ahhh.. this is one of them in law threads.
I was enjoying my little victory year, having moved out of my in laws house after huge drama and obsessive attempts to invade my privacy by MIL and her little gang of a family . Currently signed up to therapy so I can recover from the trauma they caused me.
Used to love them. Until they became so enmeshed in my life that they want to make every decision for me, and run through my daily tasks..
Then when I stood up for myself I found out how toxic they are. Their reaction showed me how little respect they had for me.
Took me a year to find my flat which we are buying with a mortgage. It’s around 1hr away from them. Such a blessing.
I get to see them once a month and DH sees them more often but without dragging me.. we working sooo perfectly...
I have a toddler and I did want to keep the good relations. I’m a massive fan of big family set ups and grandmas being involved in their grandkids life and in fact it is me who is mourning the loss of that due to finding out how nasty they can get. So I limited contacted but keep their relationship with my son reasonably loving so he doesnt miss out... gritting my teeth and all that.
They announced today that they’re selling their flat and moving next door...
That’s literally the end of my peaceful living.. they gave us a timeline and it is quite soon that they want DH to dedicate time and energy to help them find the perfect flat on our street...
Not sure where I’m going with this, AIBU to invest my next month trying to find better deals on another planet ?
Orrrrrr... shall I take that time to say goodbye to my peaceful life.
She keeps saying how she wants me to have another baby and then go to work and let her raise them.. now I used to think I’m the luckiest daughter in law for such offers until I realised she literally means possessing my child, wiping me out of their existence... she has an extreme level of toxic competition it engulfs her life.
I’m gonna have to live a new life of saying “no” to every request and dealing with huge drama and bullying after.
She has a lot of leverage over my husband. She orchestrated to be this way. She bullies him for it... I can’t share the details but plz be assured that she does. He is seeking therapy too.
What shall I do 😥
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LifeIsToughMate · 08/03/2019 22:59
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