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Not to make my kids put on 'home clothes' after school?

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youngfarmer Fri 08-Mar-19 20:07:13

I have 3 girls; when they were at primary school there was never any point really because by the time I'd picked them up from childminder/friends house on the way home from work it was pretty much time for dinner and then bath/bedtime, no point in dirtying more clothes.
I guess that these habits have stayed with them though even now the eldest 2 are at high school. They stay in uniform if they're staying in, or maybe just put a hoody on over their shirt&tie if they're going out with friends.
Only occurred to me because I was just watching something on TV where the kids had got in from school and rushed to change, then looked around at my 3 lolling around in their school uniforms still. Anyone else's teens do this or am I just a very bad mother? blush

cherrryontop Fri 08-Mar-19 22:16:39

Pjs are for sleeping, no way I would allow her to wear it for hours in the house. I also hate the look in general.

Pjs are the best!! Once we are in for the rest of the day we all change to pjs. So comfy!

SlangBack Fri 08-Mar-19 22:14:00

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Boyskeepswinging Fri 08-Mar-19 22:12:25

This didn't end well last time hmm

happymummy12345 Fri 08-Mar-19 22:09:54

My son is at pre school nursery and wears uniform. I always get him changed when we get home. I will insist he gets changed when he's at school as well. Keep uniform for school.
I always got changed as soon as I got home from school (why would I want to stay in uniform, I hated wearing it as it was).

youngfarmer Fri 08-Mar-19 22:04:55

So I guess it maybe depends on what you did as a child too? Primary I never bothered and then I was at boarding school from 11-18 (not wealthy, just shit family circumstances so it gave me and my siblings stability). We had to keep uniform on until after homework was done and after that I could never be bothered to change so just kept it on.
When my DDs were younger there was no point in sending extra clothes to the CM so they just stayed in scruffy shirts/ties and holey tights until bedtime and had clean on the next day. The eldest 2 get home from high school between 5-5.30 and do homework straight away then they either help make dinner, walk the dog or other jobs, so by the time that's done/eaten/cleared there's not much point. They obviously feel comfortable in it because it looks as smart at 10pm as it does when they put it on for school

Upsy1981 Fri 08-Mar-19 22:02:37

In primary, I didn't bother. Now DD is in high school, I do try to encourage her to change as don't want dinner down her blazer or for it to look all crumpled. But it doesn't always happen and I'm not too bothered. DH gets changed as soon as he walks in (suit, shirt, tie). I just stick my dressing gown on over my clothes and put PJs on at some point during the evening. So a bit of everything here.

PurplePotatoes Fri 08-Mar-19 21:57:43

I have 5 sets of uniform so only ask DD5 to change straightaway on a Friday so that I can get it all washed straightaway and ironed on Sat.

Mari50 Fri 08-Mar-19 21:53:56

I get changed after work and so does my dd(10), I hate wearing work clothes at home and shells a messy moo and I’d prefer she spills stuff down her ‘normal’ clothes than her uniform- despite the fact I have enough uniform for 6 days without washing....

Pinkbells Fri 08-Mar-19 21:49:42

I leave it up to them to choose. At the start of the week I make sure there are always 5 sets of uniform each so always clean each morning whether or not they need it, just bung it all in the wash at the end of the day. Sometimes if they are going out they change into 'own' clothes, but otherwise they keep the uniform on until it's time for shower/bath and pyjamas.

kateandme Fri 08-Mar-19 21:37:51

youngfarmer this wouldn't ever make you a bad mother luvey.dont be so hard on yourself.and NEVER COMPARE to others you will always find a way to come up short as a mum when comparing to others.

Bananasarenottheonlyfruit Fri 08-Mar-19 21:36:19

Hell, no! Mine would just get their supper down a set of home clothes as well as the mud stains down their uniform! The only expensive bit of their uniform is their blazers, so we have enough shirts and trousers for clean every day if needs be. I don’t want dirty home clothes to deal with as well. Life is too short for that amount of laundry!

kateandme Fri 08-Mar-19 21:30:38

im trying to remember what we wasn't a 'rule' as in cruel.i guess it was mostly done that we would change at some point but im wreckoning it was more to get more than one day out of uniform.
but I can remember more often than not slobbing around in uniform the whole time afterschool.
we also played out a lot with our neighbours so I think this had lots to do with needing to change.
we did moan about it though!god we were such gits to my mum.
my brother im looking at you "go and get changed." "nope" go upstairs and get changed".....he went upstairs and stayed there in his uniform haha.mum gave up by him!

southnownorth Fri 08-Mar-19 21:27:08

Both mine usually put their pyjamas on if they are not leaving the house again.

youngfarmer Fri 08-Mar-19 21:24:59

Nobody's told me I'm a bad mother, it's me judging myself by what others do!

Bluelonerose Fri 08-Mar-19 21:23:04

At primary school I make them get changed. Means that clothes can be hung up for the next day/washed and dried for the next day as needed.

Secondary I'm not fussed coz they know I won't be washing it if they mess it up (excluding accidents) but both my dc hate being in school uniform anyway and get changed as soon as they get in most days any way.

GummyGoddess Fri 08-Mar-19 21:20:23

I imagine that I would ask them to change because DH and I both change into 'comfortables' (baggy old trousers) when at home. Easier to lounge around in and less annoying if they get dirty. If they were already a bit grubby and didn't want to change I don't think I would care that much, if they want to be uncomfortable they can crack on.

2rachtint Fri 08-Mar-19 21:18:02

I don't make my children change and they rarely do unless it's to put on dressing up clothes. When I was a teenager I never changed if I was staying home but sometimes changed my jumper so I could give my light coloured cat a cuddle without getting her hairs all over me!

HateIsNotGood Fri 08-Mar-19 21:15:05

Whatever works for you and your dcs is fine. I always changed ds out of any nursery/school clothes straight away and always myself whenever I had work uniform (or clothes covered in work-shit).

But that's me and You is You. Did someone try and say you were a bad parent because of this? They can go do one.

RoseMartha Fri 08-Mar-19 21:14:36

We all change when we get in. The kids do not have enough uniform for clean everyday and are messy even at secondary age!

GetOffTheTableMabel Fri 08-Mar-19 21:12:27

Dds are 18 & 13 now and I have always insisted that they change when they get in. Their uniforms are quite expensive so we don’t have that much of it. It can’t be tumbledried and it just isn’t that easy to turn it around if they spill something on it. I’m just too cheap to let them slouch about in it.

stuckinagut Fri 08-Mar-19 21:11:32

At the moment my 5 year old stays in uniform til bathtime, usually because he's so grubby anyway he'll need fresh uniform the next day or because there isn't much point changing into different clothes for an hr or so after we all get home late.

I wear smart casual to work but I still always like to change when I get home so I'll probably encourage kids to do it when they're older. Just feels better doesn't it - especially on Fridays!

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theyellowjumper Fri 08-Mar-19 21:08:55

My dcs have rarely changed after school. I used to suggest changing would be more comfortable but have given up as they've always preferred to stay in uniform, even a tie, unless going out somewhere. DD is in 6th form now with no uniform but she says she liked uniform as she didn't have to think about what she was wearing.

I don't think it matters much as long as they are comfortable, though it's interesting what ZippyBungle says about changing helping you get out of the stressful work/school mindset. I guess that is one reason why school have uniforms, to make students feel more formal and have a more serious attitude to work, so maybe changing could be relaxing for some?

VelvetPineapple Fri 08-Mar-19 21:07:47

I used to take mine off for A. Comfort. B. Keep it clean to wear again. C. Minimise wear and tear so it lasted longer.

45andahalf Fri 08-Mar-19 21:07:35

I never get comments like “pjs are for sleeping in”. What’s the difference between pjs or sweatpants/yoga pants? Provided you don’t actually wear the same ones you slept in during the day.

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