Feeling really saddened tonight.
DDs phone has been beeping all night. She is aged 11.
She had been out to her local youth group, come home and had a nice evening chilling with us all. She has been oblivious to her phone and gone to bed. However all night long her phone has been beeping from two different social groups.
One group, classmates from her old school, with a girl having taken a video of another old school friend who appears to have made an error of judgement in this other girl’s eyes regarding how to be her friend and is contacting others separately within the friendship group spreading bad things about her, but from what I can tell it was just arranging a play date with another girl. This girl appears to feel snubbed that is all. The bile that is pouring out of this girl’s mind at 11pm on a Friday night is worrying. Such hatred towards a girl for what appears to be no reason. Such a mixed up mind.
On the second group, from her new school, is a girl also aged 11 egging a peer to come on the her teenage babysitter who is a boy. That she knows she wants to, that she personally does it all the time.
This is all sent to a text group of 20 class mates.
I feel utterly devastated at this. This is not unusual behaviour from one of these groups. At least once a month something as awful as this happens.
I wish I could ban the phone and go back to simpler ways of friendship however it appears to be their only communication channel with one another now. That everyone has a phone. If I can it I effectively ostracise her from her new and old friends.
I have taken the phone away from the downstairs chairing unit where my daughter will often reach for it at 7:30am when she wakes on a weekend to chill out, start catching up with her friends after a busy week at school. I just can’t stand the thought of her lovely young innocent mind being disturbed by these awful mixed up tweens at the point she wakes up.
I just feel sad at the insecurities going around in these girl’s minds. I need to talk this through with my daughter but feel so ill equipped.
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TheCherries · 09/03/2019 01:20
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