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AIBU?

To have time off work as nan is I’ll

54 replies

Evilorange · 08/03/2019 15:29

I don’t think they are pleased

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formerbabe · 08/03/2019 15:30

Really not a lot to go on Confused

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daisypond · 08/03/2019 15:31

We need more info. Do you have caring responsibilities? Are you trying to get paid or unpaid time off, etc? How long for?

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Sirzy · 08/03/2019 15:31

More detail needed but yes you quite likely are, especially if expecting to be paid!

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missmouse101 · 08/03/2019 15:33

I'll? Is that ill? How much time are you hoping to take? What job do you do?

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Drum2018 · 08/03/2019 15:35

Are you the only person available to mind her?

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LostwithSawyer · 08/03/2019 15:39

Even unpaid time away from work for a grandmother is pushing the boat.
My employers policy does allow time off for immediate family only and even then it's at their discretion.

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cuppycakey · 08/03/2019 15:40

Difficult to tell with such brief info, but on the face of it, yes YABU

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Evilorange · 08/03/2019 15:51

Why unreasonable?

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Halloumimuffin · 08/03/2019 15:51

Noone knows why unreasonable, you haven't said anything

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MakeLemonade · 08/03/2019 15:53

Agree more info needed.

Grandparents tend to be old and therefore ill relatively frequently, if everyone was to take time off every time a grandparent was ill that’d be unsustainable for most businesses.

If she’s very seriously ill, you’re her main carer and this is the first time it’s happened then YANBU.

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Frecklesonmyarm · 08/03/2019 15:54

It would totally depend on circumstances.

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 08/03/2019 15:56

Im assuming the issue is you want paid leave whereas your company states you need take annual leave- in which case YABU.

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MissingPanda · 08/03/2019 15:58

We need more detail. Are you her carer? Is this the first time you've asked for a day off? Is she elderly, has disabilities, generally in good/bad health? What sort of job do you do? Does your job need covering or will it still be waiting until you get back? How much time do you need off?

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Floralnomad · 08/03/2019 16:01

YABU to expect answers when you have given such little information .

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RUOKHUN · 08/03/2019 16:04

Is this just a normal illness as part of getting older? Are you her carer? Sorry to be crude but is she expected to pass?

I think YWBU if it’s, for example, diabetes that she’s mismanaged due to age and she’ll be alright in a couple of days. But if this is a chance to say goodbye then YWNBU. Totally depends.

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JenniferJareau · 08/03/2019 16:04

No one can tell you if you are being unreasonable unless more details are provided.

  1. Do you expect the time to be paid?
  2. Are you her carer?
  3. Did you give them advanced warning or just didn't go into work?


Etc.
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shaggedthruahedgebackwards · 08/03/2019 16:05

As other have said its impossible to judge without more info

How ill is she?
Are you regularly involved in her care?
How much time do you want off work?
Would leave be paid or unpaid?

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Pinkbells · 08/03/2019 16:08

If she is gravely ill then it would be pretty mean of your employer not to allow you time off work.

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PiebaldHamster · 08/03/2019 16:12

Need more info.

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Nowthenforever2019 · 08/03/2019 16:13

It's not automatically reasonable, no. You have a contract you deliver a certain join for so many hours a week. You are allowed time off that job for certain reasons if eligible - if you have a dependents policy and have caring responsibilities, for example. But it all depends on the wording of your contract and the orgs policies, plus your personal circumstances which you haven't explained here.

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Toooldtocareanymore · 08/03/2019 16:15

very unreasonable, why should they care if your Nan is ill, during work hours that's not your concern, you have a job presumably nothing to do with caring for your nan , they presumably have something that needs doing, you don't want to show up, then leave the job so they can fill position with someone else.

its one think letting people take compassionate leave, its entirely something else to expect employers to be happy about it..

hope Nan is feeling better soon.

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Lazypuppy · 08/03/2019 16:18

You could ask for unpaid. But will massively affect your attendance record, and this could cause them to manage you out on unacceptable absence levels

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hammeringinmyhead · 08/03/2019 16:20

If you are caring for her, fine. If you are just sad that she is ill, YABU.

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Namechangeforthiscancershit · 08/03/2019 16:22

Probably?

Other than that helpful answer, a lot more info needed!

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YahBasic · 08/03/2019 16:47

I’d be expecting to take urgent annual leave, particularly if your holiday calendar runs Jan-Dec, and only 1-2 maximum.

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