

Why is this relevant?

badwedding Sat 09-Mar-19 19:46:53

A colleague of my mums did this to my son when he was 5mths old. I was weaning but she gave him A bit of Cadbury's whole nut. I was 😱😱😱 My mum couldn't get me out her work quickly enough as she could see my face of thunder.

I'd never feed somebody else's infant child anything!

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