Ok so I know I'm being unreasonable, but just want some advice.
Me and my EXP split nearly a year ago, it was amicable on some level, but I'm still not fully over it.
Anyway he's met someone who has now become his GF. He told me last week that he wanted to introduce our 2 DC to her on Sunday. They've only been together 2 months, so I did express how soon this was, but he said the way he feels about her, he knows it's right.
My thinking of this is that 2 months, it's likely that you're still in that honeymoon stage, where if you waited around 6 months, you might have a better idea if it feels right (my opinion).
Anyway, I'm still finding it hard to move on, it's getting easier, but still hard and I'm hoping once I start Uni in Jan, I'll start to feel more like my old self.
But!! my main worry is that when we were together we didn't have much money so we never took the kids abroad. He now has a much better job, however, I dread to think of the day that he says he wants to take them abroad with his GF too. I would miss seeing their excitement over the first time going on a plane, to the actual holiday.
I know this might not happen, but it's hard not to think of stuff like that 
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Has anyone else been through anything similar? How did you feel? Was it as bad as you thought? 
AIBU?
AIBU thinking about ex new GF and kids
Layza101 · 09/03/2019 05:56
@HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend what a helpful and sensitive reply to someone going through a difficult time 
OP it's hard I get it, you are not being unreasonable to struggle to deal with it. Unfortunately you just have to try and trust him to make decisions he feels is right. Try not to worry too much about the future either no one knows how it'll all turn out x
Oh op I just read your update what a nasty piece of work he is. That's not normal or OK in any context. He's an abuser. You deserve much better and it will come in time and when you're ready. Please if his relationship does or does not work out do not have sex with him again; he's using you. Your confidence has taken a severe 15yr battering. Uni hopefully will open up a whole new world for you and build your confidence at the same time give yourself time to grow and become your own person. Sending hugs.
With regards original OP totally understandable feelings that many Mums (and Dad's who I assume feel awful at another man moving in with their child) go through. Things there will get easier it will just take time. Although if he insults her the way he does you I'm hoping she kicks him into touch fast!
My exH moved in with his new GF a month after we separated. She has two DC of her own and the youngest’s dad had literally moved out a few days before my exh moved in , very Jeremy Kyle. She isn’t a very nice woman and her DC aren’t great either. As a result exH has all but lost his relationship with our DC to protect his relationship with her, pathetic. I don’t say any of this through jealousy or whatever, she shouts and swears for very little reason and has even hit my DC before. Our DC don’t have a bed there and are expected to sleep on the floor as if it’s the 19th century. Also only have a two bedroom house so her two DC and my three DC are expected to share which isn’t appropriate the older they get.
Anyway my overall point is that you sadly can’t prevent him introducing anyone to your DC however seriously thank your lucky stars if she is a nice woman who tries hard with your DC. All you can ask is that they feel happy and secure. Don’t fret about the holidays abroad and such, it’s great sure but kids actually care more about feeling loved and safe.
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